When do you start telling people?

With #1 I was 9 weeks before i had the courage to tell people. lol. Not sure why really, probably just 'cause i was 19 i guess. But we had been together for 4 years and he was planned. I made myself tell my family then since i was having a scan and thought they might wanna be there. I told them via text message. Hehe. So we told everyone else after that.

With #2 i told my family straight away, so at 4 weeks. Then we told everyone else too.

I had this conversation with DH yesterday. I want to get all excited and start telling everyone and he wants to wait. Told him I will wait one month. lol I will be 8 weeks.

I have let slip to my mum and my best friend simply to have someone to share it with.

DH doesn't want to get excited yet. After having to suspected m/c in the last 6 months I don't think he actually believes it yet.

With our first we were so over the moon that we told family at 6 weeks and our second has been any different although this time around it is the worst kept secret out so a lot more people than I was happy to know know.

I told our parents straight away as we'd been ttc for a while and my parents were visiting the week after I found out so we told them then.
Didn't tell work till 12 weeks.

I think it depends on people situation and the people you are choosing to tell.

my 2nd I kept it to myself only telling a close friend as ds1 was only 3-4mths just felt if i left it longer to tell people they wouldnt be so shocked at age gap.

last 2 babies we very much planned so I was so excited I told all my close friends as soon as i knew.

next time however we wont be telling anyone for a little while maybe the odd person but I want it to our little secret just for a while, dont think it will take long coz I cant keep my mouth shut.

Its really a personal decision when you start telling people, all I can say is do it when it feels right for you. Don't feel pressured by family and friends.

I told my Mum at about 4weeks, the rest of our families at about 7w, and a few close friends around 10w. I've only just told work this week at 14w. Like you CrazyCass I loved it being our wee secret, it kinda feels weird telling people!

Thanks everyone for all your feedback. Went to the doctor today so that bit is all done.

Hanging out with a close friend on Sunday (going to the museum with her kids) and she will be the first I tell (but I want to tell so many others!)

I had really bad MS with my first and ended up in hospital so we told people about 9 weeks. Had told parents before that.

Earlier this year I miscarried number 2 at 9.5 weeks. We had told some people but I'm glad we did. I needed the support and I'm pleased that people know that the baby existed.

I think up until 12 weeks my theory is I only tell people who I would need for support if somehting goes wrong.

With our first we were so excited and told our parents straight a way but not anyone else. Then I had a bleed and a dr told us that my son was no viable and I would need a D&C. We had a week and a half of waiting as we flat out refused without further tests. Turns out he was VERY viable! During that week our family tried to help us through the situation there was a lot of "what happens is meant to be" and "it will be for the best". This didn't help and made my tummy turn. This was my first child and I was excited and hopeful and things were falling apart and that was all our parents could say.

From my experiences I would say there is no correct time. It is often suggested after the first trimester so you are over the time when something is most likely to go wrong, however, if you feel you can deal with or would even want people's support then tell people that you feel you would want to support you and that you can trust.

There is no right or wrong answer just what suits you.

Hehe I'm a nurse and work for GP's kinda had to tell them early on cause they would have figured it out anyways. Plus I almost passed out in front of a patient lol.

Close friends we told early on, same with family. The extended family we didn't plan on telling till later but one of my grandfathers died when I was about 6 weeks and I told my Nanna who was so happy she told everyone!

There is no right or worng time it's really a matter of what you are comfortable with and what support you feel you need.