OHbaby! Forums : When do you start telling people? https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Thu, 07 May 2026 09:58:06 +0000 Tue, 12 Jul 2011 12:40:43 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=39586 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[When do you start telling people? : Ask yourself, if you had a mc...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1361352&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1361352 Author: buzylizy
Subject: 39586
Posted: 12 July 2011 at 12:40pm

Ask yourself, if you had a mc who would do you want to know and who do you want as support....tell only those and do it whenever you want.]]> Tue, 12 Jul 2011 12:40:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1361352&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1361352 <![CDATA[When do you start telling people? : Last time we told most people...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1358565&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1358565 Author: vixgirl
Subject: 39586
Posted: 06 July 2011 at 4:12pm

Last time we told most people after my scan at 6 weeks, this time we haven't told many people (family and a few close friends) and won't do til next scan, I've had a bit of bleeding and cramping so just want to make sure all ok. It's hard not telling people, i can't believe some people tell no one til 12 weeks that must be sooo hard!!]]> Wed, 06 Jul 2011 16:12:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1358565&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1358565 <![CDATA[When do you start telling people? : I told my sisters and my Mum straight...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1353851&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1353851 Author: KC82
Subject: 39586
Posted: 27 June 2011 at 6:36pm

I told my sisters and my Mum straight away, and my husband told one friend. We'll probably tell a couple of other friends at 10 weeks (cos we're going to Wellington and will see them there), and everyone else can wait til 12 or later. I sort of wish we hadn't told, as I'm so nervous, but I absolutely wanted my mum and sisters to know either way.

Fingers crossed I get to tell everyone else in a few weeks!]]> Mon, 27 Jun 2011 18:36:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1353851&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1353851 <![CDATA[When do you start telling people? : So far have told 2 friends, as...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1352964&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1352964 Author: Inkedpixie
Subject: 39586
Posted: 25 June 2011 at 6:19pm

So far have told 2 friends, as they knew we were dealing with infertility issues, haven't told any other friends or family yet. Want to get a blood test next week to confirm and then will tell other friends. We will DF's sons in a couple of weeks - it's a bit tricky seeing as I teach at the school they attend so it'll be out in the open very quickly once they start sharing with friends, but I'd rather they know early rather than make them wait and possibly hear rumours through the school community (shockingly gossipy school).
It's nice to see I'm not the only person who struggles to keep it on the downlow till 12 weeks, don't know how people do it! ]]> Sat, 25 Jun 2011 18:19:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1352964&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1352964 <![CDATA[When do you start telling people? : My folks, DH&#039;s folks, my...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1352331&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1352331 Author: kelzie_rose
Subject: 39586
Posted: 24 June 2011 at 10:34am

My folks, DH's folks, my two best mates and my small team at work got told as soon as I found out, as they were all super supportive through my three miscarriages (hard to hide miscarriages at work when you start bleeding badly and need to go home!) Also, as I found out that I was pregnant after being admitted to hospital with self-diagnosed appendicitis. (My appendix was fine!)]]> Fri, 24 Jun 2011 10:34:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1352331&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1352331 <![CDATA[When do you start telling people? : Hehe I&#039;m a nurse and work...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1349064&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1349064 Author: MrsMJD
Subject: 39586
Posted: 18 June 2011 at 7:11pm

Hehe I'm a nurse and work for GP's kinda had to tell them early on cause they would have figured it out anyways. Plus I almost passed out in front of a patient lol.

Close friends we told early on, same with family. The extended family we didn't plan on telling till later but one of my grandfathers died when I was about 6 weeks and I told my Nanna who was so happy she told everyone!

There is no right or worng time it's really a matter of what you are comfortable with and what support you feel you need.]]> Sat, 18 Jun 2011 19:11:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1349064&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1349064 <![CDATA[When do you start telling people? : with both preganacies I have told...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1348943&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1348943 Author: Flossie
Subject: 39586
Posted: 18 June 2011 at 2:57pm

with both preganacies I have told close family and friends straight away as I would want them to know reguardless of what happens. Both times a few close people at work knew but kept it secret.

12 weeks told everyone else that didnt already know.

]]> Sat, 18 Jun 2011 14:57:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1348943&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1348943 <![CDATA[When do you start telling people? : With our first we were so excited...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1348898&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1348898 Author: Guest_43647
Subject: 39586
Posted: 18 June 2011 at 12:27pm

With our first we were so excited and told our parents straight a way but not anyone else. Then I had a bleed and a dr told us that my son was no viable and I would need a D&C. We had a week and a half of waiting as we flat out refused without further tests. Turns out he was VERY viable! During that week our family tried to help us through the situation there was a lot of "what happens is meant to be" and "it will be for the best". This didn't help and made my tummy turn. This was my first child and I was excited and hopeful and things were falling apart and that was all our parents could say.

From my experiences I would say there is no correct time. It is often suggested after the first trimester so you are over the time when something is most likely to go wrong, however, if you feel you can deal with or would even want people's support then tell people that you feel you would want to support you and that you can trust.

There is no right or wrong answer just what suits you.]]> Sat, 18 Jun 2011 12:27:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1348898&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1348898 <![CDATA[When do you start telling people? : rorylex wrote:I think it depends...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1348830&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1348830 Author: Cinderella
Subject: 39586
Posted: 18 June 2011 at 9:43am

Originally posted by rorylex rorylex wrote:

I think it depends on people situation and the people you are choosing to tell.

my 2nd I kept it to myself only telling a close friend as ds1 was only 3-4mths just felt if i left it longer to tell people they wouldnt be so shocked at age gap.

last 2 babies we very much planned so I was so excited I told all my close friends as soon as i knew.

next time however we wont be telling anyone for a little while maybe the odd person but I want it to our little secret just for a while, dont think it will take long coz I cant keep my mouth shut.


Hey just noticed you have 4 boys. So do we. Have you been checking out all of the girlie stuff like I have?

I have a big mouth. Have told a few people.]]> Sat, 18 Jun 2011 09:43:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1348830&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1348830 <![CDATA[When do you start telling people? : I had really bad MS with my first...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1348644&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1348644 Author: Bexee
Subject: 39586
Posted: 17 June 2011 at 8:54pm

I had really bad MS with my first and ended up in hospital so we told people about 9 weeks. Had told parents before that.

Earlier this year I miscarried number 2 at 9.5 weeks. We had told some people but I'm glad we did. I needed the support and I'm pleased that people know that the baby existed.

I think up until 12 weeks my theory is I only tell people who I would need for support if somehting goes wrong.
]]> Fri, 17 Jun 2011 20:54:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1348644&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1348644 <![CDATA[When do you start telling people? : You should do some pretend gagging...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1347798&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1347798 Author: AandCsmum
Subject: 39586
Posted: 16 June 2011 at 2:09pm

You should do some pretend gagging & see if she guesses

I told family early on, after keeping the secret at work for so long it was actually weird having to tell them.]]> Thu, 16 Jun 2011 14:09:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1347798&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1347798 <![CDATA[When do you start telling people? : Thanks everyone for all your feedback....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1347772&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1347772 Author: kiwiking
Subject: 39586
Posted: 16 June 2011 at 1:14pm

Thanks everyone for all your feedback. Went to the doctor today so that bit is all done.

Hanging out with a close friend on Sunday (going to the museum with her kids) and she will be the first I tell (but I want to tell so many others!)]]> Thu, 16 Jun 2011 13:14:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1347772&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1347772 <![CDATA[When do you start telling people? : I told people quite early on with...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1347753&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1347753 Author: sweetknights
Subject: 39586
Posted: 16 June 2011 at 12:51pm

I told people quite early on with my last as I was so sick I don't think I could have hidden it with the second we waited until after the 12 week scan and with my first i told everyone pretty early on ]]> Thu, 16 Jun 2011 12:51:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1347753&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1347753 <![CDATA[When do you start telling people? : Its really a personal decision...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1347716&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1347716 Author: TwinnyBump
Subject: 39586
Posted: 16 June 2011 at 11:49am

Its really a personal decision when you start telling people, all I can say is do it when it feels right for you. Don't feel pressured by family and friends.

I told my Mum at about 4weeks, the rest of our families at about 7w, and a few close friends around 10w. I've only just told work this week at 14w. Like you CrazyCass I loved it being our wee secret, it kinda feels weird telling people!
]]> Thu, 16 Jun 2011 11:49:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1347716&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1347716 <![CDATA[When do you start telling people? : We told a couple of friends that...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1347636&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1347636 Author: CrazyCass
Subject: 39586
Posted: 16 June 2011 at 9:58am

We told a couple of friends that we are close to initally... simply because My mum has a big mouth and we wanted to get past the 12w NT scan with the all clear before the world knew.

It was nice having our little secret - and it actully made telling people hard - there are still lots of friends & family we haven't told simply because we forget ]]> Thu, 16 Jun 2011 09:58:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1347636&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1347636 <![CDATA[When do you start telling people? : I think it depends on people situation...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1347345&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1347345 Author: rorylex
Subject: 39586
Posted: 15 June 2011 at 7:23pm

I think it depends on people situation and the people you are choosing to tell.

my 2nd I kept it to myself only telling a close friend as ds1 was only 3-4mths just felt if i left it longer to tell people they wouldnt be so shocked at age gap.

last 2 babies we very much planned so I was so excited I told all my close friends as soon as i knew.

next time however we wont be telling anyone for a little while maybe the odd person but I want it to our little secret just for a while, dont think it will take long coz I cant keep my mouth shut.]]> Wed, 15 Jun 2011 19:23:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1347345&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1347345 <![CDATA[When do you start telling people? : Family between 9 (mine) and DPs...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1347309&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1347309 Author: High9
Subject: 39586
Posted: 15 June 2011 at 6:37pm

Family between 9 (mine) and DPs (16 weeks VERY LATE!). We didn't tell friends until 20 weeks - gender. And I wasn't all that close with my dad so think I was about 25-27 weeks when I told him!

Pretty much tell who you feel comfortable telling and when you feel comfortable telling them. That was what we did. I honestly didn't feel the need to tell people and had a lot of fun with people going 'Is she? Isn't she?' ]]> Wed, 15 Jun 2011 18:37:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1347309&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1347309 <![CDATA[When do you start telling people? : I told our parents straight away...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1347066&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1347066 Author: caliandjack
Subject: 39586
Posted: 15 June 2011 at 1:42pm

I told our parents straight away as we'd been ttc for a while and my parents were visiting the week after I found out so we told them then.
Didn't tell work till 12 weeks.]]> Wed, 15 Jun 2011 13:42:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1347066&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1347066 <![CDATA[When do you start telling people? : i told my immediate family and...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1347034&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1347034 Author: choco69
Subject: 39586
Posted: 15 June 2011 at 1:05pm

i told my immediate family and a couple of friends straight away - then after my 7 week scan told another couple of people - after the NT scan I announced to the world!!! ]]> Wed, 15 Jun 2011 13:05:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1347034&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1347034 <![CDATA[When do you start telling people? : With our first we were so over...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1347010&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1347010 Author: Henna79
Subject: 39586
Posted: 15 June 2011 at 12:36pm

With our first we were so over the moon that we told family at 6 weeks and our second has been any different although this time around it is the worst kept secret out so a lot more people than I was happy to know know. ]]> Wed, 15 Jun 2011 12:36:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1347010&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1347010 <![CDATA[When do you start telling people? : We told our parents when we hit...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1346979&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1346979 Author: babygiraffe
Subject: 39586
Posted: 15 June 2011 at 12:10pm

We told our parents when we hit 8 weeks and have just told brothers/sisters and close friends (who know our history) at 9 weeks. I felt nervous telling them...as though we might jinx ourselves! We will tell more of our friends as I feel comfortable...so over the next few weeks and the rest of the world around 12 weeks ]]> Wed, 15 Jun 2011 12:10:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1346979&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1346979 <![CDATA[When do you start telling people? : I had this conversation with DH...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1346973&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1346973 Author: Cinderella
Subject: 39586
Posted: 15 June 2011 at 12:03pm

I had this conversation with DH yesterday. I want to get all excited and start telling everyone and he wants to wait. Told him I will wait one month. lol I will be 8 weeks.

I have let slip to my mum and my best friend simply to have someone to share it with.

DH doesn't want to get excited yet. After having to suspected m/c in the last 6 months I don't think he actually believes it yet.]]> Wed, 15 Jun 2011 12:03:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1346973&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1346973 <![CDATA[When do you start telling people? : I told my mum and best friend...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1346938&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1346938 Author: ....
Subject: 39586
Posted: 15 June 2011 at 11:11am

I told my mum and best friend straight away at around 5 weeks, just because I had to have someone to jump around and be excited with, and I knew those people would be the ones I needed most if anything went wrong.
]]> Wed, 15 Jun 2011 11:11:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1346938&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1346938 <![CDATA[When do you start telling people? : With #1 I was 9 weeks before i...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1346931&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1346931 Author: _Deb_
Subject: 39586
Posted: 15 June 2011 at 10:55am

With #1 I was 9 weeks before i had the courage to tell people. lol. Not sure why really, probably just 'cause i was 19 i guess. But we had been together for 4 years and he was planned. I made myself tell my family then since i was having a scan and thought they might wanna be there. I told them via text message. Hehe. So we told everyone else after that.

With #2 i told my family straight away, so at 4 weeks. Then we told everyone else too.]]> Wed, 15 Jun 2011 10:55:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1346931&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1346931 <![CDATA[When do you start telling people? : So far only DH and myself are...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1346892&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1346892 Author: kiwiking
Subject: 39586
Posted: 15 June 2011 at 9:46am

So far only DH and myself are in on our news (as well as you guys) and we're not confirming it with the doctor until tomorrow.

How far along did you wait before you told anyone? I'm including parents, closest friends, rather than the whole world. I'll be keeping it secret from work until 12 weeks and that includes colleagues as I'm not really best friends with anyone here.

I don't want to tell people right now as it's still too soon but another 7 weeks seems like such a long time!]]> Wed, 15 Jun 2011 09:46:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=39586&PID=1346892&title=when-do-you-start-telling-people#1346892