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Emmecat 
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Posted: 13 May 2010 at 5:09pm |
Is this done or not? Mum and I were just discussing it and initially both thought not...however when you look at it from a celebration on the impending birth of the baby, then why not have one for the second? I don't want gifts cos goodness knows I have enough stuff lol but more a nice afternoon tea and celebration IYKWIM?
I won't have to worry for a good few months yet lol but just curious what your thougths were........
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Posted: 13 May 2010 at 5:13pm |
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I didn't - I had quite a close age gap (22 months) and even if you say no presents people still bring presents and I didn't want my friends to feel like they had to fork out for baby presents two years in a row!
But I completely get your point, I don't see why you can't have one for the second baby in principle, they are just as much worth celebrating.
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Posted: 13 May 2010 at 5:17pm |
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I wouldn't have a baby shower for second baby - but an afternoon tea would be nice and instead of people bringing a present they could bring a plate instead? My friend did this as her baby was due close to Christmas and it ended up being really lovely.
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Posted: 13 May 2010 at 5:20pm |
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If you wanna have one just do it but make it spelt out very clear no pressys, just food and yourself or something like that.
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Posted: 13 May 2010 at 5:37pm |
I am having one, but this is because I was induced the day of mine last time  Dont really care about presents but wont knock them if they are given.....
I dont see a problem with it, each child is worthy of its own celebration I say!
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Posted: 13 May 2010 at 5:48pm |
I wasn't planning on one (thought it would be greedy!). But when I mentioned that to my best friend she was horrified and said I will at least be having afternoon tea 
I think a bunch of us will go out for high tea in a hotel. Since we will prob find out the sex now I reckon my friends will go nuts shopping if it's a girl ... but will be easier to convince them not to if bubs is a boy like I'm guessing :)
I agree that each baby is definitely worthy of its own celebration!
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Posted: 13 May 2010 at 5:50pm |
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i had two ..the second i made it clear no presents and noone bought any:) just afternoon tea..was fun..i made them all bring cake instead:)
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Posted: 13 May 2010 at 6:22pm |
I had one for Jae, but thats because with B I was living too far away from any of my friends and family, so they jumped at the chance to do one this time... not many people showed which was a shame cos we had a lot of fun!
I dont know if I will have a baby shower or not with #3... but I would prob have a girly 'high tea' afternoon thing and play some baby related games...
The 'bring a plate instead of a present' is a great idea, that way people dont feel stink for turning up empty-handed, and it means the organiser isnt stuck with the catering 
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Posted: 13 May 2010 at 6:35pm |
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I think I'll be having one for this baby as well by the sounds of it, but then our lives have changed a fair wack since I was last pregnant and it will be different people throwing it from a completely different circle of friends IYKWIM, and because they want to.
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Posted: 13 May 2010 at 7:07pm |
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What my friends and I have done each time one of us has been expecting #2 is to have a baby shower morning or afternoon tea and we have all taken a frozen meal for the expecting Mum. Its an awesome idea and we were so greatful to have some meals in the freezer to use in those first weeks!
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Posted: 13 May 2010 at 7:17pm |
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What a great idea Kellz!!
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Posted: 13 May 2010 at 7:26pm |
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Thats an awesome idea Kellz!
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Posted: 13 May 2010 at 7:30pm |
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Why not have one?! Maybe just don't call it a baby shower if you don't want people to feel they have to bring presents. A friend of mine just arranged a lunch out before her #2 and we all had a great time
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Posted: 13 May 2010 at 8:10pm |
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I wouldnt, i thought baby showers were only for your 1st baby. So people can buy you gifts etc to help set up for your future family etc.
I would have a get together with friends, have coffee and cakes etc.
Its kind of pointless anyway because all your close family & friends will buy you gifts regardless on if you have a baby shower or not
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Posted: 13 May 2010 at 8:14pm |
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I know quite a few people who have baby showers for the 2nd and everyone bought presents as well. I think the frozen meal is a great idea! or you could have a morning or afternoon tea and ask everyone to make cupcakes or something like that, instead of presents. Or another idea is if everyone wants to buy something get them to put a few dollars towards a mag subscription...such as OHbaby/
For me its not so much the present, but the baby shower present and then another present once baby is born, it gets quite expensive.
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Posted: 13 May 2010 at 8:34pm |
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im having a shower for my second! didn't have one for my first though - i left it too late the first time round and just couldn't face it! Im having a girl this time, so do need girly stuff - had a boy for my first. Am having a girly morning tea, and I don't expect people to bring a plate. i say if you want to have another shower, go for it! Each new baby can do with a few new things, and a wee stretch and gro or whatever doesn't cost the earth. If i bought someone a baby shower present i wouldn't give another at the birth, but would take around a meal after baby born. Love the idea about bringing a frozen meal to the shower! Most people don't have that many kids, this stage in your life will be over before you know it, so celebrate each one!
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Posted: 13 May 2010 at 10:44pm |
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What about rather than a baby shower a post baby meet the baby celebration... or I like Kellz idea. Or even a Up the duff celebration rather than the focus being on the baby and buying baby stuff but celebrating the pregnancy? Yea i'm not so good with these ideas lol but do what you feel is right in the end, your pregnancy, your baby, your friends and family, your choice. I always think that your friends and family know you, and you know them so just whatever is appropriate for you rather than what is "socially right"
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Posted: 14 May 2010 at 9:07am |
Wow there's some great feedback and ideas here...thanks ladies!
Yeah I probably wouldn't call it a baby shower TBH as I *really* don't want/need any gifts but the frozen meal idea sounds great...and just an afternoon tea to celebrate baby coming I think is nice. So I shall do it but put my thinking cap on first to come up with a different name rather than 'shower' lol
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Posted: 14 May 2010 at 10:48am |
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I don't like baby showers for 2nd babies as fell its present gathering but I did want to catch up with all my girlfriends before the baby arrived so I had a dessert evening when my hubby was away fishing.
I never said it was a baby shower and sent out a text instead of an invite. It was awesome to catch up and chat without the "baby shower" tag.
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Posted: 14 May 2010 at 3:37pm |
I think you should its a nice chance to catch up with people before bubs is born.
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