Baby shower for 2nd bubs?
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Topic: Baby shower for 2nd bubs?
Posted By: Emmecat
Subject: Baby shower for 2nd bubs?
Date Posted: 13 May 2010 at 5:09pm
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Is this done or not? Mum and I were just discussing it and initially both thought not...however when you look at it from a celebration on the impending birth of the baby, then why not have one for the second? I don't want gifts cos goodness knows I have enough stuff lol but more a nice afternoon tea and celebration IYKWIM? I won't have to worry for a good few months yet lol but just curious what your thougths were........ -------------   http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Febgirl
Date Posted: 13 May 2010 at 5:13pm
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I didn't - I had quite a close age gap (22 months) and even if you say no presents people still bring presents and I didn't want my friends to feel like they had to fork out for baby presents two years in a row!
But I completely get your point, I don't see why you can't have one for the second baby in principle, they are just as much worth celebrating. ------------- Two little girls under 2! 
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Posted By: Red
Date Posted: 13 May 2010 at 5:17pm
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I wouldn't have a baby shower for second baby - but an afternoon tea would be nice and instead of people bringing a present they could bring a plate instead? My friend did this as her baby was due close to Christmas and it ended up being really lovely. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 13 May 2010 at 5:20pm
| If you wanna have one just do it but make it spelt out very clear no pressys, just food and yourself or something like that. |
Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 13 May 2010 at 5:37pm
I am having one, but this is because I was induced the day of mine last time Dont really care about presents but wont knock them if they are given.....
I dont see a problem with it, each child is worthy of its own celebration I say! -------------   
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Posted By: kiwisj
Date Posted: 13 May 2010 at 5:48pm
I wasn't planning on one (thought it would be greedy!). But when I mentioned that to my best friend she was horrified and said I will at least be having afternoon tea 
I think a bunch of us will go out for high tea in a hotel. Since we will prob find out the sex now I reckon my friends will go nuts shopping if it's a girl ... but will be easier to convince them not to if bubs is a boy like I'm guessing :) I agree that each baby is definitely worthy of its own celebration! ------------- SJ Callum - Dec 2008 Daniel - Oct 2010 |
Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 13 May 2010 at 5:50pm
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i had two ..the second i made it clear no presents and noone bought any:) just afternoon tea..was fun..i made them all bring cake instead:) ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: Babykatnz
Date Posted: 13 May 2010 at 6:22pm
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I had one for Jae, but thats because with B I was living too far away from any of my friends and family, so they jumped at the chance to do one this time... not many people showed which was a shame cos we had a lot of fun!
I dont know if I will have a baby shower or not with #3... but I would prob have a girly 'high tea' afternoon thing and play some baby related games... The 'bring a plate instead of a present' is a great idea, that way people dont feel stink for turning up empty-handed, and it means the organiser isnt stuck with the catering  ------------- Brandon - 05/12/2003  
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Posted By: flakesitchyfeet
Date Posted: 13 May 2010 at 6:35pm
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I think I'll be having one for this baby as well by the sounds of it, but then our lives have changed a fair wack since I was last pregnant and it will be different people throwing it from a completely different circle of friends IYKWIM, and because they want to. -------------  http://lilypie.com"> |
Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 13 May 2010 at 7:07pm
| What my friends and I have done each time one of us has been expecting #2 is to have a baby shower morning or afternoon tea and we have all taken a frozen meal for the expecting Mum. Its an awesome idea and we were so greatful to have some meals in the freezer to use in those first weeks! |
Posted By: kiwisj
Date Posted: 13 May 2010 at 7:17pm
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What a great idea Kellz!! ------------- SJ Callum - Dec 2008 Daniel - Oct 2010 |
Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 13 May 2010 at 7:26pm
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Thats an awesome idea Kellz! -------------
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Posted By: myfullhouse
Date Posted: 13 May 2010 at 7:30pm
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Why not have one?! Maybe just don't call it a baby shower if you don't want people to feel they have to bring presents. A friend of mine just arranged a lunch out before her #2 and we all had a great time ------------- Lindsey 
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Posted By: _SMS_
Date Posted: 13 May 2010 at 8:10pm
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I wouldnt, i thought baby showers were only for your 1st baby. So people can buy you gifts etc to help set up for your future family etc.
I would have a get together with friends, have coffee and cakes etc. Its kind of pointless anyway because all your close family & friends will buy you gifts regardless on if you have a baby shower or not -------------  
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Posted By: BeLoved
Date Posted: 13 May 2010 at 8:14pm
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I know quite a few people who have baby showers for the 2nd and everyone bought presents as well. I think the frozen meal is a great idea! or you could have a morning or afternoon tea and ask everyone to make cupcakes or something like that, instead of presents. Or another idea is if everyone wants to buy something get them to put a few dollars towards a mag subscription...such as OHbaby/
For me its not so much the present, but the baby shower present and then another present once baby is born, it gets quite expensive. |
Posted By: Ashleigh
Date Posted: 13 May 2010 at 8:34pm
| im having a shower for my second! didn't have one for my first though - i left it too late the first time round and just couldn't face it! Im having a girl this time, so do need girly stuff - had a boy for my first. Am having a girly morning tea, and I don't expect people to bring a plate. i say if you want to have another shower, go for it! Each new baby can do with a few new things, and a wee stretch and gro or whatever doesn't cost the earth. If i bought someone a baby shower present i wouldn't give another at the birth, but would take around a meal after baby born. Love the idea about bringing a frozen meal to the shower! Most people don't have that many kids, this stage in your life will be over before you know it, so celebrate each one! |
Posted By: Lexidore
Date Posted: 13 May 2010 at 10:44pm
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What about rather than a baby shower a post baby meet the baby celebration... or I like Kellz idea. Or even a Up the duff celebration rather than the focus being on the baby and buying baby stuff but celebrating the pregnancy? Yea i'm not so good with these ideas lol but do what you feel is right in the end, your pregnancy, your baby, your friends and family, your choice. I always think that your friends and family know you, and you know them so just whatever is appropriate for you rather than what is "socially right" ------------- 
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Posted By: Emmecat
Date Posted: 14 May 2010 at 9:07am
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Wow there's some great feedback and ideas here...thanks ladies! Yeah I probably wouldn't call it a baby shower TBH as I *really* don't want/need any gifts but the frozen meal idea sounds great...and just an afternoon tea to celebrate baby coming I think is nice. So I shall do it but put my thinking cap on first to come up with a different name rather than 'shower' lol ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: Peanut
Date Posted: 14 May 2010 at 10:48am
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I don't like baby showers for 2nd babies as fell its present gathering but I did want to catch up with all my girlfriends before the baby arrived so I had a dessert evening when my hubby was away fishing.
I never said it was a baby shower and sent out a text instead of an invite. It was awesome to catch up and chat without the "baby shower" tag. |
Posted By: HuntersMama
Date Posted: 14 May 2010 at 3:37pm
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I think you should its a nice chance to catch up with people before bubs is born. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: TheKelly
Date Posted: 14 May 2010 at 6:48pm
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Haven't read other replies yet
I had one for both my babies (big age gap mind ) and i'll have one for the next one, if I had 10 kids, I would have one for each , not to get gifts, but as a way of getting the people I love together in one place ,for the sheer purpose of saying " hey baby, you might not be the firstborn, but you are the first and only YOU there will ever be and we are so excited about meeting you because we all already love you so much " ------------- 
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Posted By: MamaMore
Date Posted: 14 May 2010 at 7:16pm
| I didn't have one for my 1st baby so didn't see the point having one for my 2nd. |
Posted By: Lexidore
Date Posted: 14 May 2010 at 8:34pm
Well put Kelly! -------------
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TheKelly wrote:Posted By: queenbean
Date Posted: 14 May 2010 at 9:41pm
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Awwww, that's so sweet Kelly! -------------   
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Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 14 May 2010 at 9:44pm
Thats beautiful I say do it if you're wanting to get people together. 
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Posted By: tiptoes
Date Posted: 15 May 2010 at 5:06pm
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Two of my friends have had afternoon teas and just phrased it something like to celebrate the arrival of their new baby. So didn't call it a shower but still having a celebration for the new baby. Lots of us still took pressies too, cause why not, it's still special even if it's the 2nd one. ------------- http://alterna-tickers.com">  
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Posted By: gypsynita
Date Posted: 15 May 2010 at 7:57pm
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yeah i don't think the pressie thing is such a biggie - like someone else said, most people will buy you a pressie when bubs is born anyway. if i've bought someone a pressie for their baby shower i don't get them something else when bubs is born, and neither do any of my friends (maybe a card, flowers or baking though)...
having said that, still not sure if i'm going to do the shower thing this time round! ------------- Anita Mum to Cian (Aug 08), Josh (Jun 10) http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: mrsturtle
Date Posted: 15 May 2010 at 8:31pm
| I didnt have one for the first as we were living away from our good friends and family, i dont plan on having one this time but i think my sil has different ideas! |
Posted By: PorterLou
Date Posted: 24 October 2011 at 3:54pm
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Hi all
I have a question about this - I'm throwing a shower for my sister-in-law-to-be and this is her second. They were living in the UK when number one was born (18 months ago). Its more of a catch up for her and her NZ friends. She has asked for no gifts, but perhaps for people to bring afternoon tea. Is this wording ok? Dear xx Please join MUM2BE on xxx for an afternoon of tea and cake and catch up before the arrival of bubs. In lieu of gifts, please bring a plate to share for afternoon tea. Details (where, time) RSVP to "Me" by (3 days before?) Is it ok to have a couple of games? Or I was thinking a little sweepstake (DOB, sex, weight) given that they don't know what they're having. I don't know how to award a prize, though (or if I need to - maybe its just a fun thing to do?). Maybe getting the ladies to write their guesses on canvas, and maybe with a little message, for SIL2B to have for later (or is that tacky?). Maybe just messages on a canvas? -------------   
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Posted By: Babe
Date Posted: 24 October 2011 at 4:52pm
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I think that sounds good PL.
We had a sweepstake and everyone put their guess on one side and contact deets on the other so they could be contacted for a prize after baby arrived. Could you have a combined babyshower? And then have maybe a tshirt for baby #1 and a all-in-one for baby #2 with fabric pens for people to leave messages on? Since I'm assuming nobody got to celebrate baby #1 with them since they were overseas. We got a canvas with messages welcoming the baby so maybe you could have one for each of your SILs kids? Or just the baby if you don't do a combined party. IMO games are awesome lol but thats coz I like winning  what about some word games if they're a quieter bunch? Or you could just go all out and do the team game where one person feeds the other person baby food while blindfolded then they swap and the other person feeds the original person a bottle of fizzy while blinfolded hahahaha omg I love that game! In fact I would have a baby shower JUST for that game!!!
Otherwise you could just have a proper afternoon tea theme like http://www.rookno17.com/2010/07/tea-time-baby-shower-recipes-crafts-and.html - this with would make it special without rowdier games
Anywho hope some of that helps -------------   
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Posted By: PorterLou
Date Posted: 24 October 2011 at 5:12pm
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Babe, thanks so much for those ideas, I love the t-shirt and all in one idea!! Totally going to do that! I'm not sure if big sister will come. some of the invitees have children, and I know she wants this as a catch up which probably includes with children.
etd - posted before adding this link http://pregnancy.about.com/cs/blessingway/a/aa102202a.htm - Mother Blessing I found this - this is a nice idea too -------------
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Posted By: PorterLou
Date Posted: 24 October 2011 at 5:15pm
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Oh yeah, and in my searching for ideas I found this site: http://www.babyshower101.com/forums/index.php?action=vthread&forum=8&topic=571 - Tatum (halfway down the page) - OMG 100 guests to a baby shower!!! We aren't having that many to our wedding!! -------------
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Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 24 October 2011 at 6:41pm
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OK, I feel a bit friendless now! I don't think I could muster up 100 people to invite to a shower! Well... I could... but I think a few of them might be more than a little surprised to get an invite -------------   
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Posted By: Babe
Date Posted: 24 October 2011 at 8:50pm
Lol Hopes yeah sheesh 100 people!!! I just think like WHY??? Its a baby shower... which means you're pregnant... which automatically infers discomfort, excessive tiredness, nausea if you're me  , awkwardness with every move... WHY would you subject yourself to a baby shower where you have to be nice to so.many.people??!!!
PL yay glad it helped!! If you have kids coming you could always get them their own canvas and do handprints for the baby/s. For our wedding we had a big board and I painted a tree trunk on it. We had different coloured ink and everyone put their thumb/fingerprint on the tree as leaves along with their name and man its the coolest thing ever!!! You could have a canvas with a tree trunk and have any kids place their handprints as leaves along with their names. Also have some play stations like an area with blocks, an area with crayons and paper, a dvd going if you have a spare room... We do that whenever we have family stuff and it just makes it easier knowing the kids aren't bored brainless in someone elses house. Hope it goes well!!! -------------
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Posted By: LivMcD
Date Posted: 25 October 2011 at 8:43am
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I am definitly having a shower for my second as some one said why does only the first born get a celebration and plus not just for the presents but for getting the girls together and having an afternoon of games, gossiping etc lol ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: SethsMama
Date Posted: 25 October 2011 at 10:06am
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Just to put an idea out there.
I threw a diaper party for my best friends second baby. She didn't need any baby clothes so we decided everyone would just bring a bag of disposable diapers (different sizes so she didn't have too many newborn ones!) She didn't have to but any herself for 7 months after baby! though i guess this only works for spozies. ------------- 
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Posted By: newme
Date Posted: 25 October 2011 at 1:36pm
This could def work for cloth - ask everyone to either buy one nappy, or two people could buy a nappy together. |
Posted By: mummytobesep08
Date Posted: 25 October 2011 at 9:18pm
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I thought people didnt but have had about 4 friends talk about my baby shower this time. I think I'd rather go out for afternoon tea or have a shared one, and get them to bring food. Definitely put on the invites that gifts are not needed: put nicely like "In place of a gift, please bring a plate to share" or something.
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