Advice Plse - to actively TT or not

Here is some background:

Gabrielle has known when wees/poos are coming for many many months now. She can tell me before it happens and now often removes herself from the room before she does them (in her nappy).

She knows 100% what the toilet is for. She has been in with a friend of hers many times and tells me in detail about her friend "big girl knickers, wees on toilet" etc.

She brings me her potty book every day and wants us to read it.

I am convinced she is more than ready in every way.

We tried bare bottom for a while and at first she got upset when she got wet but then she would just wee happily and gleefully (!!) and not care about being wet.

BUT...

She flatly refuses to even sit on the toilet or a potty. Doesn't matter where they are or what approach we take she just screams at us and will not. She states she doesn't want to be a big girl too.

She appears to like nappies and really dislikes knickers.

So, it really is a case of not wanting to.

My question is...do I take nappies away for a bit and see if we get anywhere or do I leave it in her hands to decide when she will do it. I suspect once she decides it'll be virtually done overnight. She is a very stubborn kid so if she knows we really want something, she will become an immovable object!! LOL

Thanks Mrs M. I tried getting her to choose a seat but that is something else she refuses to do....choose. She gets really antsy if you give her a choice. She just shouts no and stomps off. She doesn't want to choose her clothes etc. I don't think she really cares about details like that. She just wants to get on with learning and exploring.

I think she is resisting a feeling of being pushed to sit on the toilet/potty. I think you have no choice but to totally drop all mention for a couple of months. Then when she seems to have relaxed, reintroduce the potty (it's not so high up) and hold onto her for at least the first time, so she can be reassured.