He wants me to WHAT?? Yes he said the "A"

Hugs SB He probably did not mean it the way it came out, you know how bad men can be at expressing their feelings! He is probably worried about all the practical things such as finances and will you be able to go back to work and all the kind of stuff we ladies don't always think about but men tend to overthink IYKWIM.   

Aww hugs hunny! I didnt realise he was freaking out this much!!!!!

I know you are angry and hurt but men are just so different from women when it comes to these things. He may not have even meant it, just a thought that popped into his head at the time....

And if he did mean it, he is not thinking about this pregnancy with and end result of a child. They dont see this as a baby in arms like we do, the minute we see that second line we are immediately attached. They are not, they dont have the hormones, the life inside them.

At this stage, this is something not planned, and in his mind unwanted. His child will not be. He will come around, it may not be in a day or so, a week even. But he will, he wants more children and once this child arrives (if not before) he will be smitten.

Dont hold these words against him, we can only hold ourselves up to our own moral standards and he is being an honest man. Yo may find he is already regretting them.

Hear hear cjsays I completely agree;) unexpected blessings are wonderful and don't you worry I'm sticking to my gun;)

Thanks for the wise words Mel ... How do you always know the right things to say... ;) see you Monday!!

troutpout wrote: If all else fails, a good bitch slap can work wonders.....

Lol that made me giggle! And I have thought about doing just that;)

what someone said to me when i 1st found out i was preg with ds1 is, If i terminated becoz dp wanted me to when I didnt want to at all, that I would only resent him for the rest of my life and our relationship would most likely end becoz of the resentment alone. knowing this I told dp that I wasnt going to "A" wether he stayed or not was up to him. 7.5yrs later we are happily married with 4 kids and eagerly trying for another one.

SnuggleBear wrote: I think he is def coming around.... Not only has he apologized but he was keen to tell his parents today and he has started showing concern over me carrying heavy things, drinking caffeine etc etc....

I am really happy to hear that Snugglebear. I was really concerned and was wondering how you were getting on. My Dh is being funny at the moment but it is just because he doesn't want to get his hopes up if something goes wrong. If your other half is trying to look after you then I would say you guys will be okay. Heres hoping for a happy and uneventful pregnancy for you guys.