just pregnant;emotional & lonely- normal?

Hello,

I'm just newly pregnant; unplanned and unexpected but with a loving partner and we have been on a roller coaster this week! There is a definite sense of joy and excitement, but I have no idea what to expect or what to do.

We need to find a midwife, but need to move out of where we are renting and find a new place within the month; so I'm just a bit overwhelmed! I'm not sure how to go about getting a midwife when we don't know where we're going to be living. If anyone knows of a place for rent or a room in Auckland please let me know!

I'm very emotional today, all over the place and feel very lonely. But I wonder if that's the hormones talking? I suppose I just wanted to reach out to a community to feel less alone.

Much love,

Thanks LivMcD,

Good suggestion - I'll have a look around for one I like; I suppose it's not really a problem if they're not in the same area as me. Thank you!

Damn hormones!!!!!

Hope you're doing OK with your hubby away; what types of things do you do to make you feel better?

Big hugs to you. I definitely sympathise with the place you're in at the mo. When I found out I was pregnant it was so unplanned and unexpected. We were living in a flat with 6 people, had only really just started working after studying and felt so not ready to be parents.

BUT you will get there.....you have 9 months to prepare youself, your partner and your life. You WILL get there, trust me. Take it one step at a time, work out what needs to be done/taken care of first and just focus on that. People will amaze you with their kindness and generosity, and just when you think things are too hard, things will slot into place. And surprisingly, babies aren't as expensive as you think they are (trademe rocks!) :)

You could stick with a GP for the time being and then find a midwife where you know you will be living. Another option is to use the midwifes at the hospital (ie. if you know you'll give birth and North Shore or Auckland etc, you can have all your antenatal care with their midwives). You can also change your midwife at anytime during your care. It is SOOOOO daunting - when I found out I was pregnant, I knew nothing, absolutely nothing. You'll be amazed at how quickly you learn things, and the maternity system in this country is fantastic for accessing knowledgable professionals who'll explain things to you and look after you. On a more practical note, the huggies website has a fantastic preg guide which explains things in a cool week-by-week fashion. I also have a copy of the good ol' "What to expect when you're expecting" book which i'm happy to send to you if you want to PM me your address :)

And then, after 9 months of worry and planning and sleepless nights, you'll have a baby in your arms and you'll wonder what your life meant before this little person came into your life. Your son/daughter will be SOOOOO worth it. You're about to embark on the most amazing journey, so try (easier said than done) to buckle up and enjoy the ride. And look after yourself xxx

Hi lovebubbles (cute name by the way!)

Why don't you check out the Due in/born in 2012 threads? (if you haven't already)
I've found it great to connect with the other mothers due in April 2012.
It's nice to be able to chat and ask questions with people going through the same stage - especially when you're not quite ready to tell all your friends and family.

Hey hon - pregnancy is a total emotional roller-coster and it sounds like you have a lot on your plate. Big hugs to you - you will be so ready for this baby to arrive by the end of your pregnancy, trust me Good luch and wishing you a happy healthy preg.