just pregnant;emotional & lonely- normal?
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Topic: just pregnant;emotional & lonely- normal?
Posted By: lovebubbles
Subject: just pregnant;emotional & lonely- normal?
Date Posted: 20 August 2011 at 4:44pm
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Hello,
I'm just newly pregnant; unplanned and unexpected but with a loving partner and we have been on a roller coaster this week! There is a definite sense of joy and excitement, but I have no idea what to expect or what to do. We need to find a midwife, but need to move out of where we are renting and find a new place within the month; so I'm just a bit overwhelmed! I'm not sure how to go about getting a midwife when we don't know where we're going to be living. If anyone knows of a place for rent or a room in Auckland please let me know! I'm very emotional today, all over the place and feel very lonely. But I wonder if that's the hormones talking? I suppose I just wanted to reach out to a community to feel less alone. Much love, |
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Posted By: LivMcD
Date Posted: 20 August 2011 at 4:57pm
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Hey lovebubbles, wow what a weeks! Ive been a bit the same! Not sure about the midwife as Im in CHCH but you could find a MW that is located with a nearby hospital? Or just go with one that you like versus one that is in the neighbourhood? My MW is on the other side of town but I really like her, so I dont mind :) I have been super emotional today, doesnt help my hubby is out of town! But trust me its definitly the hormones lol ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: lovebubbles
Date Posted: 20 August 2011 at 5:18pm
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Thanks LivMcD,
Good suggestion - I'll have a look around for one I like; I suppose it's not really a problem if they're not in the same area as me. Thank you! Damn hormones!!!!! 
Hope you're doing OK with your hubby away; what types of things do you do to make you feel better? |
Posted By: LivMcD
Date Posted: 20 August 2011 at 5:42pm
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I usually just have a good cry and let it all out lol and then I actually went shopping today! thought bugger it! Its hard because Im 24 none of my friends have children so they dont really know what Im going through so I dont have alot of people to talk to about it. Thats why I like going on here. The hormones thing does get a little better the further along you get but you still get a little over emotional! I remember when I was pregnnt with DD, I made a pav (my first) for xmas - I was 12 weeks along) and it collapsed on me, I totally broke down sobbing lol my poor hubby! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Hayz001
Date Posted: 20 August 2011 at 9:54pm
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Big hugs to you. I definitely sympathise with the place you're in at the mo. When I found out I was pregnant it was so unplanned and unexpected. We were living in a flat with 6 people, had only really just started working after studying and felt so not ready to be parents.
BUT you will get there.....you have 9 months to prepare youself, your partner and your life. You WILL get there, trust me. Take it one step at a time, work out what needs to be done/taken care of first and just focus on that. People will amaze you with their kindness and generosity, and just when you think things are too hard, things will slot into place. And surprisingly, babies aren't as expensive as you think they are (trademe rocks!) :) You could stick with a GP for the time being and then find a midwife where you know you will be living. Another option is to use the midwifes at the hospital (ie. if you know you'll give birth and North Shore or Auckland etc, you can have all your antenatal care with their midwives). You can also change your midwife at anytime during your care. It is SOOOOO daunting - when I found out I was pregnant, I knew nothing, absolutely nothing. You'll be amazed at how quickly you learn things, and the maternity system in this country is fantastic for accessing knowledgable professionals who'll explain things to you and look after you. On a more practical note, the huggies website has a fantastic preg guide which explains things in a cool week-by-week fashion. I also have a copy of the good ol' "What to expect when you're expecting" book which i'm happy to send to you if you want to PM me your address :) And then, after 9 months of worry and planning and sleepless nights, you'll have a baby in your arms and you'll wonder what your life meant before this little person came into your life. Your son/daughter will be SOOOOO worth it. You're about to embark on the most amazing journey, so try (easier said than done) to buckle up and enjoy the ride. And look after yourself xxx ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: lovebubbles
Date Posted: 21 August 2011 at 11:32am
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Wow! thank you for your posts.
It's comforting to know that others have gone and are going through the same things. It certainly is overwhelming; trying to concentrate on anything other than this is proving a challenge! Thanks for your advice too on the Huggies website and midwife situation. I'll check that out. I'm so glad it takes babies 9 month to bake; hopefully enough time to get our heads around the whole thing. For now, just need to focus on finding a place to live... and hoping that (as you say) things will fall into place. They usually do; I call it stepping out onto the magical staircase of life... I just never thought the next step would be having a baby! Everything is about to change. Sounds like you were in a similar situation Hayz001; unplanned, unexpected and other things in your future... but it seems like your little person has filled the gap in your heart you never knew you had? That's how I've heard it be explained. Being pregnant really is the weirdest thing I've ever experienced... being a woman is actually pretty darn cool. Thank you for your offer of the book; a friend of mine has lent it to me... I just have to pluck up the courage to begin reading it! And LivMcD; pavalova is the hardest thing to make at the best of times! i tried to make it once and it turned into a burnt pancake. ;-) I can imagine being 24 and not having friends in the same boat as you is tough; I've been told it's important to create a community - this seems like a good place to start. If you ever want to chat (although we're in different places and stages) I'm right here. Feeling much better today; thanks for your support - how amazing to be able to connect with other women in such a wonderful way. Take care, x |
Posted By: minipig
Date Posted: 21 August 2011 at 10:49pm
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Hi lovebubbles (cute name by the way!)
Why don't you check out the Due in/born in 2012 threads? (if you haven't already) I've found it great to connect with the other mothers due in April 2012. It's nice to be able to chat and ask questions with people going through the same stage - especially when you're not quite ready to tell all your friends and family.  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: kelzie_rose
Date Posted: 23 August 2011 at 6:00pm
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Hey dude,
Yep we all get emotional and down. Go find your Due In thread, where there'll be people who are due the same time as you. From what I've seen, you make friends for life with these people, and meet up for coffee groups and play groups. -------------  Started TTC Apr 2008 With PCOS and a bicornuate uterus Our angel babies Jan 2010 <3 Oct 2010 <3 Apr 2011 <3 |
Posted By: Puddleduck
Date Posted: 24 August 2011 at 3:29pm
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Hey hon - pregnancy is a total emotional roller-coster and it sounds like you have a lot on your plate. Big hugs to you - you will be so ready for this baby to arrive by the end of your pregnancy, trust me Good luch and wishing you a happy healthy preg. ------------- http://alterna-tickers.com"> 
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