Anger!

Yay this is great the things I have to look forward to.

Arianne already cries when she doesnt get what she wants to think it will get worse than crying eekk.

Hugs Sheena.

Emily has never really been a headbanger but would just throw bit of a tanty when she got frustrated. HOWEVER, in the last couple of weeks she has started pounding her head on the floor 3-4 times any time she gets frustrated or something doesn't go her way, occassionally throwing something across the room the process. She doesn't take it out on us though (yet! ). What I've tried doing is getting her to come to mummy or daddy if she needs help, or if a toy is stuck, and show us what the problem is so we can help, before loosing her temper. So far it seems to be working. If I can hear her getting worked up in the lounge, soon after she yells out "need help" or "stuck mum" and she will come and get me. I ask her to show me what she needs help with and fix it for her, and she calms down after that. I'm not sure if Caden might still be a bit young to understand the concept yet but might be worth a go if you think he will take to it.

From what I can remember it is totally normal behaviour, Jack still has moments where his anger overpowers his rational thoughts so I sit down with him and make him tell me what is wrong (obviously can't work with Caden though) and if he starts throwing toys I take them off him until he calms down. If he still won't calm down I either remove him or take me and Caprece away from him and tell him where we will be when he has calmed down and can join us when he wants.

However thats what I do with a four year old, I find dealing with Caprece a lot harder than Jack as she is only just starting to really get the concepts of explaining and time out. Like shes angry but still doesn't get why and doesn't really care about time out lol

So anyway hope that helps a wee bit

Jackson is exactly the same. I know how you feel and it is really frustrating and concerning, even though it is normal.

I can understand the tantrum but not the self harm that obviously hurts them yet they continue to do it! Yesterday Jackson wacked his wooden train set on the wall and managed to take out some gib and left a big hole in the wall He hits everybody, mainly Janaya because she is constantly taking his things off him. On saturday he approached her with a coffee mug and wacked her with it

It just seems like all he does is cry about things and I try really hard to distract him or ask him what is wrong.... I also put him in his cot if he gets bad but I find that if I distract him he seems to get over it quicker. Not sure if thats a good thing but when he is doing it all day it sure is easier

Caden headbutts everything as well Gives me such a fright sometimes when he does it.

He a;so head butt me the other day, he usually oly did it t his dad but he got me the other day, and he wasnt even grumpy he just did it....

Im glad he isnt the only one that does it though!

Sheza, we too had a headbutting child, lucky we never got broken noses from him...he grew out of it.

It is most likely an age thing & maybe a new baby thing also. He may not know how to deal with a few things so he hits himself as he knows he will get a response from you. You never totally know what goes on in little minds.

I always try to divert situation, although it is hard at times or ask them why they are angry or sad...hard when they are very young tho.

I have a few names for my little angles also, not that I would say it to their faces either...

good luck with it

haha no probs
Caden had an episode today! I took DH's little Transformer off him cos it has small parts and Caden was pulling it to bits, and he went nuts! Grabbed my legs and head butted me 4 times(not hard bit still!!) and then headbutted the corner of the cuboard twice , he burst into tears even harder and turned straight to me for a cuddle, seriously KIDS!