Constructive Help and Wise Words Please

Sounds like you are handling things so well in terms of being calm with her and trying to explain things. I guess just being consistant in terms of no means no when she wants something. I totally hear you about the worrying she won't eat enough dinner and will therefore wake up hungry though.

We have the same problem even now with Alyssa not being too keen on DH, and will tell him to "go away" when he gets home from work. She generally shuns him no matter what he does and runs to me. However, when I'm not around, she is perfectly happy to be with Daddy (although still won't cuddle him or anything like she does with me).

Just out of curiosity (because I don't know what your current sutiation is), but do you spend all day with her or does she go to daycare or anything during the week, or have time away from you at any point?. I just wondered if she was like this with everyone she is with when you're not there? Probably around a year old or more Alyssa was very clingy and grizzly with me, but was a different child with my mum when I went back to work and wasn't around.

I'm wondering, could part of it be that Elle is bored? Maddie sometimes gets the same way on weekends away from day care especially if we don't have as much time to do what she wants and play with her as much as she wants.

Perhaps that is were a day or two at daycare like you were thinking of could be good.

Well, after several hours of refusing to play, bath, go to park...anything, she has gone to bed having eaten nothing but pear and 3 plain rice crackers all day. She has cried all afternoon asking for TV and biscuits but meany mum would've cave.

What is going on!

I have no idea, but good on you for not caving! It is sooo hard when they are carrying on bananas to just give in and give them whatever they want. Mine are OK during the day, it's nights that they play up and scream for hours on end and oh boy the temptation to feed them just to shut them up...

Good luck with the doc and the chiro tomorrow.

Oh and we have the same dinner rule as a few others have said: eat what's on your plate or go hungry. It's hard when they eat very little and then you worry about them being hungry later on but they soon figure it out.

hey big hug's chick I sent you a PM, but jsut wanted to post in here as well you are an amazing Mum doing an awsome job. Big hug's I really hope you get some much needed answer's real soon.

The chiro was a big help and we are continuing with the treatments. Some people are cynical but it is just like seeing a physio - it takes time for the body to sort itself out. Sometimes you get worse before you get better too - that is true of many medical treatments.

He found sensory processing issues which I have suspected the whole time. My GP also believes she has sensory processing issues and will eventally fall somewhere on the spectrum but we don't yet know if it'll just mean she is a bit quirky or if she will need more help. Only time will tell. In the mean time, we will stick with the chiro, start omega's and I'll continue with the "sensory diet" work I have been doing to strengthen her sensory processing abilities. My GP said that chiro/biofeedback is being shown in clinical studies to be effective in helping with spectrum disorders such as sensory processing, ADHD etc so she recommends we keep it up.

Elle is a sweet and intelligent girl who has always been oversensitive to the world around her. I am hoping with time and dedication she will learn to overcome the things that overwhelm her.

Afterall, parenting is just a journey of equipping our kids with the skills they need to be the best they can be. Just as everyone is different, every kid needs help in different areas.

Elle is highly sensitive and that is something that is hard for her now but as she grows it will be a tremendous asset if it is channelled contructively. Therein lies the challenge for DH and I. At the moment it is really hard as she is still young so can't fully express herself but as we grow as a family I suspect it will get easier.

It's been tough and I'll admit it's been taking every ounce of energy but I know we will get there. It's been heartbreaking for me to see my wee girl struggling so much but I know it will get better.

MrsMojo wrote: FionaS wrote: parenting is just a journey of equipping our kids with the skills they need to be the best they can be. Just as everyone is different, every kid needs help in different areas. That is so true. All children are challenging in one way or another at some point in their lives and learning to overcome the challenges and work within our childrens limitations while encouraging them to step outside of their comfort zones is exciting, challenging, gruelling, upsetting, wonderful and helps us grow as people and as parents. I think the dedication you and your DH have to make sure Elle is the best she can be is commendable and will make you stronger and closer as a family.

well said it sound's like you guy's have turned a couner and can see a bigger picture. remember we are all here if you ever nedd to vent or share. You guy's are great parents and going to be an awsome family.

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yaya for a happy wee girl i must say your a great mum james has senory issures himself so i know how hard big big hugs hun i just get over what a caring and loving mum and dad your wee girl has