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KC82 
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Posted: 14 September 2011 at 1:26pm |
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I'm currently at the "deciding whether or not to Find Out" stage (16 weeks). Most people I know (of my generation) have found out, especially with first babies, so I'm interested in the experiences of mums out there who went the surprise route first time round. Was the "it's a [x]" moment amazing? Will you do the same thing next time?
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minipig
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Posted: 14 September 2011 at 1:43pm |
Not much help because I haven't been there just yet...
I always thought I would want a surprise but now that I'm actaully UTD I've changed my mind and want to find out.
Looking forward to being able to call the baby him or her rather than "it" 
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Posted: 14 September 2011 at 1:48pm |
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I initally wanted a surprise but DH was desperate to find out, so got the scanning person to tell him while I was in the loo (they wouldnt write it on a bit of paper for us to open at a later point for some reason)
Once DH found out he knew I has basically assumed we were having a girl - namely because I have 8 nieces & 4 sisters.... and knew I would be slightly disapointed with a boy, so he harassed me to let him tell me the gender, which was good cause I worked through my 'issues'.
BUT we've kept it quiet and NONE of the family know the gender (to be honest most dont even know we know cause they were so rude about us wanting a surprise it blew me away!)
If you are honestly not fuessed then go for it, a mate said it made her anticipate the end of the labour process a little more, but not much. She remembered asking with the second 'what flavour' even though she already knew it was a girl!
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Posted: 14 September 2011 at 1:48pm |
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i have found out with all 4 boys, the 1st I found out for the novelty and i was too excited to wait til birth also to get clothes etc sorted.
with the last 3 I found out again coz i was too excited to wait.
we(I) have decided we wont find out next time as chances are it will be another boy and if it is a girl id rather find out when she is born. we have enough unisex clothes and the baby room is unisex so no need to organise anything. i do wonder if i will be able to hold out til birth lol.
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Posted: 14 September 2011 at 1:51pm |
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Loved not knowing the sex first time, I think having a baby is an amazing experience whether you know sex or not, it just adds a wee bit more of a surprise. We are finding out this tine cause DP wants to.
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Posted: 14 September 2011 at 1:54pm |
We didn't find out either time, for me I just love that whole 'what is it?' at the end 
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Posted: 14 September 2011 at 2:23pm |
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Loved knowing the sex the first time but didnt the second time and glad we didnt- was so much better. But knowing the sex the first time helped me to feel more prepared.
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Jaune
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Posted: 14 September 2011 at 3:07pm |
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Didn't know the first time and won't find out when we get pregnant again... It was so much more exciting for us when DS born and for everyone else when we told them.
I didn't mind not knowing whether I had a boy or girl in there...it was all part of the fun.
In terms of it being 'amazing', it wasn't really, but that's because DS had issues with his breathing and was whisked away before I really got a chance to see him.
I always had a 'feeling' he was a boy...when I thought about having a baby girl it just didn't seem right.
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Posted: 14 September 2011 at 3:13pm |
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We chose to find out if we could. DP wanted a surprise and I wanted to know so we compromised with if they can tell us the gender then we'll find out... If not we'll wait BUT in saying that next time I want a surprise. It was nice knowing and nice to sit and think 'My daughter' etc but a surprise would be nice and have fun guessing etc!
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Posted: 14 September 2011 at 3:31pm |
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didn't find out either time. I loved that DH got to be the one to tell me "it's a little girl!"
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Posted: 14 September 2011 at 4:13pm |
Same here, Catisla 
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Posted: 14 September 2011 at 4:32pm |
We didn't find out either and I loved the surprise. I did upset DH though as I looked down and went, 'it's a boy' before he had a chance to tell me  .
We probably wont find out again this time. (although I kind of want to know if it is a girl so I can make some girly things..)
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Posted: 14 September 2011 at 5:29pm |
I've found out with all my babies (I'm just too impatient to wait lol!). I have to say seeing my babies for the very first time, holding them and discovering them was a pretty amazing experience in itself. I don't know whether knowing or not knowing their sex prior could have changed that at all 
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Posted: 14 September 2011 at 5:35pm |
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I couldn't find out with the 1st and found out with the second,
TBH it was crazy that an actual baby came out, so I don't think not knowing the sex added to that, In fact I actually forgot to ask I was so shattered from the birth. I like knowing because it helps me bond a bit more before the baby comes.
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Posted: 14 September 2011 at 6:42pm |
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I found out both times, and who says its not a surprise!, just a surprise a little earlier, its still a wonderful joyous thing to find out whatever the stage. Like JoJames, it helped us to bond earlier with out little dots, and we named both ours months in advance of the birth. I think birth in itself is a beautiful surprise. Also on a practical level, it definitely helped me be prepared clothes wise, I didn't want everything to be neutral coloured.
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Posted: 14 September 2011 at 6:59pm |
I found out both times, and agree with Milliemama; it is a surprise, just an earlier one. In my case, both times I was a bit worried I'd be disappointed if I didn't get the gender I kind of wanted, and I'd rather get that out of my system ahead of time if need be (surprisingly enough, I didn't get the gender I'd kind of been hoping for both times, and got used to it very quickly the first time and wasn't even at all disappointed the second time, turns out I was over the moon it was a girl  )
Now we have one of each (provided that they were right about this one!!), I would probably wait till the birth if we have a third. But if I could go back, I'd still find out for the first and second. With the third, in my case, it feels a bit different already having one of each and also having the clothes etc for both a boy or a girl (again, provided they're right).
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Posted: 14 September 2011 at 7:07pm |
Agree with Hopes, I got the most amazing suprise I cryed, it just wasnt at the birth, it was at the ultrasound. The birth is such a rollercoaster of emotions anyway that I was glad I was prepared to know what she was.
Plus I would had to refer to the baby in my belly as "it". I was able to call her Tinka from 19 weeks, I felt like I already knew her :)
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Posted: 14 September 2011 at 7:08pm |
Meant to say HATE calling my baby "it"
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Posted: 14 September 2011 at 8:21pm |
Find out Piwa I can't wait another 24 weeks 
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Posted: 14 September 2011 at 9:12pm |
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I had no urge to find out first time around and won't find out this time either. I really like the idea of waiting until the end and I always remember my mum saying "you don't get many suprises in life". Luckily my DH feels the same. And it was exciting to be able to announce to everyone once he was here that we had a son.
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