Negotiating 1st Trimester

Having crossed the 12 week marker of my first pregnancy I thought I'd share a few experiences with those new preggie ladies out there. Let's just say that the last two months hasn't quite been the the blissful nausea free trimester fondly recounted to me by my mum and big sis! If you are also in the 'feeling good camp' and you don't recognise anything below then count your lucky stars, you are blessed.

Bonuses - You are pregnant. Your breasts are growing but nowhere else is! Your immediate family will be thrilled by the news- should you decide to share.

Downsides - You may well want to vomit morning, noon and night. Cravings? Hardly, I am a true foodie, but still nothing in my pantry or fridge says "eat me." One cannot live on oranges alone. Sorry, you just have to force yourself.

Humour - There are some very funny names that are just lining up to be used when the name game starts - if you can keep a straight face when you tell your mum you were thinking of Humphrey Horatio.

Socialising - Don't be surprised if you can't manage to go out - at all. Please don't fill your diary or throw a party for a 100 people (it was pre-booked and I couldn't get out of it), you'll struggle, and the next day you will be doing really well if you can stand upright in the shower or dress without sitting breaks.

Work - I've cried in the car frequently on the way to work - it's normal, this nausea thing and constant waking in the night does make you feel like an alien. It is worth giving yourself 15 minutes, before you have to hit the deck running, to have a cup of tea and a sit down. Be brave or suck boiled sweets. The busy day can distract you.

Intimacy - My poor huband has the patience of a Saint. To be honest just making the kiss shape with my mouth is enough to make me want to vomit. Top-tip, make sure your partner reads articles in Week Five that explain quite how much help and support you may need in the first trimester. Do talk alot and forward your weekly update progress report to them.

Friends - Personally I opted for the less is more approach. One was a star, lending me books, sympathising, helping me along, the other was a little distant (understandably as she has been trying for her third for a while now). It depends how close you are to your family and who you trust. If you are normally very sociable and want to keep up appearances weekend afternoon teas are probably your best bet and involve the least amount of public food consumption.

Count your blessings - Okay so this trimester maybe the one of the most testing times of your entire life thus far, but, all being well, a new being will grace your lives very soon - bringing with it love and opportunities for growth that we could never have imagined. How exciting!

To conclude, there will be a time when you can go to the loo without fear of spotting once again!

Good luck everyone.

LOL I wish I could vomit...way better than nausea least you have that moment of feeling better straight after.

lol yeah the third trimester my poor hubby had to wedge me out of the bed! But yes the first is also very trying!

AandCsmum wrote: LOL I wish I could vomit...way better than nausea least you have that moment of feeling better straight after.

This this this!

I agree with the exhaustion - most nights I was tucked up in bed by 8pm!

Very well written to

AandCsmum wrote: LOL I wish I could vomit...way better than nausea least you have that moment of feeling better straight after.

I would have agreed...until I had Mila,with C I threw up,then felt better,with Ty I felt nauseous but didn't throw up.
With Amelia...I felt nauseous,threw up (as in ran to the bathroom and sometimes made it before chucking up all over the walls) and then felt nauseous again,so no relief.

Thanks for the encouragement ladies.

Maybe I should have included comments on the unexplained burping phenomena, desert mouth at midnight and the iron supplements that "don't make you constipated" - funnily enough I get the feeling have they haven't personally tried them!.

Oh the joys! Only three days to the scan. Can't wait!

Love the part about not being able to kiss your hubby without wanting to vomit. DH always kisses me quickly on the lips 3 times in a row which normally is fine but during weeks 6-16 by the time he got to the 3rd kiss I had to push him away and try not to dry retch in front of him! Haha..

Absolutely love it !

I'm fully on board with what you've said, I am starting to come right a bit now however my nana tells me the same thing- wait till the third tri

I was like you BP, don't get too emotional but was cracking under the stress first trimester, had a few meltdowns from feeling like utter crap. And had to try not to moan too much as wasn't sure what people were really thinking, ie "oh no here she goes again!!" lol.

My one friend I thought I could talk to didn't want to know unless I was throwing up like she had. Just feeling like it, feeling like crap, so tired etc etc wasn't enough for her sympathy.