Negotiating 1st Trimester
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Topic: Negotiating 1st Trimester
Posted By: Honeyluna
Subject: Negotiating 1st Trimester
Date Posted: 28 August 2011 at 6:50pm
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Having crossed the 12 week marker of my first pregnancy I thought I'd share a few experiences with those new preggie ladies out there. Let's just say that the last two months hasn't quite been the the blissful nausea free trimester fondly recounted to me by my mum and big sis! If you are also in the 'feeling good camp' and you don't recognise anything below then count your lucky stars, you are blessed.
Bonuses - You are pregnant. Your breasts are growing but nowhere else is! Your immediate family will be thrilled by the news- should you decide to share. Downsides - You may well want to vomit morning, noon and night. Cravings? Hardly, I am a true foodie, but still nothing in my pantry or fridge says "eat me." One cannot live on oranges alone. Sorry, you just have to force yourself. Humour - There are some very funny names that are just lining up to be used when the name game starts - if you can keep a straight face when you tell your mum you were thinking of Humphrey Horatio. Socialising - Don't be surprised if you can't manage to go out - at all. Please don't fill your diary or throw a party for a 100 people (it was pre-booked and I couldn't get out of it), you'll struggle, and the next day you will be doing really well if you can stand upright in the shower or dress without sitting breaks. Work - I've cried in the car frequently on the way to work - it's normal, this nausea thing and constant waking in the night does make you feel like an alien. It is worth giving yourself 15 minutes, before you have to hit the deck running, to have a cup of tea and a sit down. Be brave or suck boiled sweets. The busy day can distract you. Intimacy - My poor huband has the patience of a Saint. To be honest just making the kiss shape with my mouth is enough to make me want to vomit. Top-tip, make sure your partner reads articles in Week Five that explain quite how much help and support you may need in the first trimester. Do talk alot and forward your weekly update progress report to them. Friends - Personally I opted for the less is more approach. One was a star, lending me books, sympathising, helping me along, the other was a little distant (understandably as she has been trying for her third for a while now). It depends how close you are to your family and who you trust. If you are normally very sociable and want to keep up appearances weekend afternoon teas are probably your best bet and involve the least amount of public food consumption. Count your blessings - Okay so this trimester maybe the one of the most testing times of your entire life thus far, but, all being well, a new being will grace your lives very soon - bringing with it love and opportunities for growth that we could never have imagined. How exciting! To conclude, there will be a time when you can go to the loo without fear of spotting once again! Good luck everyone. |
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Posted By: TheKelly
Date Posted: 28 August 2011 at 6:51pm
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...hehe.
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Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 28 August 2011 at 6:54pm
LOL I wish I could vomit...way better than nausea  least you have that moment of feeling better straight after.------------- Kel http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 28 August 2011 at 6:56pm
Haha - nope, the first three months of parenthood  -------------   
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TheKelly wrote:Posted By: LivMcD
Date Posted: 28 August 2011 at 6:58pm
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lol yeah the third trimester my poor hubby had to wedge me out of the bed! But yes the first is also very trying! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: millemama
Date Posted: 28 August 2011 at 7:14pm
Hey Honeyluna, great read, should be a writer if not already, maybe start a blog up, thoroughly enjoyed it, could have read more. I was a cruiser 1st PG no issues hardly any symptoms, nauseating for other mothers to be around I'm sure, I practially glowed. This time round completely different, the alien comment really gelled, lol. Oh and there ain't no glowy thing happening either!! ------------- http://daisypath.com"> 
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Posted By: cuppycake
Date Posted: 28 August 2011 at 7:31pm
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Posted By: Hayz001
Date Posted: 29 August 2011 at 7:26am
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Cute! So much of this I was nodding along thinking 'ahhh yes I remember that'!
As for the fear of spotting - I remember laughing in my due in thread that for the first 12 weeks you are a compulsive 'knicker checker' - fearing the tiniest spot, and then in the last few weeks you again become a 'knicker checker' - but hoping to see a bit of a show which means baby WILL come soon
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Posted By: CrazyCass
Date Posted: 29 August 2011 at 12:59pm
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I agree with the exhaustion - most nights I was tucked up in bed by 8pm!
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Posted By: BoMama
Date Posted: 29 August 2011 at 4:24pm
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LOL very good! FYI it doesn't get any better ------------- Megapunkster DOB July 2007 Minipunkster DOB Feb 2010 BabyPunkster DUE May 2012 Making out with the PunkMaster for 4 years and counting <3 |
Posted By: TheKelly
Date Posted: 30 August 2011 at 12:08pm
I would have agreed...until I had Mila,with C I threw up,then felt better,with Ty I felt nauseous but didn't throw up. With Amelia...I felt nauseous,threw up (as in ran to the bathroom and sometimes made it before chucking up all over the walls) and then felt nauseous again,so no relief. -------------
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Posted By: Puddleduck
Date Posted: 30 August 2011 at 3:44pm
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Well written, reading that took me right back to my first trimester with Quinn. It's amazing how much it fades even in a year!
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Posted By: Honeyluna
Date Posted: 30 August 2011 at 9:35pm
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Thanks for the encouragement ladies.
Maybe I should have included comments on the unexplained burping phenomena, desert mouth at midnight and the iron supplements that "don't make you constipated" - funnily enough I get the feeling have they haven't personally tried them!. Oh the joys! Only three days to the scan. Can't wait! |
Posted By: bikershaz
Date Posted: 02 September 2011 at 11:20am
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Very funny, so glad I've had hardly any symptoms :-) ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://counters.families.com">
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Posted By: babygiraffe
Date Posted: 02 September 2011 at 11:33am
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Love the part about not being able to kiss your hubby without wanting to vomit. DH always kisses me quickly on the lips 3 times in a row which normally is fine but during weeks 6-16 by the time he got to the 3rd kiss I had to push him away and try not to dry retch in front of him! Haha..
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Posted By: millemama
Date Posted: 02 September 2011 at 1:59pm
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All I can say about the iron supplements is Floradix, all natural from the supermarket, no pipe blockages there, and if all else fails, prune juice, not as heinous as it sounds. lol
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Posted By: pinkie07
Date Posted: 04 September 2011 at 5:22pm
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Absolutely love it !
I'm fully on board with what you've said, I am starting to come right a bit now however my nana tells me the same thing- wait till the third tri
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Posted By: #2onthewayxx
Date Posted: 04 September 2011 at 7:53pm
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Im so glad someone finally wrote about the negative bits of being preggers. Im in my 3rd trimester now but the first was exactly as Honeyluna wrote! I felt like crap, only threw upa few times but was constantly nausious and was so tired looking back it all seems like a blur.
The main thing thats hit me hard, and sadly has come back this trimester, is an over the top rollercoaster of emotions! I didnt reilise being pregnant would play with my hormones quite so much as it has. Im one of those people who never cries at anything and yet at the mo i am bursting into tears at anything! Anyway, my point was thank you for highlighting the fact that it is possible to be happy your pregnant and yet hate some facets of it, you wouldnt believe how judged Iv felt by some people even trying to talk about it! Even though i know others must feel crappy evry now and again, i really appreciate hearing others talk about it
Thanks guys
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Posted By: millemama
Date Posted: 04 September 2011 at 8:25pm
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I was like you BP, don't get too emotional but was cracking under the stress first trimester, had a few meltdowns from feeling like utter crap. And had to try not to moan too much as wasn't sure what people were really thinking, ie "oh no here she goes again!!" lol.
My one friend I thought I could talk to didn't want to know unless I was throwing up like she had. Just feeling like it, feeling like crap, so tired etc etc wasn't enough for her sympathy. ------------- http://daisypath.com">
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Posted By: Mummyinc
Date Posted: 01 October 2011 at 4:06pm
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Thank-you so much for this!!! i am 10wk 4days and have just added vomiting to my morning scedule... and its so random i do not feel ill at all it just comes out of no where! ( tho i do have to add i feel nauseous for the whole rest of the day until about 5pm)..i have done it in the evenings as well when i have been a bit to vigorus with my tooth brushing...
also i have been a nasty b*tch.. i hung up on my poor BF the other night for no reason other then his voice was driving me nuts!... i then proceeded to bawl becuase i was so mean ( lucky he called back he has been very patient) tired, cannot handle cooking smells, knicker checker...YES YES YES to the dry mouth at night and burping...err also lots more fluffs then usual! Why did no one tell me this lol. 
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Posted By: millemama
Date Posted: 01 October 2011 at 6:52pm
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Hey, just to check in on everyone, I am now in 3rd trimester and am feeling fanbloodytastic. Finally got my mojo back! Was feeling okish in 2nd trimester but still had to have a sit down during the day at some point, but now can go all day without a rest at home at least! And not needing to get to bed at 8.30 every nite. Yeeha! 3rd trimester need not be the 'temple of doom!' ------------- http://daisypath.com">
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Posted By: kelzie_rose
Date Posted: 09 October 2011 at 9:37am
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I had a terrible 1st trimester, and don't think I'll ever forget it. After three miscarriages, was put onto progesterone when I got pregnant this time, and it made me so very sick. After I came off I got a UTI. I have never had cravings, just aversions to every single food imaginable. I was tired, I was depressed, I was grumpy. After TTC for years, and finally getting pregnant, and making it past 6 and a half weeks, it was supposed to be wonderful. I don't look pregnant, just fat. I am sick of people giving me unwanted advice. Because of my miscarriages, I didn't get attached to bump straight away, and so still not attached to her, I forget that I'm pregnant most days, and just think that I'm unwell. People keep telling me that I'll forget all this, but I will never forget what it took to get me here, and how ill I've felt. Evie's going to be an only child because I'm not putting myself through this again.
ETA: As well as really bad back pain, and being hospitalised for dehydration from vomiting too much. -------------  Started TTC Apr 2008 With PCOS and a bicornuate uterus Our angel babies Jan 2010 <3 Oct 2010 <3 Apr 2011 <3 |
Posted By: millemama
Date Posted: 09 October 2011 at 5:27pm
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Kelzie Rose, hey, nothing wrong with an only child, they just get all your love.
Pregnancy is full of disallusions when you feel like this as its just not what is portrayed, so you feel 'not normal' but there are a lot of women out there who feel exactly the same way, and some of them have posted on here. I certainly had my weeks where I just felt like I had some chronic illness, not pregnancy, and it was hard to find someone to talk to who understood. It played with my mind/emotions as well. DH is great but I don't think they really get it and what your body and mind go thru. But you have been through the ringer and its better to get it off your chest and you will be amazed at the amount of woman who have and are going thru it too. Then maybe you can start to claim your life back and get some perspective, but in the meantime, have a moan, sometimes its just what is needed.  ------------- http://daisypath.com">
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Posted By: Puddleduck
Date Posted: 09 October 2011 at 8:44pm
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Kelzie_rose you sound like you need a big Pregnancy is hard work! and it sounds like you are having a pretty rough time of it too - don't worry hun you will get there with bonding, even if it doesn't happen until after bubs is here - I know that was the case for me. Hoping things get a bit easier for you, or at least go quickly ------------- http://alterna-tickers.com">
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Posted By: Kimmy007
Date Posted: 14 October 2011 at 1:56pm
| Thank you - I found this very helpful - and slightly scary! just under 6 weeks but im so tired all the time - I dont know how so many others can do this and not tell people - its the thing Im struggling with. Im in bed by 8 every night ! |