TT problem

Although she has soft poos once they're out it does sound like she's suffering mild consitpation.  It shouldn't hurt her to poo and she shouldn't feel uncomfortable from the day before they arrive.  

Why not try giving her a couple of prunes to snack on or watered down prune juice to help everything pass more swiftly (not too much tho, you don't want to give her the runs).  I'd also make sure she's not having more than 1 small banana per day.

Once you get that sorted it should be plain sailing.

Need to watch bananas as apparently (according to my GP) they can cause constipation in some kids and the opposite in others!

#2's is a tricky thing. Is she ok to do it in her nappies? With Hannah if I tried to put her on the loo too early, she would stress and hold on and couldn't push it out. I developed a rule of thumb where we'd try twice and the third time I'd ignore her so that it could "accidentally" go into her nappy, so she wouldn't get constipated. We got there in the end but during TT it feels like a long journey!

The poo think. Ai yai yai. I still struggle on that one to be quite honest.

Okay background info. I started with McKayla at about 18 months by introducing the potty. She was at that stage telling us she makes a week or just before poos will tell us and get the clean nappy ready plus wipes ect and we must change as soon as possible. So you would think she is ready. Then at about 22 months she was in panties and when she said okay a wee is coming we were running ahead and she would go on the potty. Eventually she would just strip herself and ran.

SIL arrives on seen, yelled a few times at the poor child to not take her clothes off first (she hates seeing naked kids) and what if she has an accident. McKayla was still at that stage making about 80% in the potty or toilet and now and then would have an accident. We got a few poos in the potty or she would ask for a nappy and do it then. She still needed to stand over it.

But within 3 days of this yelling ect she would just silently come up to me and embarresly ask me for a nappy and would do a wee and poo that way but she would go and hide when she does it behind a curtain ect. The more this angry mommy (at SIL not my child) calmy tried to explain it is okay to have an accident and I am so proud of her the worst it got.

Eventually she would hold on the whole day and wait until she is in the bath and then only go. So I made the choice back in nappies.

I waited a few months and in April this year got her a wee doll and we played with the doll to make wee's. Got her to do the wees in the potty in the bath with water and then later just put enough water in to touch her toes. She would go immediatly. Then started with a dish at the toilet to touch her feet in warm water. It would relax her enough to just go.

She started telling us again she needed to go but at winter start she had loads more accidents so it became toilet timing more than toilet training again but she is finally starting to tell us again and making it about 80% of the time again.

On the poo issue. She started waiting for a nightime nappy and within 20 min will do a poo but she seems to go red with pushing and has to stand. We got it a few times in the potty by me really encouraging a lot to finish it in the potty or toilet. But she sometimes screams blue murder at me if we suggest that she does it. The help of bribery of watching a barbie dvd sometimes help but I think we try about once a week and she will do it in the potty and be super proud but the next night we are back to her telling us NO NO NO I MAKE POOPOO IN NAPPY NO BIG MESS ON FLOOR. Mmmmm wonder where my poor kiddy got that from.

Big moral go with the flow with her. Perhaps see how she will react. A whole in the nappy didnt work for McKayla but might for you. Or perhaps a star chart might work but my best advice is some kids potty train easier with wees than poos and others are potty trained sooner with poos than wee's. Sometimes it doesnt happen at the same time.

BTW McKayla has never ever made a big mess on the floor. All I can say is I still get pretty mad when I think about SIL and my poor baby.

Ours used to be hard and she would bleed a bit but once we settled into the two day routine, they softened up and the bleeding stopped. She goes through the long, long pushing routine even when they are 100% slushy...not sure why. We very rarely have hard ones now but she still takes an age to pass them. She usually goes in the morning so we are frequently late for things! This morning she woke at 6 saying "poos coming" and it took her until 8.30 to go.

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I haven't had a chance to read everything (my tv show is on in 10 mins lol) but try brown sugar water, hide it if you have to. It's a natural laxitive - the molasus makes them go whether they like it or not and it's the only thing that worked for C.

Do that for a couple of days or so to get the bowel regular then wean her off it, she'll get into a pattern and then won't need the laxitive.

Happy to have a more in dept chat next time I see you