Is my boy a bully?

We've been having some behavioural issues with Joshua over the last few months, and I'm almost at a loss as to know what to do.

A few weeks ago it was biting. He bit two different children at his daycare - one on three separate occasions.

Then, that stopped, and moved on to pinching and scratching.

Then, last week it was hitting.

And today I am informed that he has been pushing kids over today.

What is a mummy to do?? He's a lovely, high spirited little boy, who is so affectionate and gorgeous 99% of the time.

One thing I should say is that he is the oldest, and the biggest in the babyroom at his daycare. He's a very tall boy, off the Plunket chart for his length and in the 75th percentile for his weight. The other babies are all much much smaller than him, and I also wonder if he is perhaps ready to move up to the next room. I am a bit hesitant to do so too soon, as I don't want him feeling all out of sorts with being the youngest in the next room. He's not due to move until May. Physically he'd be ok, but his language etc is still quite behind the kids in the next room.

Any advice?

Could they do an arrangement where he spends part of the day with the little kids and part of the day with the older kids? Sort of like a transition phase until he's ready to move into the older group full time?

Sounds like a move up in rooms is worth a shot, if that's agreeable with the daycare as well.  He might even find his language skills taking off faster when he's listening to the constant chatter of the other toddlers?  Hope it's sorted out soon for ya. 

P.S. If it was unprovoked stuff then I'd assume it was a lack of stimulation - and teachers should do something to make sure that he had things to do at all times.

Oh, and tiredness is also a huge factor. That's when Han's behaviour was also worse... so encouraging her to sit down and do something quiet, like reading, was good to prevent any injuries.

Hugs Clare! My Mercedes is a bit of a bully and I'm thankful that it seems to be only Sienna that she picks on, I'd be mortified if she bit someone else's kid!

I think the transition idea is a good one. You might hopefully find that the kid Joshie doesn't like is less of an issue in the big kids room coz there are more kids and more space to play.

Clare I am sorry you are going through this.
I am sure it is a phase but not nice for both of you.

I am surprised to see the daycare are not more proactive!
DS was moved from 1st room into 2 year old room at 18 months as they felt he was not "stimulated" enough anymore. For us it was the best move, he loves it there. The transition took less than 1 week.

Toni you know the kids will sort it out and we can step in if needed....need to toughen up T anyway!

Yes it is me
We are good thank you!

I am in love with him LOL I can not talk about him without smiling

Would be interesting to know what DC you are using. It is a shame....
We have some issues with our DC in reagrds to food but otherwise they are really good.

I hope your wee man settles soon for you both

Aw it is nice to know I might have been thought about. Never happened to me before or maybe you do have the wrong person?

He was with Chantell till just over 1.
He is now at Lollipops Educare just down from the airport.
He just loves it there and they all seem to love him
Where abouts is ABC? Far for you to go?

Yay that is awesome! Will be a nice feeling :)