Bump blues

Hi everyone,
New here and this is my first post - just needing somewhere to get things off my chest! This is my first baby so I haven't been through any of this before!

I am feeling a bit down at the moment as I am coming up to 17 weeks and have no visible baby bump.
I am overweight but have managed to be losing weight during my pregnancy (Best diet i have ever been on!) And i have been doing my best to be as healthy as possible but because of my belly i have no noticeable baby bump to speak of

Baby was semi-planned but also a bit of a surprise - I had been trying my best to lose weight and hubby and i decided we would try and just see what happens, but nothing seemed to have been going on so we sat down and agreed that we would save some money, i would lose even more weight and we would try again seriously early next year - the NEXT day i found out i was pregnant!!
I am SO over the moon but its just upsetting me that i am not showing - when people find out they look at me like "really" and it just hurts. With ALL my family back in my home country of Australia I don't have anyone here to talk to...this seemed like a welcoming place.
I just wish i could feel like a normal pregnant woman.

thanks for listening! Megan xx

Seriously do not worry about it! Soon enough you will be showing, and thinking OMG, look at how massive my belly is!

My SIL didn't show at all until she was about 28 weeks, then all of a sudden she popped out. It is really normal not to show at 17 weeks. So as long as you and baby are healthy then I would try not to worry about it.

And congratulations!

Congratulations on your pregnancy.

I'm so sorry to hear you don't have anyone to share this with you (nearby). It is so hard ay.

Pregnancy brings on all sorts of hormones and (in my experience) it's really common to have a period of time where you feel really low and down about things. Completely normal. I had the exact opposite problem to you - I pop out to be really big from really early on so get lots of "when are you due comments" early and it can get you down too.

Just take time to remember little bubs growing inside you. Soon you will be getting lots of kicks etc (If not already) so you will know bubs is safe and growing.

congrats on your baby!!

I can sympathise with you and not showing. I was, still am I guess, a lot over weight when I got pregnant. I was really sick at the beginning and lost 8kg! Now at the end I have put a total of 15kg on but thats only 7kg over my pre pregnancy weight so Im happy with that...so is my MW!!

I didnt really start showing until after 28 weeks... until then to strangers, I just looked fat, to people who knew me I look pregnant. Your bump will pop out eventually, and the plus side of not really showing is that you manage to save money on maternity clothes... Ive hardly had to buy anything!!

Also the balloon popping feeling definitely sounds like movements to me. Also when you have your next scan (round 20 weeks?) make sure you ask when your placenta is located cos if you have an anterior placenta (attached on the front) then you wont feel as much movement until later and baby is bigger...

Also dont forget to join your 'due in' thread on here...it makes things sooo much easier to be able to share with other mums to be going through the same things at the same time, also helps when you dont have a lot of support IRL...



Edited by sandie

What weeheebaby said is so true, i popped out at about 8 weeks, it was ridiculous. By 14 weeks i didnt fit regular clothes and from 18 weeks onwards it had to be maternity pants or nothing. And you get constant "when are you due/is it a boy or a girl/is it your first/wow you're so big, is it twins?" comments which is a huge PITA. That and a big belly just begs strangers to stroke it apparently, because i get that a lot as well. I'd swap with you

Oh, and i got irregular bubbles from about 17 weeks every now and then - but i didnt get any real, obvious baby movement until about 24 weeks so don't fret if you're not getting the crazy movements some of the other ladies do.

meganflett wrote: I guess i expected to be feeling something every day now that i think i felt it once. Im also wondering if i want to feel it so bad that it was in my head lol. Im a nut job!!

aw man, if your a nut job I'd hate to think what you'd think of me
Just to reassure you (cause I re-read your original post) you are so completely normal, even though you may not feel like a normal preggy woman, everything you've said so totally is
And I second (or whatever it's up to by now) joining in on the due in XXXX 2011 thread (whatever month you are due). I've found great encouragement from the dec 2010 thread

Seriously, i'd feel something that *had* to be baby, sometimes i'd see a little kick even and then not feel or spot anything for another three days or even a week! But you get better at recognizing the movements and honing in on them and soon enough you won't be able to ignore them

with my first I didn't show until I was 7 and a half months...you will be showing before you know it

There's 3 of us at work preg at the moment,
16wks - big bump, it's her 2nd and she's so happy about it I think she's dressing to show it off already. (slim build)
17wks - can't see a thing, she was in jeans & fitted tshirt the other day, not even a slight rise, 1st baby (slim build)
19wks - It's hard to tell if it's me or baby bump because I started with such a big tummy, but it's got a bit bigger - also 2nd time round.

When DH was a baby, at 8 mths people couldn't believe my MIL was preg as her bump was so small.

If MW and scans say all's ok. Smile to yourself and wait for the kicks, they're so special.

Tell your DH that all the PG and ex-PG women here say that it's your baby moving and we probably know more about it than he does