I am so ashammed.........

OMG Kels! Is he teething or is he having problems with his teeth or something?

Hugs to you!

PS: Can't think of anything to help you just yet. Something is clearly going on with him though...

Oh no Kels So sorry to hear that. Hope things get better soon. Can you take some time out while you ae away?

I know how it feels to be at the point you are. It's scary feeling like that isn't it?

Hugs to you. Don't forget to breathe.

Oh Kels

At the airport though, gosh that's difficult! Did you go into the parents room opposite the music store? It has a large playspace with couches and a huge abacus.

It doesn't help that you're not well and totally exhausted with the GF too.

I know exactly what you mean though. Michaela has been a real rat recently too, especially on the walk home from the train station which takes me 4 mins by myself and 25 mins with her, and I too find myself being a bit rougher with her when I do pick her up just because I'm so pissed off with her for acting this way. I too feel awful and ashamed for it - this is not the sort of parent I want to be. (thread jack over)

One thing that helps me is to have timeout (michaela is usually such a little sh!t on the way home she's put into timeout the minute we get there). Asking your mum to take him is a really good idea and I know it feels like copping out (I work full time and I miss her so much and really want to spend time with her and then the minute I get home because she's been such a rat all I want to do is be by myself away from her) but you need to have some time to yourself so that you can recharge and really enjoy your time together.

There has to be a reason for the tantrums so maybe you could brainstorm what might be causing them and then work out preventative measures. Ideas of what it could be:

~ tired
~ hungry
~ bored
~ wants to be in control (do you set him little chores and goals?)

I was speaking to a work colleague yesterday that was sent to an orphanage by his mum at 2 years old - if all else fails maybe that's an option

Kels, I don't have any suggestions, but let me know if I can help at all. I'm only around the corner.

aww kels, that makes me so sad to read that! i know when i get tired i tend to react to things that normally i wouldnt, and so the kids then spin off on the lack of consistency. but when you are tired the little things become HUGE. i cant even begin to imagine how strong you are having to be to keep going when all you want to do is crawl into your duvet and emerge in spring.

Alize has been such hard work for you, but he is also a great joy to you. just sometimes difficult to remember that.   I hope you do manage to rest on holiday, if you manage to get down here you can go hide in bed and read books (i have lots and i will look after your ratbag, he will fit in nicely with jordis

know that this is just a short phase in your life. in time you will start to recover, and will start feeling better, and more able to cope with things. but a small time out from alize isnt a bad thing, most people with your illness(s) are off work for the duration, and get to laze in bed with a bell and waiting staff etc etc. you dont have that luxury, i wish you did though!

Aw Kels!! xoxoxoxoxoxox

awww hun its relly not fair when they do this i,ll tell ya what if ya want i will take him for a few hours on monday to give ya a breack if ya want
(i wont be offed if you not keen)

Lots of hugs & love from here

FionaS wrote: Oh hugs hon! Is there any chance you would be able to take him to an osteo or chiro (I sound like a broken record I know)? I know it is expensive but if it is possible I would recommend it as they can pick up on so many things that doctors can't. HUGE hugs. So sorry to hear things are tough for you . Let us know if we can do anything to support you.

Sorry to be the voice of doom here but we tried OSTEO today, I don't think it works for everyone and I wouldn't be quick to recommend it! Lucas screamed for half an hour straight, he started to go blue! He HATED having someone trying to touch him and he clung onto me for dear life, meanwhile the osteo sits there looking at me wondering why I can't console Lucas. I felt like she was judging me when the reason I took him there in the first place was because he gets like this! In fact I was downright farked off when the lady demanded 60bux afterwards, she barely even touched him, maybe patted his back for 2 minutes at that! NOT A HAPPY CUSTOMER! (and yes this was a fully qualified Osteopathic clinic)

On a diff note darling, very big hugs coming your way I know what its like to be on your own & to not have a clean bill of health yourself (although I know GF is very nasty) AND I know what it is like to have an extremely unsettled child who will just scream for hours - it's very unpleasant to say the least!

You definitely deserve a break! I don't really have any advice as such but I'd def pay your GP a visit to get Alize tested for GF & ears infections etc etc, I wouldn't recommend the osteopath just yet.

Fiona's osteo must be a baby whisperer too because ours has made matters ten times worse!

Look after yourself darl, you're a strong woman and an amazing mother. You can get through this!

xxxx

mum2lucas- i think you are right it doesnt work for everyone but we went to chiropracter today (got recommended her as similar to osteo) and he has slept so soundly since he got home its been great...so maybe it is an option....to see if it works?cause it sure did for us.