Helping a worried Hubby???

It can be stressful as the weeks go by and the reality sets in. The same thing happened to my DH before DS1 was born. He started getting headaches and wasn't himself. He didn't even realise he was worried about it and went to the doctor thnkng it was something else. But he was worried about how we would cope on one income and how i would recover from the c section.
What helped was talking about it with him, acknowledging it is scary and hard but we are in it together and will support each other.

Do you have family that can help you and DH after babies born? to support you both? Can you get support for your illness, home help to help as well? this may help you DH as well.

have you got friends who have had a baby that your DH could talk to? Tips on how they cope on one income e.t.c?
this helped my Dh and just relaxing, spending time together.
good luck it is perfectly normal to be worried.
hope that helped a bit

Edited by LJsmum

It is stressful - I think in some ways it is harder for the boys as at least as the Mums we are living the pregnancy day by day and have other things to think about.
I know my DH felt a lot of pressure before our daughter was born. We had never intended for me to be a SAHM (although it worked out that way in the end) but even the thought of being the only income for 6 months was a lot of stress for him. Also he always used to joke about the fact that I would have maternal instinct to fall back on (yeah right!) but he knew nothing about babies and used to worry that he wouldn't bond with our daughter.
I don't know what your income levels are like, but there is help from Working for Families and accomodation supplements available to help supplement money coming in. It might help take a little pressure off his shoulders maybe if he knows there is something to fall back on? Also there are lots of places out there that will help you out with care, housework etc. Ask at your local Plunket to see what's available. I never realised at the time how much free help is actually available to new parents. Wish I had now looking back.

I think the fact that he is worrying already shows what a great Dad he will be. The thing to remember is that babies don't actually need lots of fancy clothes and toys to be happy. They just need a loving enviroment and plenty of cuddles from their parents. I'm sure your DH will be a great Daddy. Good Luck

Edited by Mama2two

Would it help him if you two sat down together and worked through a projected budget? You could do some research on what things will cost, what financial assistance is available, etc first.

A lot of men feel better about the unknown of a first baby by doing something practical to prepare. It must be hard for them looking in from the outside during the pregnancy while we're living it day to day.