Surprise Pregnancies

So yesterday I discovered, very much to my surprise, that I am 5 weeks pregnant. This will be number 2 for us, I was very determined to have a 3 year gap between my 1st and 2nd but it looks like that's not gonna be happening now! I was in quite a bit of shock yesterday because it was so unexpected but am trying to remain philosophical about it - considering the fact that dh and I have had sex ONCE in the last month and we always use contraception, obviously this baby REALLY wants to join us sooner than we had planned!!

It would be great to hear from other Mums who have been surprised by a pregnancy. My last pregnancy was very much planned so this is a very different experience for me! I'd also love to know if there is anyone else who did everything right to keep from getting pregnant (apart from complete abstinence of course!) and it happened anyway?!

I must admit that I am not ready for the morning sickness, giving up sleeping on my tummy for another wee while and the sleepless nights that come with late pregnancy and a newborn. I know that lots of people have a 2 year gap between kids, I'm just not sure that I am cut out for it! I am very excited that we will be adding to our wonderful family, I guess it's just the process that it freaking me out a bit! How did those of you with surprise pregnancies come to terms with the idea, and how long did it take you?

Our second came as a huge shock. Cuinn was IVF and about 5 years in the making and arriving, and we'd just been through 6 months of intense stress (family deaths, new job, moving cities, a close family member having a serious accident) and 3 failed embryo transfers for No.2. I was quite convinced we were a family of 3 - even though we'd been doing embryo transfers, I was quite convinced that there would be no more children for us. Just in case though, about a week before I found out I was pregnant, I plucked up every ounce of courage I had to tell DH that I didn't want to do the remaining transfers which were planned for around now(we have 2 more embryos in storage). What a time He was gutted, although I realised as much as he did that it was an issue we needed to work through. And theeeeen ... I cried for about 2 weeks after finding out (our first was incredbly hard - never slept, screamed 12-16 hours a day, and life just stopped. It was horrible) and I think I only really started coming around to it about a month ago. That's when I started buying and planning essential stuff anyway

Number 3 was my surprise. It was my fault, I totally lost track of where I was in my cycle and thought we were safe. Funnily enough when I told DH I was pregnant and how I got the dates wrong he said, 'Yeah I thought you might have been wrong ..."(!!!!!!)

Anyway, initially I was completely shocked, DH & I had discussed a month or so earlier that 2 was it and I had started 'moving on'. I cried when I got the BFP. I rang DH & cried & I took the day off work. When I went back to work the next day I told my boss and cried. I told 2 of my close workmates & cried!!!!

Then I got really excited. While DD was/is more stressful than DS1, I was still excited to be pregnant (I have pretty straightforward pregnancies) and to be adding to our family. It probably took me a week or 2 to fully adjust to the idea.

How did I come to terms with it? Well, to be honest, we didn't have any choice, lol! Once I saw that I just decided to enjoy it. Now, I would not have it any other way

Just popping in to say congrats kaybee!

Mine was a total random mistake/accident. And TBH if his dad hadnt gotten straight on the phone to his friends to declare excitededly he was going to be a dad things might have gone a whole nother way. But i'm so so pleased he's here. Now. After the shock and terror wore off! Oh - and i was on depo but it was something like the jab wore off on the 20th and i wasnt able to go get the next one til the 14th of the next month so a brief window of oppertunity for one brave sperm in there.

Our first was a suprise and the one I have on the way was planned to be conceived around this month not in January! I found out at 8 weeks as my cycle has been all over the show since getting it back after DD. We have worked out that if I'm not 100% onto taking the pill at the same time each day it doesn't work so will be trying an IUD or something else once this one arrives as if we decide on #3 we want a slightly bigger gap so want something that doesn't rely on me.

We will have almost exactly 2 years between them this one is due Oct 7th and DD was born Nov 2nd 11 days late. I wouldn't be suprised if this baby was late as well.

We were planning on having children in a few years so it just happened earlier than originally planned. DP didn't take the news particuarly well either time but quickly warms up to the idea once we get to the 12 week scan as I think that makes it real for him.

Congrats kaybee!!

Yip, #2 was a surprise for us. Wasn't expecting it at all. It also took us just the once this time. Was kind of expecting it to take a bit longer than it did.

Takes aaaaages to sink in, we've actually been so busy that I haven't even thought about having another newborn around. A bit freaked out about it, but I think once he or she comes along you'll be more than happy about the age gap.

Mine were planned so can't help with that..but have an almost exact two year age gap (though it peeves me off when people say i planned it that way i had two mc's and just by chance the boys were both due the same day lol we didn't plan it that way!!!!!)

2 years is a hard age gap in the beginning..well I found it hard.. balancing his needs with the babys and also a hubby home on ACC lol.. but now they are 3 and a bit and almost 14 months and it's brilliant. they laugh and play together and we love it.. so yeah it is a hard gap but it's great after a little while..all the best with it!:)

My defacto wife and I have also had a surprise week and 1/2 ago - she is also 5 weeks pregnant (6 1/2 now i guess). This is our first EVER pregnancy, but the upshot is she is 46yold. This is a real surprise, we've been trying on and off for a long, long time. We had kinda given up completely last year. She reckons that must have been the "relax everything" factor.
We are hoping this is one determined sperm & egg. Perhaps chances in any given month of conceiving after 45yo are at 1% according to something I read tonight. 1% added to our combined lack of "chances" : I reckon this baby is going to have a seriously dry sense of humour. JavaScript:AddSmileyIcon('')
But what a special surprise!

Our number two was a surprise we were not trying but not being careful either! However I have not used contraception since before DS1.
Anyway got PG in Jan instead of this month then found out at scan that we are having twins so very big surprise!!