2nd/3rd/4th time ... what would you do different

Merry Christmas! for the record I'm stuck at work so thought I'd peruse here

I *might* be UTD with #2 and DD1 would be 3 when next one arrives.

My DD1 is just over 2 and I purposely went into parenting blind, I didn't read too much information past pregnancy and labour.
The thing that happened though was I completly unprepared for alot of things, I had no idea how hard BFing would be, brought all totally the wrong clothes, my MW sent DH out shopping to buy some clothes for her!

I'm nervous about having such a hard time BFing again, I expressed for 12 weeks as DD was a little premmie and couldn't latch, plus I had no idea what I was doing.

I know I'd be far more prepared for what things I would need for baby, the right clothes (warm enough), loads of muslin wipes etc.

I felt like I stuffed up alot of things the first time, I was a nervous wreck and I think I ended up with a bit of PND, although I battled through without any formal support. I know with an active toddler around I can't afford to be sitting in the corner crying, I guess I'm just getting my head around it all.

What would you do different now that you know what you know?
Any advice appreciated

Thank you TL
I think you're right though, be more trusting of your instincts rather than doubting, we spent 2 weeks in NICU, I ended up terrified to go home! I didn't want to leave!
Depending on how you look at it, at least we've got some prem clothes if we need them, DD didn't fit her 0-3 clothes until she was around 4-5 months old, so FX we have another girl, or we might have a very pretty boy

I have two, and while I was pretty happy with how the first year with #1 went, I was much more aware of how fleeting everything is the second time round. E.g. Baby catnapping? I knew that after a very short year she was unlikely to be, and didn't waste any energy or stress on trying to resettle her for longer sleeps.

One thing that I did the first time and was keen to repeat the second time was deciding that babies are babies for such a short time, and I was going to do what worked for us as far as the 'other' things in life that we did. For us, it's easier to take it easy and ease back on the social life for the first year. For others it might be best to get baby to fit in with their plans... I firmly believe that neither's wrong butyou'll be a lot happier if you do what works for you.