Anyone want a free toddler?

Can't say much except that I feel your pain!

DS is the same Alex, he really hurts his sister sometimes, pushes her hits her, hits her with toys, slaps her but he is getting better, its just the age they are at and some are worse than others, DS is quite bad!

But, DD gets her own back now!

I just tell him off(and her if she does the same to him), he gets put in his room and told off, and I just get really tough if he packs a wobbly and wont stay in there, I keep putting him back every time.

Man, I know what you are going through. Some things that have helped a little though not completely fixed it, in our home are:
My 3yo goes straight to time out if he screams at or hits his brother (2yo). At first I even had to hold the door closed while he was in time out in his room. While he is in time out I give his brother attention. When I bring him out again he has to apologise and I continue attention on 2yo for a little longer.
I have been working hard at getting my 3yo to stop and speak his frustration. Usually he is mad at his brother cause said brother stole a toy. I have been insisting 3yo stops and asks his brother for toy back. When he starts to scream because a toy is taken I call out his name until he stops and say "What do you need to do?" He now has got to a point where he turns and asks his brother. I then I have to insist brother gives the toy back... :-) It is impressive to see how far he has come but it is still far from perfect...
If he likes to play on his own then you could try setting him up in his room with door closed so his younger sibling can't get to him.
I have also put strong limits on certain toys so each boy has toys that belong to only them and their brother is NOT allowed to touch.

Hang in there, they say it is a phase....

I just realised your second is quite a bit younger. Sorry some of this might not apply. I would encourage you to give him a space that your daughter can't get to so he can play without her touching everything. Also try and talk through with him what he can do if he is feeling mad at his sister and say "I love you" loads...

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i initially had the same thought you did regarding time out in their bedroom being fun - HOWEVER after reading diane levy's of course i love you now go to your room, i use it all the time - its not about punishment really its bout giving them time to think about their behaviour i use 2 minutes increments so she goes in for two minutes i go in ask if she is ready to play nice and apologise if the answer is no then i close the door - even if she is in her room playing with her toys she is not hurting her sister and is having some much needed space. so until she can say to me that she is ready to come out and play nice then she stays in her room. Also she tells me when her sister is annoying her and if she is playing in the lounge then i tell her if she doesnt want to play with her sister she has to go into her room to play otherwise she has to share. sorry hope that makes a little sense

putting them in time out isnt just about giving them a boring place to be - its taking them away from you and your attention. if it were me i would put him in his room when he hits her, so what if he is playing in there.   eventually he will get sick of missing out on you so often. so long as you explain why he was in there and give him some options and examples of good playing.

I put my toddler in his room too, with no time limit though - he just knows that he's not allowed to come out unless he apologises or is ready to do whatever it is I had him in there for not doing (ie: eating his dinner!). most times he's in there for less than a minute before he comes out with kisses and apologies for everyone...

Ethan never once tried to hurt him when he was little but now he's getting bigger he does ..mostly he pushes him over cause he wants to he tells me..but he also spends 70% of the time being nice to him...so that's good...

for us i used to just tell him off or give him time out in the room we were in but that didn't work so now he goes in his room.... i dont like time out in cots but he is in bed so tis all good now and he just goes in there for everyone to calm down... and i make a big deal of Liam as well..having said thatLiam hits back sometimes now too and i have to make sure i tell Liam off too lol....

anyway hugs... if you want a break anytime come over!!:) i never yell unless things get very bad and that helps for us cause he's not getting all that attention..but thats mostly pre school training ...lol... anyway i hope he grows out of it soon!

Wow! All you yellers, I know what you mean. I feel horrible about it as I feel I'm yelling all the time! I'm thinking I need to return to work and put them both in Daycare for all of our sanity, though I feel bad as my little guy hasn't had as much time at home with mummy.

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