So, what’re you in for?
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Forum Name: Coping with infertility
Forum Description: Have you been trying to conceive unsuccessfully? Dealing with primary or secondary infertility? Get support, advice, and help coping here.
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Topic: So, what’re you in for?
Posted By: ginger
Subject: So, what’re you in for?
Date Posted: 02 June 2007 at 9:02am
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Hello, my name is Ginger, and I'm an alcoholic.
Oops, no. Wrong forum 
Hello, my name is Ginger. I am infertile and I have a sick sense of humour ... 
Seriously though, there are a few of us in here, and of late, I've been hiding a bit so I've lost touch with who's in and what for. So, I thought I'd post this to get us all in one place, introducing ourselves and our issue. Here's me ... I'm 28, TTC 25 cycles, and under FA. We have both female and male factor infertility - I have endo (surgery Sept '06, symptoms back again by March/April '07), and DH has significant motility/morphology issues. IVF is planned for later this year (1x private cycle). ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
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Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 02 June 2007 at 11:44am
he he he ginger! Ya have to have some sort of sense of humour when ya have been TTC this long!  and i think yours is great!!!! 
well..... I'm 26 and we have been TTC since September 05 I have PCOS and as a result my ovulation is VERY few and far between my longest cycle yet has been 109 days and that was ended with the help of a wee drug called provera . we also have some mild (as the specialist puts it) male issues aswell. So at the moment we are doing some rounds of clomid to get me ovulating (not that it has the last 3 rounds that i have taken  )but thats ok because i am increasing my dosage to 150mg (1st dosage you try is 50mg) in a couple of weeks so i'm hoping my ovaries behave and do what they are suppose to!!! and if clomid doesent work we are working our way up from there.
Oh yea... Great idea Ginger!!!!
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Posted By: topcat
Date Posted: 02 June 2007 at 12:09pm
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Hello,
I see you both have replies in my thread about FA appt- but for any others. I am 33, TTC for 18months to two years. No children currently. First Appt at FA in two weeks, unknown if any fertility issues as yet, norml bloods at GP apparently ok. Dh has some issues but not strictly if unless proven otherwise |
Posted By: bumblefoot
Date Posted: 02 June 2007 at 7:26pm
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Hi Ginger, Im in here for good now. Got DF's results back today, and he is practically infertile. Under 14million, sluggish and 94% deformed. So Im not sure where we go from here, but it really does suck. I thought all along it would be me that was the problem, but apparatnly all my levels are very good. Sigh. So for the intro, I am 21and DF is 20, been TTC for 13months, and soon to be under the Fertility Docs at Otago. Will keep you posted. Bit low about it to be honest, but cant really show it to DF, as he would be so gutted, he already feels bad about it, so Im glad I can come on here and vent. Do some baking and eat it all I think is in order... Just sucks that little bit more that Im about to ovulate in about 24hrs, so was all geared up so to speak. Really wonder if there is any point now. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 02 June 2007 at 7:58pm
 to you bumblefoot, i'm sorry to hear your news its amazing what modern medicine can do these days so dont give up hun!
And i agree with you its great to be able to come on here and chat about ya feelings, and everyone understands what ya going through, rather than lump it all on ya partner or on friends and family members who (no offence) have no idea how we feel. And no no no dont waste your egg! you never know miracles do happen! and you've gota be in to win! so to speak! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 02 June 2007 at 9:27pm
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I posted under your comment in the planning thread bumblefoot (incidentally, I've just today worked out where your handle comes from. Have been wondering about the 'bumblefoot' and tied it to GNR. Am I right?).
I am so, so sorry you're here, and you know how I mean that. In all honesty, you have to make a whole new plan of attack for yourself now. You must give yourself new focus', and treats and plans and things. Talk to us whenever you need to, of course. Noodle's right too ...people who aren't going through IF have no idea. They have no point of reference, and you can explain until you're blue in the face. It won't make a difference. What's the bet you tell someone your problem, and they tell you to relax about it? I hope you're baking a chocolate cake! ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 02 June 2007 at 9:28pm
109 days Noodle?? 
I'd have torn my hair out by the roots! What's the clomid like Noodle? I have a feeling I'm going to be on it shortly, and bizzarely, I'm terrified of it! ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 02 June 2007 at 9:57pm
ha ha ha yea 109days was a bit extreme and i was well and truely over it! and i managed to keep all of me ginger locks firmly attached to my head! ha ha ha 
Clomid isn't that great but its not that bad either there is a wide range of side effects that you may experiance and some of them i was really scared of, but not everyone gets them and everyone experiances different ones, the ones i have had all 3 times of taking the clomid have been: headaches, not sleeping well, hot flushes, night sweats, REALLY bad hormonal moments of losing the plot (DH copes well with them now  and they dont last too long) a bit of nausea and my ovaries felt like they were the size of tennis balls! and that was about it i think.
I hope i havn't made you even more terrified of it but if you are like me i like to know what i am in for,(and any less than that and ya count ya self lucky ) but the side effects only seem to last for the 5 days of taking it and about a week or so after so its all over with pretty quickly and I think it will be well worth it in the end ya acheive ya dream!
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Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 02 June 2007 at 10:11pm
If there's a side effect, I'll get it. I'd bet you money on it ... I can't even take vitamins without side effects  But, trying not to think about it - and you're right. It's worth it for the end result. And besides, whatever we go through now, will nothing compared to dealing with a pubescent teen, right?? ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 02 June 2007 at 10:18pm
he he he yea those teen years aren't going to be that much fun!!!!  ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: pikelets
Date Posted: 03 June 2007 at 4:20pm
Hi everyone 
Great idea Ginger - its good to have a thread to find out what stage we are all up to. DH and I have been trying since August 05. 
Had a lap and dye through F+ at the beginning of the year - all normal. DH sperm tests ok too. So we are unexplained! We have been told to wait for another 3 years (so 5 yrs in total of TTC) before we get any further treatment or investigation through the public system. We have decided to go private so our first appointment with FA is in 3 weeks. Big hugs to everyone and good luck
PS Bumblefoot dont give up hope. There is always a chance. Miracles do happen
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Posted By: LuluBelle85
Date Posted: 03 June 2007 at 5:51pm
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Hi all
I'm Lou from CHCH PCOS diagnosed at 16 (am 22 now) - Also suspected Endo, need to have surgery very soon to check. DH and I have been TTC for approx 2 years with no luck. Currently not looking like I'm ovulating at all, so trying to lose weight to help. Have been taking metformin for a while (4 pills a day). Next step, clomid, but want to lose at LEAST 40 kgs (a lot I know, but that's just scratching the surface'. DH's sperm count is great, but doc said some are sticking together, so should be 'cleaned out' at least every other day (LOL, he wishes). :) By the way, my ticker is wrong, I have put on 500 grams, D'oh! |
Posted By: bumblefoot
Date Posted: 03 June 2007 at 7:47pm
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Boweeza you have done well for 6weeks! (and that is taking into account the 500gms) Have you tried swimming? I never lost weight faster than when I was swimming, and it didnt feel like much at the time. Oh and there are some nice heated pools in ChCh (my home town). A few years ago I was training for the paralympics and found that 30mins in the gym twice a week and a few sessions in the pool I was fit as a fiddle, but then again when you add in the HOURS of intensive workout I had to do at home and on the track, well... but that didnt start til way after. Ginger you are so right, I need to make a plan for myself now that we know it is going to be a long way off babywise. So Im baking choc chip cookies tonight, which I might add is my speciality, and perhaps a choc crunch tomorrow, and Im going to start back on my gym regime, I always feel good when I do it, and it will keep the Dunedin cold at bay! So positive outlook ON, negative outlook OFF, and plans to not waste big fat eggie put into action...As they say, you gotta be in to win! And you never know, it only takes one of this little suckers to make a baby. Thats all we need. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: bumblefoot
Date Posted: 03 June 2007 at 7:50pm
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Oh, and Ginger, I TOO have a sick sense of humour! Oh and did I mention that I bit the bullet and have added Theatre/Drama studies to my Uni courses list? DF says Im a drama queen anyway, so why not have the piece of paper that says Im perfectly qualified to do so? Roll on next semester... ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: LuluBelle85
Date Posted: 13 June 2007 at 8:47am
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Thanks Bumblefoot!
Yeah, I'm too embarassed to go swimming - I'd look like a whale, LOL!
Oh and Ginger... I'm pretty sure we all have a sick sense of humour
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Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 13 June 2007 at 11:32am
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It's kind of par for the course really
DH has gotten into the habit, if I moan about infertility, of giving me a stern look and asking me "Well, have you 'just relaxed' today?"
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Posted By: bumblefoot
Date Posted: 14 June 2007 at 10:29am
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My mother actually had the gall the other week to offer the advice of "well perhaps you just want it so badly that it is stressing you out too much, and the pregnancy wont hold while you are stressed out?" WHAT!? Are you serious woman or just plain HIGH?! I often dont tell people we are TTC or that we are going to be having IVF. They just dont fully understand what its like to be going thru this. I have two SIL's due in a few weeks time, and they are both drug using no hopers (to be really frank about it) and they both have kids already. And it just make sme so mad, I just dont understand how it can be fair that they can get pg so easily and we have to struggle and we would make such great parents. I guess it doesnt help that Im at Uni for 12hours a day at the moment, and so Ive got time to dwell on it, plus AF is on her way in three days and Im feeling the most incredible bitchiness coming on, like earthshatteringly bad. So heaven help who pushes in front of me in line for the drinking fountain, coz Il be letting rip in the most amazing fashion. Probably good thing Ive packed DF off to CHCH for 2weeks to visit the fams, coz Im sure it wouldnt be any picnic for him tip toeing around me while Im a PMS cow. Ah good times... ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: KiwiL
Date Posted: 14 June 2007 at 11:18am
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Hi guys,
I'm not sure that I even belong in here yet, (I hope not!) but at the moment I don't really feel I belong anywhere, so I just try to hang out all over the place. (Hmm, bizarre mental image there!). I'm almost 28, and DH and I have been TTC since April 2006, so not a terribly long time in the scheme of things and compared to other people here. We had a M/C after conceiving on cycle 2 back in August 2006. Since then we've had no luck. Sounds like our conception might have been something of a small miracle as DH has quite a few fertility issues (low count, motility, abnormalites etc etc), and kind of explains why we've since carried on with no luck. Myself, I have a number of ovarian cysts which are supposedly functional in nature, so we're trying to get rid of them by me going back on the pill for a few months. I'm really hoping that, after I stop the pill I will be super fertile again and we'll get another one of those miracles. But I'm also now prepared that that might not happen and that we might have to explore other options. I don't really know a lot about what our other options are at the moment - I'm trying to ignore it until I know one way or the other about these pesky cysts! Anyway - hi! |
Posted By: pikelets
Date Posted: 14 June 2007 at 7:10pm
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Hi Laurie
You will find lots of support here with lots of people that understand what you are going through. You have been trying over 12mths and it is harder to cope with as time goes on. Fingers crossed it wont be much longer for you. Have you been to see a specialist like F+ or FA at all?
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Posted By: mellybelly
Date Posted: 14 June 2007 at 8:32pm
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I too have been hiding of late....
We've been TTC for far too long, don't want to count the cycles (its depressing ) - put it this way we are eligible for public IVF treatment as of Sept 07, well on the waitlist anyway. I'm 32 (nearly 33) DH is 33 (nearly 34 - he'll hate me putting that...)
I was diagnosed with Endo in december after it was discovered during investigative Lap as I didn't have any symptoms. Surgery was in Dec, we m/c May 06 with D&C to follow... We are trying, up to 3 rounds of Clomid, but put it off this month due to DH being away this week (THE Week.....). If that doesn't work we have decided to go private with FA and pay for IVF ourselves, atleast the first round and see what happens - still get to stay on the public waitlist. At the moment there seem to be pregnant people all over work, one left on maternity leave on friday, one goes in Aug, another in Sept and just found out today that someone else is preggers, not to mention two other friends due Aug & Oct!!!! If it was a disease I'd be immune, well that's how i'm feeling anyway. Still though gotta stay positive...
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Posted By: topcat
Date Posted: 15 June 2007 at 7:27am
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Hello again everyone, yes everybody is really supportive and its cool to have other people that are experiencing similar problems and are not saying stupid insensitive things... just a shame we have to be here at all. Had our first FA appt yestd.. I have to have blood test done in four weeks (bugger AF's timing!!) and DH STILL has to do semen analysis, which is going to be tricky at best.
ANyway Lou, have you tried sureslim? Its expensive but I started and its hard work but they get good results. I lost 12kg on a similar programe, and started Sureslim last week, lost 2.5kg in first week, still have another 13 to go!! 
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Posted By: LuluBelle85
Date Posted: 15 June 2007 at 1:52pm
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Yeah I did sureslim when it first came out and absolutely hated it. I'm a really fussy eater. Haha. Basically I just try to stick to Low GI eating which is the best for PCOS and go to weightwatchers purely for the motivation and meetings
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Posted By: KiwiL
Date Posted: 17 June 2007 at 8:44pm
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Thanks Star. It's been really interesting to read posts in here, I have been learning quite a lot although a lot still goes over my head.
We've not yet been referred to any specialists. I'm trying to get rid of these cysts and if that happens successfully DH will go have his tests again with FA, just so we have a more accurate idea of what we're dealing with. If after everything else it's still not looking good we'll get referred and take it from there. There really is so much to know and learn - maybe at the moment I am guilty of trying to ignore it and hope it goes away!! Good luck to everyone, of course. |
Posted By: pikelets
Date Posted: 18 June 2007 at 7:44pm
Thats exactly what I was like too! I was in total denial. Everytime I had to go to F+ I was so upset that it made it all "real" and I didnt want it to be real. I havent even told my family yet. I dont know much about cysts, but cant they refer you to FA or F+ now as you will probably have to wait for a few months before you get an appointment. |
Laurie wrote:Posted By: KiwiL
Date Posted: 19 June 2007 at 8:58am
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Hmmm, I'm not sure. I think my doc is hoping that when the cysts go away (if they do) then DH and I might just be able to pull off another conception.
I've been told if the scan in a couple of months still show the cysts I will be referred straight away. I don't think the wait is so long in Wellington, but I could be wrong. DH already has a little slip of paper that lets him go off to FA and get his swimmers tested. We're waiting on things to settle down at work for him and he'll do the test just before I come off the pill again. After that, it'll be multi-vitamins and loose boxers for him, an absolutely by-the-book diet for both of us, and legs up the wall after the BDing!!
I'm keeping my fingers crossed. If after a few months that hasn't worked then I guess we'll have to face facts and see what FA can do for us. Luckily we're both only 28, so we do have time on our sides. Just wish I wasn't so impatient! |
Posted By: Mrs Miggins
Date Posted: 29 June 2007 at 11:42pm
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Hi I'm Mrs Miggins, Migs to my friends ( and my DH). i am 38 (whoops, left it a bit late) but I'm sure I only look 30 although my eggs would beg to differ! My DH has mobility and morphility (sp) issues, but as I haven't been tested, I'm quite sure that my bit's are a bit wrinkly too!!! We have been together 12 years and have been TTC for about 4 years... We have completed 2 cycles of ICSI (publicly funded)and are now about to embark on our 3rd cycle. Am having a bit of a breather at the moment but will definitely do another when we can.
Laurie, I actually asked the specialist if I should pop my legs up the wall afterwards ( I was kinda taking the P*ss), he laughed and said, "if you want to do that, you are more than welcome, but I don't think it will make much difference"....... I can't say I have tried, that one as yet, but I'm not pregnant yet, so maybe it is worth a crack!!!!!! |
Posted By: topcat
Date Posted: 01 July 2007 at 2:32pm
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Hey I read somewhere that the legs up the wall can actually stop travel, as semen pools in the wrong place, kind of overshoots the mark so to speak????
Anyway I am still here, got all optomistic about finally being seen by FA, next appt is supposed to be in three weeks but DH still hasnt had his semen analysis. Medication causing havoc and usual method to avail of sample dont work and we could try special (dam expensive condom) but hes not a "morning" man and with limited hours that lab is open I fear I will have to postpone appt or just give up altogether, cant see anyway around it very depressed
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Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 07 July 2007 at 6:46pm
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Goodness topcat, there's a mental image and a half!
I'm so glad you got that sample   ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
Posted By: topcat
Date Posted: 07 July 2007 at 9:18pm
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Thanx ginger and that was the same day we paid out $50 for Two (YES TWO) viagra tablets that we didnt end up using!!!!!
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Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 07 July 2007 at 10:28pm
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You can always use them next time you feel like skipping TV for an evening topcat
Oh, and $50.00?  Eek! Still, all for a good cause hmmm?
Jess - I thought you'd put TTC on hold for a bit! The hold is off I take it? ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
Posted By: topcat
Date Posted: 25 July 2007 at 1:19am
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Yup ginger, all for a good cause, the viagra tablets are still in the cupboard, we were thinking that too for a night with crappy tv!!
Anyway we had our follow up at FA today and they tell us that DHs sample contained no sperm at all. So now we are very confused and both very down they want to send DH to have a biopsy done and see if there are any sperm there or not yikes
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Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 25 July 2007 at 5:24pm
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oh top cat hun! hopefully the biopsy will have a bit better results than the other test! fingers crossed for you! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: pikelets
Date Posted: 25 July 2007 at 7:50pm
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Topcat!
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Posted By: Joolee
Date Posted: 30 July 2007 at 8:26am
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Hi Ladies - I'm Joolee, actually Julie but I like spelling it different. A wannabe rebel! Been a member for a wee while but wasn't sure if I should post given that my circumstances are quite different to most of you, altho we too have been thru IVF.
I have 2ndary IF, most likely due to my age. Hormones still at normal levels, still ovulating, everything fine except for the introductions not happening. Sperm does not seem to meet egg. We've been lucky tho - we have 8 mth old Nick - from our 2nd IVF cylce. Nick is my DH's first child but I have a family from a previous marriage. Now we're trying for another, but we won't do IVF again - too expensive, and anyway we think we hit the jackpot once already. But hey - who knows! IF is certainly a new perspective - and you're right, those who've never experienced it have no idea. It was certainly a shock to me. Hope you all don't mind me posting on here ... |
Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 30 July 2007 at 9:46am
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Hi Julie
Welcome to OHbaby Congratulations on Nick, and all the best TTC No. 2 naturally. ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 30 July 2007 at 10:03am
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Hi Julie! good luck with ttc #2 naturally, fingers crossed for you hun! oh and welcome! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: tropics
Date Posted: 05 August 2007 at 7:11pm
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Hey Girls
Not sure where I "live" at the moment as far as fertility is concerned? I have been ttc since september last year, went for 3 months without a period then good old provera brought one on and kick started things....cycles 47 days long and found out have pcos.....went to FA told didnt ovulate...went away to loose weight before starting clomid then had BFP shock horror! (concieved naturally) then had missed MC and D&C now just waiting for AF to arrive.....hope it doesnt take 3 months again! so not sure if the BFP was a miricle or not???? Im 28...29 in 2 months and DH 30 not sure if DH has any problems as he escaped having the sperm test when I got the BFP! the jars still in the bathroom though...so my plan is to focus back on diet and exercise and ttc will be a parallel (easier said than done ) if nothing by xmas back to FA and hopefully a skinner me
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Posted By: topcat
Date Posted: 10 August 2007 at 1:34am
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Hi Kye,
good luck, you hang in there - you are a great age, still got heaps and heaps of time on your side. Might pay to get DH to do his tests, although if you conceived once at least you know you can, hopefully that a good sign, wishing you all the best
oh and the weight loss thing is not easy, have just lost 17kg myself and it was really hard going so good luck with that too |