3 children vs 2 children
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Topic: 3 children vs 2 children
Posted By: my2angels
Subject: 3 children vs 2 children
Date Posted: 10 January 2007 at 9:52am
| I would love the opinion of all you lovely ladies with 3 children or more. Im trying to decide if we should stop at 2 children as we have always planned or go for a third a little down the track. I know i dont have to decide now but its been playing on my mind a bit and everyone always asks if we are going to have any more kids. I just cant get out of my head that I havent finished having children and everyone reckons I will have another which is so odd to me cos Ive only ever wanted 2, not sure why Im having second thoughts now. So my question is.... is it really much harder having 3 than it is having 2? Obviously its going to be a bit more expensive but Im trying not to think of it in that way, more can I handle having 3 and what are the pros and cons. Any thoughts? |
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Posted By: My3Sons
Date Posted: 10 January 2007 at 10:04am
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We are debating this too at the moment!! Will check back and see what the mums of 3 have to say! ------------- Mum to Mr 10, Mr 6 and Mr 4 
 
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 10 January 2007 at 10:28am
Can't say yet!  ------------- |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 10 January 2007 at 11:07am
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I heard that too Keri...I have two line and I am only planning two children!!
My Grandma (who was a good card reader type person)...told me I would have two children, girl and then a boy!! I half believe these things but so far its come true!! Totally off topic!! Sorry!  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: nuttymama
Date Posted: 10 January 2007 at 11:13am
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We have three kids and I can't say it was any harder moving from three to two. I was exactly like you and never quite felt after two that I was done. Now with the three my family feels complete. Although we have quite good age gaps between our children so arm wise it was much easier as there was less competing for time. I always say the hardest is your first and then it gets easier from there. ------------- Abigail 06/01/2005 Jayden 21/11/2001 Micheal 03/04/1997 |
Posted By: EllenMumof2
Date Posted: 10 January 2007 at 3:09pm
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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 10 January 2007 at 3:37pm
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I cant tell how many lines i have, one hand has heaps and the other has about 3 I think.
Whats your age gap Vick? Im thinking IF we have another i would try getting pregnant in a year so Kobe will just about be at school when baby arrives and Addison would be two going on three. |
Posted By: mum2emj
Date Posted: 10 January 2007 at 9:18pm
im a mum of 3 
i have found it fine to have one extra, not too different really. maybe a little bit more work and money but its soooooooo great and well worth it after my second i didnt really know if i wanted another, it was a possibility but not definate. we decided to try for literally 2 months and then we would stop (like a flip of a coin thing! lol) and as it happened we concieved the first month we tried so must of meant to be. i know that if i hadnt of gotten pregnant with kayla then i wouldnt of tried and we would just be a family of 4 but im so happy we did make it 5
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 10 January 2007 at 9:36pm
Haha Rachel, gonna "flip a coin" again?  Sounds risky!------------- |
Posted By: nuttymama
Date Posted: 11 January 2007 at 7:25am
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Hi my2Angels we have a 4 and a half year gap between No 1 and 2 and a 3 year age gap between No 2and 3 which has worked out really well for us as Abbys now the dreaded two and Jayden has just started school so it means I have been able to have a lot of one on one time with all my kids while they were young. ------------- Abigail 06/01/2005 Jayden 21/11/2001 Micheal 03/04/1997 |
Posted By: mum2emj
Date Posted: 11 January 2007 at 7:46am
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no more flipping a coin for me busymum! lol... my age gaps are between 1 and 2 is 17 months, 2 and 3 there is 2 years 4 months i like both age gaps for different reasons... i would have to say though that if i was to have another i would want it to be closer to the 17 month gap than the 2.4 year gap.
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Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 11 January 2007 at 7:50am
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we are going with the flow now. Juut a little bit of what will be will be. I have been told its harder to go fron 1 to 2 then 2 to 3. I think it depend's a little on the age gap too. We want a small one, but i am guessing a bigger age gap will be easier. Really I am not help at all sorry. ------------- Deborah Mum to:   
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 11 January 2007 at 8:23am
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I found a small age gap between my kids has helped them adjust really easily. But in saying that, it means I have two in nappies at a time.... but then you just change the toddler straight after the baby and it's all done in one! ------------- |
Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 11 January 2007 at 8:51am
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Yeah I +have found that part easier I remember th chage toddler more often cause I have baby to do. ------------- Deborah Mum to:
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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 11 January 2007 at 9:14am
| Thats interesting most of you think that going from 2 to 3 is easier than 1 to 2. I have found going from 1 to 2 reasonably easy, that could be that both children are fairly laid back and Kobe has adjusted well plus he was toilet trained about 3 months after Addison arrived so we only have to buy one lot of nappies still. I worry that with having two great children I might be jinxing myself if i go for a third. Might end up with a sick grumpy baby and become completely stressed out. If we do go for a third I still think i would wait a couple of years so that Kobe would be at school. Thanks heaps of the input everyone, its fantastic being able to hear from people who have actually experienced what its like. |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 11 January 2007 at 10:19am
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I went from 1 to 3 all in one go And still haven't completely ruled out having another one (note ONE!) in a couple of years time so it can't be too bad.
One thing I've found really hard (apart from the obvious having two babies at the same time) is having sick babies which has meant poor Maya has been passed around a lot. I'm really lucky that she's so adaptable but it broke my heart everytime I had to leave her to take one or other baby to hospital again. But now that the babies are much more settled and haven't been sick for a few weeks I am finding things much easier, and we kind of just go with the flow. I actually can't imagine having only two now (or remember what it was like having only one!) ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 26 January 2007 at 4:09pm
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Well I'm still pretty new to 3, but I just thought I'd update you to say that the change this time has worked so much easier this time. I put it down to a settled baby (#2 had silent reflux), 3yo who knew what was happening in advance this time, 1yo who is already used to sharing me, and the older two play together. I think the hardest part is trying to co-ordinate 3 sleeps so that I can have a break too, but I'm only needing a rest about every second day now - and that's with a 2wo! ------------- |