Trouble at creche
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Topic: Trouble at creche
Posted By: meow
Subject: Trouble at creche
Date Posted: 13 December 2006 at 10:17pm
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Ella has been going now for about 5 weeks, the first 3 I stayed with her (it was only one day a week). Now she is going 2 times a week and the first time I left her she was absolutely fine, loved it.. then this week I had to pick her up early as she was crying and they couldn't calm her.
Today I had to pick her up at 10.30am! It starts at 9am.. She tried every delay tactic in the book before I left her and she was crying when I left. I think part of it is that teachers keep changing, they have appointments so have to get relievers in.. I don't think they should be doing it that much as Ella esp gets unsettled when the people she knows aren't there.. Does anyone have any tips for me? I'm starting to dread taking her there now and it's the only break I have.. it finishes next week until Feb so just as she starts getting used to it I'll have to start all over again in Feb. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 13 December 2006 at 10:18pm
Oh yeah, forgot to add, she doesn't just cry, she gets really angry and stubborn and won't do things like wash her hands when asked, won't eat her lunch, won't do anything they use to try and distract her. That's when they call me  ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: nuttymama
Date Posted: 14 December 2006 at 6:39am
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I wish I could give you some good advise, but the best I can say is don't give up or she wins. Keep at it when they go back next year and she will eventually realise that she is going there and will have to stay there and she will come to love it in time. Abby started a month back and she is just starting to settle with distractions. Although I have never had to pick her up early. I think your right the main thing is having the same staff on consistantly Abby has attached herself to one lady and she always settles Abby in when I leave. On the days where she wouldn't do anything they just left her to her own devices and now she's as happy as, well until I have to resettle her again next year. Some of it does come down to how good the staff are and how patient they are, so maybe that's the problem.
But hang in there it's good for her to be there and good for you to have a break all I can say is be strong and it will get better. ------------- Abigail 06/01/2005 Jayden 21/11/2001 Micheal 03/04/1997 |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 14 December 2006 at 11:23am
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See who her primary carer is and get her to "latch" to her. I find some days that when I drop Andrew off if she isn't there it is very hard to get him to go to someone else, it does take time then he goes to someone else. Does she have a toys she takes everywhere with her, get her to take that with her so she has something to comfort her. Andrew is attached to Tigger and he goes everywhere with us and to make things easy at daycare he goes there too, if not try and get something for her to cuddle. Andrew sometimes wave goodbye to me from the teachers office, if they have something at the place she goes to that can see the carpark then see if that works. I also tell Andrew that after he has his sleep and afternoon tea mummy will come and pick him up, it makes him know that I will be coming back and he can put it to activities that he has. Maybe explain that mummy has to go somewhere (make something up if you need to) that she can't go to as well. If Andrew becomes a handful when i'm dropping him off I tell him that mummy is going to university (usually true) and Andrew can't come - he then realises that he has to stay there and becomes happy after a while. Talking with the head teacher to see if there are any children her age and getting her to form a friendship with them. Andrew has 2 boys that were born either day of him and the 3 of them are great friends and at times the worst of enemies but they play together all the time, getting her to do that with another person may help. Talking about things she can do there that she may not be able to at home - messy play stuff - usually gets them into it. Telling Andrew that he might be able to play with slime gets him all excited about going. If you want anymore ideas, I can have a look in my early childhood books for more tricks - let me know. Hope that stuff may help you. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 14 December 2006 at 11:35am
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Don't let her delay your departure at first, be matter of fact. Tell her you'll be back after morning tea time or lunch time or whatever time landmark she can understand and stick with that. Quick kiss, bye, out the door.
The relief teachers will be causing her some unsettlement, have a talk with someone there and see if that is usual or if it's just because of the time of year. If it is usual you might want to look at a different place. Since you only have a week left, I'd actually drop it, start the holidays a bit early, and give it a fresh go next year. She will remember some of this next year so you don't want to make it too big a deal. Hope that helps. -------------  |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 14 December 2006 at 10:07pm
i,m with busymum on this one if having alot of reliving theachers is the norm and its unsettiling you wee girl then i would find a notherone as well my james is alot like his mum and donst cope with change very well but at his childcare he always has at least 3 theachers he knows ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 18 December 2006 at 2:56pm
Thanks for all your advice  It will be useful next year when I start all over again.. I've decided not to send her this week as we both had sore throats over the weekend and now colds.. plus there is a playgroup party on her last day that I'd rather she go to.------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 18 December 2006 at 4:31pm
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We found the same, and sometimes still do. We have a routine with Paris that has worked and we stick to it.. she goes with us to drop off Ayja, puts ayja's bottles in the fridge, then off to "senior school" where she either has a puzzle we do with her, or a story (something with a CLEAR end point) then kiss, cuddles and bye bye, if she is having a down day we will take her over to where a teacher is doing something and they are good with gettingstuff to do together, either that or even just taking her to the window and she waves as we walk across the carpark. I know that maybe she might be difficult, but am unsure if ringing you and getting you to come is a great idea.. considering she will then know if she kicks up enough of a stinker they'll ring mummy and she gets to go home.
Hope it gets better for you.. kinda sucks when they do that. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 18 December 2006 at 7:49pm
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Thanks.. I think the reason she was getting upset is that the woman she trusted kept going out to appointments..so I'm going to ask them if things will settle down in the new year ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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