Belly Touching
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Topic: Belly Touching
Posted By: AbzandH
Subject: Belly Touching
Date Posted: 29 November 2011 at 8:17pm
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How does everyone feel about it??
I'm only 14 weeks and met with a bunch of friends on Saturday for brunch and all but 1 decided they "HAD" to keep touching my belly... it makes me feel sooooo uncomfortable and I actually find it really rude! I bought it up tonight while chatting with one of the friends and she said "well I won't be able to help myself, i'm just warning you" I feel like telling her well then i'll just see you in 6 months! How did/does everyone else deal with it?? |
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Posted By: MrsEmma
Date Posted: 29 November 2011 at 8:24pm
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If I was you I would just flat out say 'Please don't touch my stomach, it makes me uncomfortable' they will continue to do it unless you say something and you have every right to ask them not to.
I got it quite a bit from people and would grin and bear it most of the time, the only person who did it consistently was my MIL and I just put up with it because I didn't have the heart to tell her not to. Or randomly touch their stomach throughout your conversation.. see how they like it lol ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: AbzandH
Date Posted: 29 November 2011 at 8:43pm
| Hahaha I had actually considered just doing it back to whoever does it to me! Ur right though, i'll just come straight out and say it. Haha I take it you get on well with your MIL? if mine did she would be at the other end of the room in a few seconds... pregnant or not haha |
Posted By: mollycat
Date Posted: 29 November 2011 at 9:27pm
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Agree, best thing is to say exactly what MrsEmma said. It's hard to argue with that logic. With really good friends you could perhaps just also have them ask if it would be ok if they ever feel the urge.
Funny enough I always wanted people to touch my belly and no one ever did! I must give off a "stay away from me" vibe  ------------- http://tickers.cafemom.com"> 
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Posted By: MrsEmma
Date Posted: 29 November 2011 at 9:32pm
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At least they'd know what it was like - I can understand why people might want to touch.. but I would never actually come out and do it. And that's before I was ever pregnant and knew how much I actually hated it lol
I do get on pretty well with my MIL lol, it was still annoying but I just couldn't be bothered getting into it 
Another thing right up there with people touching was people looking at my bump while they spoke to me (usually while talking about the baby, which of course was ALL the time). I found that pretty unnerving.. ahhh the weird and wonderful things we go through ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: MrsH
Date Posted: 29 November 2011 at 9:42pm
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Yeah, I would just say "DoooooOOOooon'TTTT, weirds me out" and then if they didn't listen, start slapping their hands away.
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Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 29 November 2011 at 10:16pm
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Funnily at that stage there is no baby where they are touching me....that is what frustrates the hell out of me! ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: AbzandH
Date Posted: 30 November 2011 at 8:07am
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AandCsmum that's exactly where i'm at! I have a bit of a bump, but not huge 30 week one!! It's one of my really close friends who I spoke to, she's actually a bit too intense when it comes to pregnancy and babies, the last time I made a silly mistake of telling her I was in labour, and because I didn't answer my phone when she rung (funny that when contractions were about 3 mins apart) she turned up at the hospital!! Needless to say i'm not telling a SOUL when it happens with this one... apart from my partner and parents so they can pick up H.
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Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 30 November 2011 at 8:30am
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OMG yeah I don't blame you for taking a step back, cool that she's so excited though.
Even with me now, if people tried to rub my tummy it's a fat roll baby is hiding lower than that. ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: minipig
Date Posted: 30 November 2011 at 9:40am
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I've only encountered a few belly touchers so far.
The worst was my friend the other day, but she's so excited as she's never been around a pregnant person before so I didn't have the heart to tell her to stop. Although she did ask first, I just didn't think she would continue touching throughout the evening! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: JaneW
Date Posted: 30 November 2011 at 11:52am
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I don't mind people touching my belly- especially as it's only been friends and family so far, I might think differently if a stranger started doing it! I dunno, I just don't have a problem with it, people are so excited about this baby and I think it's lovely :) To me it's kind of like getting a hug from a friend, which we always do when we see each other.
But then I never had anyone touch my belly until it well and truly looked pregnant-probably around 20 weeks. I would rather have the interest and excitement from people than no interest at all IYKWIM? ------------- Me 28, DH 30 ttc #1 Feb 2009 MFI ICSI December 2010 FET April...BFP!! Baby girl due 3rd Jan 2012 |
Posted By: rorylex
Date Posted: 30 November 2011 at 12:14pm
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I dont mind as long as iv given permission 1st and i am far enough along that they could feel the baby. ------------- Mummy to 4 boys Samuel - 18.6.05 Rory - 15.7.06 Mason - 13.06.08 Emmett - 24.01.10 Baby #5 - cooking |
Posted By: Tissy
Date Posted: 30 November 2011 at 1:28pm
everytime they touch your belly fondle their boobs  and say "please dont touch me, I dont like it". they should soon get the hint------------- http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/ABCD1234" rel="nofollow - My Ovulation Chart |
Posted By: Red
Date Posted: 30 November 2011 at 1:31pm
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I didn't really mind when it was friends and family. As I felt like it was their way of showing affection towards bubs. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Cinderella
Date Posted: 30 November 2011 at 4:58pm
| I never had this with my two boys. This time DH does it mostly which I don't mind. My Best Friend did it once recently which was a bit uncomfortable. Never said anything but if she makes a habit of it I definitely will. |
Posted By: Tyrbear
Date Posted: 30 November 2011 at 8:36pm
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I didn't have it last time but lots of the girls from work are touching me this time. I don't mind later but they are touching where it's more left over baby fat not my new baby bump, wish they would just wait a few more weeks.
I think they should still ask you esp if they know you are not comfortable with it. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: _Soda_
Date Posted: 02 December 2011 at 12:13pm
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i had the same thing happen- my closest friends i didnt mind, and if someone asked i was ok with it.. but other mere aquaintances- strangers in the shops etc even (ok yeah i was pretty huge, but did they HAVE to feel my belly up? ew!) if it bugs you that they keep doing it, every time that person rubs your belly, reach out and rub their belly, give really full on eye contact and give an awkward smile...itll weird them out right back! lol. then they will know that it actually feels really weird for random people to rub your belly! and if they say "oh but youre pregnant so its different" remind them that no, its not, its still your belly and still feels awkward and please dont do it!! ------------- My little miracle 6/1/2011 My angel in Heaven 9/5/14 http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Dot2012
Date Posted: 02 December 2011 at 1:26pm
I think its one of those completely personal things and if you don't like it, say so. So far I really have not minded, I think its quite sweet. But then I am a more 'touchy feely' person anyway (always hug and kiss my friends and family for example) so that might be why. Have only had one stranger do it so far, which was a bit wierd! But to be honest, the joy on their face as they reached out to touch cancelled it out for me. I also am a bit of a bump toucher (with family and close friends) its like my hands get itchy and just HAVE to try and get close to the baby, hehe. I always ask first, but once permission is granted, thats it, I'll want to touch everytime I see them  -------------  
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Posted By: MaisonLuxe
Date Posted: 02 December 2011 at 4:58pm
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Hi Ladies, it's complicated because you know they have the best of intentions. I don't mind, although I think because my belly got enormously huge quite quickly I probably scared people off so haven't experienced much random belly touching this time around! Like any other situation in life though, it's your body and if you feel uncomfortable, it's ok to say no! ------------- Karen http://www.maisonluxuryhome.co.nz - Maison Luxury Home and Lifestyle Exclusive stockists of Linea Bimbi Baby Care in NZ 
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Posted By: kelzie_rose
Date Posted: 03 December 2011 at 9:11am
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Everyone I know who is UTD, doesn't like to be tummy touched, and gets groped all the time.
I love being tummy touched and no one does it!! Sod's law! -------------  Started TTC Apr 2008 With PCOS and a bicornuate uterus Our angel babies Jan 2010 <3 Oct 2010 <3 Apr 2011 <3 |
Posted By: CrazyCass
Date Posted: 03 December 2011 at 10:47pm
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Hehe Kelz! My cousins wife loves her belly being touched to!
I HATED it - I'd find ways to drop it into conversation most people got the hint, and the others i was usually too shocked to say anything. Though I must have had a funny look on my face when it did happen as a few people apologised afterwards and acknowledged that they should have asked first. Though I did snap at the site manager one day  Lucky he's known the family for ages so I could get away with being rather rude!------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: enelra
Date Posted: 04 December 2011 at 6:43pm
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I've been dropping it into conversations too, cos people keep touching my belly.
Yesterday a friend asked me to lift up my top so she could see my belly! I was like "no way!" She couldn't understand why I wouldn't. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: JuliaC
Date Posted: 06 December 2011 at 9:16pm
Wouldn't it be awkward if someone rubbed your belly and you weren't actually pregnant anymore just postpartum?  ------------- http://www.TickerFactory.com/"> 
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Posted By: sbeach
Date Posted: 10 December 2011 at 3:19pm
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I hated my tummy being touched by anyone but DH... I was a bit mean with a random lady though... I am a big person and didnt really show until after 25 weeks, at about 28ish weeks it could still be debatable and a random annoying lady patted my belling and said 'cant be long now!' - this is in a queue at a bookshop - and I replied 'what? do you usually go around touching random fat people on their stomachs?' and then walked off.
I was grumpy to begin with and she just rubbed me the wrong way...felt mean afterwards but it did feel good at the time! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Kelz
Date Posted: 11 December 2011 at 7:46pm
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Here's an article for you ladies to read about http://www.ohbaby.co.nz/pregnancy/hot-topics/back-off-from-the-bump/ - "Bump invasion"
Enjoy! ------------- |
Posted By: MrsEmma
Date Posted: 11 December 2011 at 9:00pm
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A very appropriate article!
Jeepers I can't even imagine measuring 52 weeks, impressive!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: newme
Date Posted: 12 December 2011 at 12:49pm
Yeah, I did this to a woman at a wedding I went to....It was so uncomfortable. I never ever touch anyones belly anymore! And if you think belly touching is bad, my MIL felt my breasts to see if they had much milk!!! |
JuliaC wrote:Posted By: JuliaC
Date Posted: 12 December 2011 at 2:40pm
hahahaha, how awkward is that??? better everyone just keep their hands to themselves :) ------------- http://www.TickerFactory.com/">
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Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 12 December 2011 at 2:48pm
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Funnily I saw my brother on the weekend and was shocked to see the size of his belly so I poked it & commented on it's size! Woops probably annoyed him! ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: JuliaC
Date Posted: 12 December 2011 at 3:44pm
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I sometimes rub DP's belly and start talking to it as if a baby was in there, lol...his sympathy belly is not far off from mine ------------- http://www.TickerFactory.com/">
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Posted By: islandgirl
Date Posted: 13 December 2011 at 9:00pm
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I had a lot of people touch my belly. Death stare worked well... but for a few people (even random ones I didn't know) I reached out and touched their belly's. They freaked out - point taken I think.
To be fair - I didn't mind friends touching it late in pregnancy.. but couldn't stand it when it was tiny - not even I could feel it!!!!  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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