Disappointed...again
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Forum Name: Life After Miscarriage
Forum Description: Up to one in five pregnancies ends in miscarriage, yet for many the loss of a pregnancy is isolating and lonely. Share your thoughts and feelings here with others who have experienced loss.
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Topic: Disappointed...again
Posted By: pikelets
Subject: Disappointed...again
Date Posted: 23 November 2011 at 2:36pm
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I am 5w6d today and just got the result of my 2nd HCG level this afternoon.
Monday was 13700 and today was 13500. My midwife said "it's not over yet but it is not looking good". Im so gutted. This is the 3rd time in a year! I'm so sad and angry and fustrated to be going through this again. I have to have another test Friday and then guess will let nature take its course. My heart goes out to all of us on this thread. This sux! (I also want to mention I am extremely grateful I have a son and don't mean to upset anyone who don't have any by sounding ungrateful). ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
 3 Angels - Dec10 / Mar11 / Dec11
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Posted By: AzzaNZ
Date Posted: 23 November 2011 at 3:10pm
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I am so sorry pikelets!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: pikelets
Date Posted: 23 November 2011 at 5:01pm
Thank you. Just told DH as he is away for work at the moment. Felt so bad telling him  ------------- http://lilypie.com">
3 Angels - Dec10 / Mar11 / Dec11
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Posted By: didi99
Date Posted: 23 November 2011 at 5:12pm
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Oh hun I am so so sorry, I remember PM with you in Dec after your 1st MC and I am so gutted to see that you are now up to #3. It really is just so not fair.
Must be so hard with your DH away at the moment too I hope you have other support around you take care of yourself. -------------  Angel Babies Nov 09, May 10, Dec 10
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Posted By: Luckymama23
Date Posted: 23 November 2011 at 6:03pm
Oh pikelets, so sorry to see you back here again  take carexx------------- 2 superstars too many miscarriages 2009-2014 |
Posted By: Orca1
Date Posted: 23 November 2011 at 6:26pm
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So sorry to hear that Pikelets, take care of yourself. ------------- DD born 2008 Oct 2009, April 2010, Dec 2010, June 20117 x IVF/ICSI/PGD = BFN |
Posted By: pikelets
Date Posted: 23 November 2011 at 7:14pm
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Thanks ladies.
Have any of you been to the Recurrent Miscarriage clinic? Is there one on the shore? My MW said I can get a referral via my GP there now. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
3 Angels - Dec10 / Mar11 / Dec11
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Posted By: Luckymama23
Date Posted: 24 November 2011 at 3:31pm
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Hey Pikelets,
I go to the One in Greenlane, as far as I know there isnt one on the shore (or if there is gutted Im driving across the bridge!) They are all really nice in there, feel free PM me if I can tell you anything else about it?? ------------- 2 superstars too many miscarriages 2009-2014 |
Posted By: pikelets
Date Posted: 24 November 2011 at 7:31pm
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Thanks Kazza. I googled it and saw that one too. Not sure why I thought there was one on the shore.
We went back to FertilityPlus a few months ago after our 2nd MC but they can't help us now since we are actually getting pregnant. (we were originally referred through them while we were TTC #1 as that time we couldn't get pregnant at all!). They said this time because we have DS, they can only help with IVF (we pay) if we don't get pg again which is not what we need now. This TTC journey is so fustrating! I realised the other day I started TTC 7 yrs ago and luckily I have DS who is 4 soon but it has consumed a few years now! As you have a child already too, do you mind me asking if you are publicly funded through Greenlane or are you private? eta - didi thank you, I remember how helpful you were when I had my 1stMC. I am so stoked for you hun! Wishing all the best in the world for this pregnancy x ------------- http://lilypie.com">
3 Angels - Dec10 / Mar11 / Dec11
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Posted By: Luckymama23
Date Posted: 24 November 2011 at 9:29pm
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Hmm yeah- I was referred by my GP & it is publically funded- (my GP explained that is why you have to wait until 3rd m/c because otherwise it would be too expensive to run- which makes sense I guess) but totally get where you are coming from, its so frustrating.
In my case I was referred after my 3rd m/c they did all the standard testing (unfortuantely came back with 'unexplained secondary infertility'- but they did monitor me really closely with the next pregancy, they do HCG tests & weekly scans if you wish & were all super supportive when I m/c'd again Wish you all the best with them, or privately if you go that way 
p.s.wow didi 22 weeks now! stoked its all going so well 4 u ------------- 2 superstars too many miscarriages 2009-2014 |
Posted By: didi99
Date Posted: 25 November 2011 at 9:05am
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Thanks pikelets & Kazza, I honestly cannot believe I have made it this far.
Pikelets I went though the recurrent MC Clinic too and they are really nice there. My MC's where considered "unexplained" as well which is really frustrating but I do not know how I would of stayed sane without the weekly scans, particuarly cause I bleed from 5weeks to just past 9 weeks. Pretty sure it doesn't matter that you already have a child either as when I left I did ask them if next time round I am just considered "normal" or do I still go through them and they said I can still come to them. ------------- Angel Babies Nov 09, May 10, Dec 10
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Posted By: pikelets
Date Posted: 25 November 2011 at 8:12pm
I had my 3rd HCG test today and got the results. ( I ticked urgent on the form so I didn't have to wait all weekend  )
Anyway it came back at 17000 so has gone up which my MW said is unusual. (13700, 13500, 17000) MW said we will probably have to wait for the scan in 2 weeks to see whats happening to be sure. From googling (yes I know I shouldn't) it doesn't sound promising. Has this happened to anyone else before?? ------------- http://lilypie.com">
3 Angels - Dec10 / Mar11 / Dec11
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Posted By: Pook72
Date Posted: 27 November 2011 at 8:56am
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Hi Pikelets!
What an emotional roller-coaster you are going through at the moment! Fingers crossed things work out and will be thinking of you! ------------- June 99. June 09, Dec 09, Sept 10 March 12
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Posted By: pikelets
Date Posted: 27 November 2011 at 9:30am
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My MW called yesterday and said she spoke to a specialist who has recommended to have my scan at the end of next week as the HCG tests are not showing anything concrete.
No bleeding which is good I am trying to remain positive but not get my hopes up too high (which is hard). ------------- http://lilypie.com">
3 Angels - Dec10 / Mar11 / Dec11
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Posted By: Luckymama23
Date Posted: 27 November 2011 at 6:35pm
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Oh my gosh Pikelets! what a stressful time, are they not able to do a scan for you any sooner?
Fingers crossed everything works out for you ------------- 2 superstars too many miscarriages 2009-2014 |
Posted By: kelzie_rose
Date Posted: 29 November 2011 at 8:47am
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FX that everything works out hun.
We planned to go to Recurrent Miscarriage Clinic, but decided to go to Shore Woman and saw a guy named Vijay Bhoola, who was great. (Situated in Albany.) Murphy's Law made sure that when we started investigating why it wasn't working out for us, we were told to not get pregnant, and then we did. And he's been great, tracking my pregnancy. He has a lot to do with different hospitals in Auckland so has contacts all over. -------------  Started TTC Apr 2008 With PCOS and a bicornuate uterus Our angel babies Jan 2010 <3 Oct 2010 <3 Apr 2011 <3 |
Posted By: catie
Date Posted: 29 November 2011 at 4:23pm
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Pikelets, fingers crossed !!!
I know what it's like - really hope you get a positive result.
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Posted By: AzzaNZ
Date Posted: 29 November 2011 at 4:25pm
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Fingers crossed Pikelets! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: pikelets
Date Posted: 29 November 2011 at 7:13pm
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Thanks ladies.
Kazza, we decided to wait until the end of the week. With my first MC, when we went for the scan, they said it was borderline and wouldn't call it either way and told us to wait another week incase the fetal pole did start beating. I was bleeding last time and nto long after it all happened anyway. Kelzie - thanks for that I will keep that in mind. Still no bleeding which is good. Will let you know how I get on on Friday. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
3 Angels - Dec10 / Mar11 / Dec11
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Posted By: didi99
Date Posted: 30 November 2011 at 3:21pm
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I have everything crossed for you pikelets, will be thinking of you tommorrow. ------------- Angel Babies Nov 09, May 10, Dec 10
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Posted By: pikelets
Date Posted: 02 December 2011 at 5:45pm
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Had our scan today and they couldn't call it, so we have to wait 5-7days and go back again. They couldnt see a heartbeat but said it was too early to call it.
We are measuring at 6w2d (going by LMP I should be 7w1d). New EDD 24July. The uncanny thing is that I naturally miscarried last year at 7w4d on the 9th of Dec with an EDD of 25July. Very weird the timing is almost exactly the same. I still have no bleeding this time but the cruel thing is I am getting morning sickness (had a rough week). MW said it could be a good sign or it could mean that because I do have a pregnancy some of it is still keeping the hormones going, therefore getting sick. So no news to report, except I have to wait and hope that a little heartbeat kicks in next week. Chances I guess are pretty slim I'm guessing :-( ------------- http://lilypie.com">
3 Angels - Dec10 / Mar11 / Dec11
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Posted By: AzzaNZ
Date Posted: 02 December 2011 at 7:29pm
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(((HUGS)))
Fingers crossed all is ok ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Luckymama23
Date Posted: 04 December 2011 at 10:24am
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Oh hugs Pikelets, that must be so terrible just waiting for an answer, fingers crossed those 5-7 days fly by,and you see your little one's heart beat. Hopefully the MS is a good sign?? ------------- 2 superstars too many miscarriages 2009-2014 |
Posted By: pikelets
Date Posted: 08 December 2011 at 3:45pm
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Just an update, had our 2nd scan today and no further growth from last week and therefore no heartbeat.
Waiting to book the d&c in now
Thanks for your support ladies, I really appreciate it. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
3 Angels - Dec10 / Mar11 / Dec11
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Posted By: AzzaNZ
Date Posted: 08 December 2011 at 3:46pm
I'm so sorry Pikelets!  ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Luckymama23
Date Posted: 08 December 2011 at 8:08pm
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Really sorry to hear that Pikelets,
hope all goes well with the D & C- If you are going to North Shore Hospital they are really lovely & take great care of you Take care of yourself x ------------- 2 superstars too many miscarriages 2009-2014 |
Posted By: kelzie_rose
Date Posted: 08 December 2011 at 8:19pm
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Oh Pikelets I'm so sorry hun.
I do second Kazza, North Shore really looked after me when I had my d&c. Look after yourself xx ------------- Started TTC Apr 2008 With PCOS and a bicornuate uterus Our angel babies Jan 2010 <3 Oct 2010 <3 Apr 2011 <3 |
Posted By: didi99
Date Posted: 09 December 2011 at 9:34am
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I'm so sorry Pikelets, was really hoping for a little miracle for you.
I can third how nice they were at North Shore. Look after yourself hun and we are always here for you if you need us. ------------- Angel Babies Nov 09, May 10, Dec 10
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Posted By: Orca1
Date Posted: 09 December 2011 at 3:44pm
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Sorry to hear that Pikelets, take care ------------- DD born 2008 Oct 2009, April 2010, Dec 2010, June 20117 x IVF/ICSI/PGD = BFN |