School Bullies
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Topic: School Bullies
Posted By: chickadeedoo
Subject: School Bullies
Date Posted: 27 June 2011 at 1:16pm
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Ok so this is not the right subject as this is for school aged kids.
My daughter who is 6 started school last year and the class and teacher she was in was fantastic. This year that class has been split but not in half only about 7 people from her old class are in the new class so basically ALL of her friends are in the other class. She did have 3 friends in her new class but since February one of those girls has been mean and I have heard that if she doesn't like someone she will get her older brother to pick on that girl / boy in question. I don't like this girl and there are also a few others in her class that I don't like as they are bullies too. My question is that would you stick with that current school and write a note to say not to have these particular people in her class next year OR would you look at new schools for her. We are not in the zone for the other school that I wanted her to go to but I could possibly get her in - feedback on this would be great. ------------- 
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Posted By: AnnaShev
Date Posted: 27 June 2011 at 3:05pm
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I dont have kids so you can take this how you like, but could you ask to have her moved to the other class this year? and also are these kids bullying your daughter or her friends because if they arent i would probably leave her where she is, and next year she probably wont be in the same class as a lot of the kids she is with this year because primary schools seem to move kids around a lot each year anyway (or so I've been told). also i would ask your daughter what she thinks of the school, if she likes it and the mean kids dont bother her and she likes the school i wouldnt move her.
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Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 27 June 2011 at 11:03pm
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First check that it's not usual 6 year old girl stuff. Talk to her about talking to her teacher. I found my DD would make stuff up & I could usually find it out by saying I'll talk to the teacher.
Also it's probably a good thing to talk to her teacher, find out what is going on & if there is the possibility of moving to the other class. Girls are fickle & change their minds about their friends often. Also just cause she's in another class doesn't mean she can't go play with her old friends at the break times. Hugs though, I felt for a while that my DD was being taken advantage of by another girl in her class. I had to keep reminding my DD that her stuff was hers & that she was allowed to share it but it had to come home at night & we seem to have solved that problem for now. ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: chickadeedoo
Date Posted: 28 June 2011 at 9:17am
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Oh I have seen one of the bullies (who used to be her friend) being mean to her while I was in the room so yes she is being bullied in that sense.. but it could also be just 6 year old stuff. I don't get 6 year old girls as yesterday after school DD decided she wanted the bully to come home and play with her..just don't get it..
I think I will leave her as there is only 2 more terms left and might just make it clear to the principal that these girls have bullied her this year. -------------
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Posted By: chickadeedoo
Date Posted: 28 June 2011 at 9:17am
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oh and thanks for your advice too :) -------------
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 28 June 2011 at 3:52pm
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i would talk to the teacher and see what she can tell you. if bullying is really going on most schools have a zero tolerance policy and should sort it out. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: DesSt
Date Posted: 02 July 2011 at 4:17pm
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Make sure that your little girl has an "action plan" for when she is bullied, such as - Telling the bully that she doesn't like what has been said and making sure that she tells the teacher/duty teacher and you when it happens. (Bullies gain power when their victims are silent.)
Have a chat with her classroom teacher just to make sure she is aware of what is happening. Sometimes the bullying happens during the day but kids don't say anything till they've had time to think about it and feel upset. It is best if they talk to the teacher straight away so the negative behaviour can be dealt with immediately. Ask to have your little girl in a different class to this particular girl next year - usually the classroom teacher is involved in deciding who goes into future classes (remind the teacher about half-way through the last term too.) Unfortunately some little girls often go through a nasty to each other stage at about 6 to 8 yrs  , but they do grow out of it and learn strategies to deal with the not so nice behaviour.
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