Older Mums to be chat
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Topic: Older Mums to be chat
Posted By: Happygal
Subject: Older Mums to be chat
Date Posted: 25 June 2011 at 8:33am
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Hi ladies,
thought I would start up an older mums to be thread, as sounds like there is a few of us around at the moment, yay! Abit about me, I just turned 41 last week (still only feel 25)!lol... DH is 41 as well. This is our first baby, we are so excited and feel so lucky to get here finally. We had been TTC for nearly 3 years and had tried clomid, IUI and did 5 cycles of IVF, which didn't work. We had unexplained infertility! So we decided to have a break from things and started planning our overseas holiday which we had been putting off for the past two years then got such a shock when found out I was pregnant naturally!! So looking forward to the whole journey!!  ------------- 
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Posted By: choco69
Date Posted: 25 June 2011 at 8:54am
Congrats on your baby - you must be very excited!
I am also an 'older' mum, although like you I don't feel my age most of the time. I am currently 41, although will be 42 when baby is born. Am also in Auckland so happy to catchup and chat if you want.  ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 25 June 2011 at 9:06am
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Thanks Choco69! So is this your first baby? Very exciting isn't it! When are you due? I'm due 31 Jan...
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Posted By: millemama
Date Posted: 25 June 2011 at 10:04am
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Hi ladies, yeah I still feel like I'm 30 but maybe a bit wiser. I'm PG with our 2nd, which was a bit of a surprise, took a few weeks or more to sink in, thought I would have a crack as the odds just seem to get worse each year, but wasn't really expecting it to happen quite so easily if at all really. So all good and I like the age gap between, will be just over 3yrs. I'm... gosh what am I??.. I'm 42 now, 43 in Oct, bubs is due on 22 Dec.
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Posted By: choco69
Date Posted: 25 June 2011 at 10:25am
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good for you millemama ... and yes still can't believe I'm pregnant ... wake up and go what's that in my stomach, oh yeah that's my baby ... best feeling ever!
Am due 7 October so just over 3 months to go
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Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 25 June 2011 at 10:48am
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Congrats Millemama, know what you mean about it takes awhile to sink in!! Still feels so unreal.. My Mum also was an older Mum, she had me at 41 too!!
Choco69, not long till October! Hey we are off to the UK/Europe for a month's holiday in 3 weeks, cant wait.. How about a catch up when I'm back, end of Aug? Sounds like you are quite busy too the next month, so might work out better? -------------
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Posted By: millemama
Date Posted: 29 June 2011 at 4:36pm
Had my results back from my NT scan today. They were excellent for my age - 1 in 1100, so happy with that.  Wasn't stressing about it, but still it niggles at you.
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Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 29 June 2011 at 7:40pm
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Yay Millemama, thats awesome news on your results!! I will be hanging out for mine later on! Got the 12 week scan booked in for 15 July! -------------
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Posted By: millemama
Date Posted: 29 June 2011 at 7:58pm
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Wow, that must be right before your hols, I just loved seeing the heartbeat, and he was waving too!, good luck, let us know ------------- http://daisypath.com">
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Posted By: Cinderella
Date Posted: 30 June 2011 at 10:03am
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I am not sure if I quite qualify as an older mum. I will be 38 just after this one is born. I am due 17th of Feb.
I am having the 12 week NT scan mid august. I am a bit nervous about it but don't really believe it will be an issue. Will just be nice to see Sam (bubs name) for the first time. DH is 47 and our kids are all over. I never expected to suddenly decide 6 months ago to try one last time for a girl. I had never realised how much I still wanted a daughter. |
Posted By: babygiraffe
Date Posted: 30 June 2011 at 10:28am
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Hi girls
I am 38 now but will be 39 when our first baby is born in Jan next year. We have been trying since August 09 and in that time I have had 3 miscarriags. I had started to wonder if I just wasn't mean't to be a Mum  But here I am, pregnancy number 4 and all is going well so far! I am still very nervous that it could all get taken away from me....but trying hard to be positive and picture our baby in my arms.
Congrats to the other 'older' (but not that old!) Mum's - such an exciting time
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Posted By: camsmum01
Date Posted: 30 June 2011 at 2:23pm
| I am 40 now and 9wks 4d pregnant with no 2. Our little boy is 4 1/2. I'm a little worried about the age thing, though like many of you feel much younger. I have my 13 week scan booked for 25 July. Hopefully I'll be able to relax after that. |
Posted By: millemama
Date Posted: 30 June 2011 at 4:29pm
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I have spoken to many people about this and there are a lot more older mums out there these days too and the common consensus is that it has more to do with your health and wellbeing and less to do with your age. So don't let the worry get to you, put it out of your head as much as poss, hey we've beaten the odds this far haven't we! ------------- http://daisypath.com">
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Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 30 June 2011 at 8:07pm
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Hey go all us older Mums!! Seems to be quite a few of us around now! Still cant believe how lucky I feel to finally be pregnant, just seems unreal!!
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Posted By: CaveMum
Date Posted: 04 July 2011 at 4:53pm
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Compared to most of the mums around where I live, I am definitely geriatric! I will be 37 when Baby2 arrives. Although advanced age is a risk factor for many pregnancy events/outcomes, I agree that what's more important is individual health. Personally, I'm counting on good genetics - there's many women in my family who were/are successfully popping out babies into their 40s. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 04 July 2011 at 7:28pm
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*lurker* Congratulations happygal wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy and safe arrival of your precious bubba.
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Posted By: anabee
Date Posted: 04 July 2011 at 9:37pm
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Hey all, Nice to meet some older moms here :) In the Nov group I think I'm the oldest and noone very close behind. Anyway, I'm Anna and I'm 38. Finallly got pregnant after lots of trying, so feel very lucky to be having this baby. I'm due in Nov and starting to get pretty excited.
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Posted By: millemama
Date Posted: 05 July 2011 at 1:49pm
Welcome everyone, how are all your energy levels, I have been so exhausted this time round, didn't really put it down to 'old age' as I was in such a good space healthwise before, but maybe with a toddler to run around after as well I have to admit it could be a little bit of the age thing, oh well, I'm getting past that stage now so feeling more energetic and taking natural iron regularly now. Original bloodtests didn't show any lack of iron, but I'm not really trusting those anymore, I'm sure they got it wrong! ------------- http://daisypath.com">
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Posted By: Cinderella
Date Posted: 05 July 2011 at 3:34pm
| hey millemama- what is natural iron? I can't take regualar iron or even slow release stuff. It makes me really constapated. |
Posted By: millemama
Date Posted: 05 July 2011 at 4:26pm
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Its Floradix, you can pick up at a pharmacy or health food shop, but the cheapest is the supermarket. Its in liquid form, not tablets and doesn't taste too bad with a bit of water, even my fussy 2yr old will drink it, and no worries with constipation, plus it has a lot of other goodies in it too, all natural. Your MW will prob know about it. ------------- http://daisypath.com">
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Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 07 July 2011 at 6:12pm
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How's everyone doing? I'm also feeling so exhausted the past week and MS seems to have gotton abit worse... But getting closer to that 12 week scan, yay!!
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Posted By: millemama
Date Posted: 07 July 2011 at 6:45pm
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I'm really looking forward to anatomy scan, but MW would like me to wait until 21-22wks, she said its a clearer scan and I guess I can wait but thats now 6wks away, when some are getting theirs done at 18wks, oh well, its all about the bubs not me, but I really can't wait to find out the sex, last time you could have knocked us down with a feather we were so sure it was the opposite. All fun and games! lol
Happygal, if you are tired you have to listen to that and look after yourself, it seems like such a hard thing for us to do, much harder than taking a pill, but when you think how far you have come to get here, hugely important. I've caught up on a lot of books, lol ------------- http://daisypath.com">
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Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 07 July 2011 at 7:02pm
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Millemama, when are you having the anatomy scan? Very exciting!! I cant wait to get it done.. Got the 12 week scan next Friday!!
I know what you mean, trying to take it easy, DH wont let me do anything around the house, its great! lol... We are off on holiday on the 17th July to UK & Europe for a month, abit nervous, but excited.. We booked it before we knew I was pregnant!! -------------
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Posted By: millemama
Date Posted: 07 July 2011 at 9:11pm
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That sounds wonderful and so much harder after they arrive, so enjoy the babymoon, my only advice is to schedule in some spa time, lay by the pool time, room service in bed with sky movie time and oh did I mention spa time! in between your tourist activities, you will feel all the better for it. Oh and suss out some of those beautiful baby shops to visit on google first so you know where to look.
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Posted By: choco69
Date Posted: 07 July 2011 at 9:23pm
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am so jealous - I want a babymoon too! - the closest I will get is a long weekend at my parents friend's bach - but it will be nice to have wintery walks along the beach so really shouldn't complain
am excited that you are all progressing nicely to your NT scans - I remember mine I was soooo nervous and excited at the same time as for anatomy scan - i had mine exactly at 20 weeks - although I know people who had them earlier too I have another scan next week at almost 28 weeks to check growth - my belly is measuring 4 weeks ahead - also have the 2 hours GTT to do the same day (not happy about the fasting bit) - so will know by the end of next week how much of my belly is me and how much is my bubs - can't wait to see her again! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 08 July 2011 at 7:23am
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Lol Millemama, will take your advice, spa time and laying by the pool sounds bliss. We are in Hong Kong on the way back for 3 days has a huge swimming pool, so will be fab!! Just feeling so tired at moment, so need to take things easy..
I rang in sick to work today, looking forward to a day at home! So are you less tired in the 2nd trimester girls? Does MS go away abit?? Hey Choco69, things are moving along for you, 28 weeks, not long to go!! I must admit I am feeling abit nervous about the scan next Friday, sometimes feel its all too good to be true!! -------------
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Posted By: anabee
Date Posted: 17 July 2011 at 9:30pm
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My MS went away on about week 13/14. Just occasionally since then, and I'm feeling a bit more lively too. Still having an afternoon nap as often as possible!
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Posted By: millemama
Date Posted: 18 July 2011 at 4:13pm
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I was lurking in on another forum and read that Happygals scan went well and I think she took off on holiday the w/e just gone or today.
Hi Anabee, nice to hear about your anatomy scan, can't wait for mine, MW is making me wait until 21wks but thats ok, things will be a little clearer then and I really want to find out if its 'pink or blue'. For some reason this bub still feels a little unreal, hopefully when we get the next scan it might not seem so surreal. My MS has totally gone now and so has my exhaustion, in fact have got out gardening today for the first time since becoming PG, had noooo motivation or energy before now, but feeling good, will probably feel it tomorrow though!! lol Good to have the old mojo back ------------- http://daisypath.com">
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Posted By: camsmum01
Date Posted: 02 August 2011 at 8:57am
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Got all my results from my NT scan and blood tests. Whew low risk so no more tests required. Now I can enjoy being pregnant. Hope everyone else is doing well. Anatomy scan not for about 6 weeks, but the radiographer thinks it's likely to be a girl based on what she can see. ------------- 
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Posted By: Cinderella
Date Posted: 02 August 2011 at 9:23am
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Hi guys. My NT scan is this friday. One day off 12 weeks but can already hear the heart beat on a doppler so that is positive. Was so much younger with my other kids never had to worry about DS. It never even crossed my mind. Not that I think there is a problem this time but I am a little nervous.
We are going away early Oct to rarotonga with the boys. We were there at easter for 5 days with out the kids. Working 7 days a week and being a full time mum is really wearing me down this time. On a positive note the last 3-4 days I have started to sleep better at night so I am not quite so exhausted during the day. It got to the point I wouldn't drive anywhere in the afternoons because of fatigue. |
Posted By: millemama
Date Posted: 02 August 2011 at 11:33am
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Congrats on the NT scans, even though we try to think positive, that doubt creeps in. GL Cinderella. I just felt relief at hearing the heartbeat, as that was the first time. Apparently I'm anterior, which for those who don't know (I didn't!) means placenta in front, baby behind = can't feel any kicks, still can't, although have felt just a couple of movements, thats it, so hearing that heartbeat every 4wks is reassuring. I was never this worried the first time round, don't really know why now, probably hearing other peoples stories online. Sometimes too much knowlege is a bad thing, lol.
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Posted By: choco69
Date Posted: 02 August 2011 at 2:40pm
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yeah for your anatomy scan next week - can't believe how quickly time flies
glad to hear that everyone's pregnancies are still going well I have my 32wk scan also on the 11th - am hoping my wee girl will let us get a photo of her face this time Am starting to come to grips with the idea that baby has to come out at some stage - think because i was so focussed on getting pregnant and then staying pregnant I haven't given too much thought to birth and after looking forward to moving house next week cos then I will be able to set up baby's room and hopefully the nesting bug will hit then ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: millemama
Date Posted: 02 August 2011 at 3:36pm
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I can't believe how many people move house when they are PG, we did last time so can't talk. How was your 28wk scan is bubs still ahead on size?
I love the whole setting up the room thing. Not quite as exciting this time round as renting at the mo, so only room available is to share with DD, and with lack of storage space in house there are a few things in the room that need to go out before I can get baby things out of storage, which will be exciting. Bassinet needs to be set up in our room too. Looked at old photos of us setting up DD's room and it was an empty room with a lot of bought stuff and some handcrafted stuff dumped in the middle of the floor until about 3wks prior, then it all came together beautifully. But do remember getting antsy as wanted to be prepared well before then but just didn't happen that way. Hoping for boy in one respect cos wanted to try out all these design ideas/colours etc, but will wait and see. I'm a frustrated designer with no outlet at the mo!!! can't you tell. lol ------------- http://daisypath.com">
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Posted By: choco69
Date Posted: 02 August 2011 at 5:40pm
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i wouldn't be moving if i didn't have to my landlords sold their house and so are moving into my place - so at 31w4d I will be moving house - thankfully i have always been the one to help everyone else move so have had lots of helpers
and yes it will be a rental so can't do as much as I would like however have some beautiful things to put in her room that I have been given so that's all good
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Posted By: millemama
Date Posted: 02 August 2011 at 9:56pm
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No your'e right, something a little smaller would be nice but healthy is better. I was lucky last time, just under 7lbs, but life is like a box of choci's , so you never know this time.
We are lucky, got to paint the inside of our rental so stuck to neutral colours which is easy to work with, but its all in the accessories! I'm really thinking of colour themes blah blah blah in the bedding, pictures etc. Great ideas on Pottery Barn website in the states. ------------- http://daisypath.com">
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Posted By: babygiraffe
Date Posted: 05 August 2011 at 11:36am
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Hi girls
Got my NT scan results back, they were 1:300 so I am naturally a little bit worried. I am right on the border for my age (38). I dont want the amnio, I think that the risk of m/c is too high....plus I wouldn't terminate the pg anyway. My midwife is going to refer me to the Chch womens clinic so expecting a call from them. Hopefully as is ok... Guess I have some adjusting to do if not! |
Posted By: millemama
Date Posted: 05 August 2011 at 12:59pm
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Hi BG, I have read about quite a few ladies over the last months who have a higher than wanted risk, and its all turned out for the good, but we can't help worrying, it's natural, but don't let it take over your joy of being pregnant the stats are easy to find on line and they all say the same thing that in almost all cases of a 'high risk' result the outcome turns out to be just fine. GL ------------- http://daisypath.com">
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Posted By: Cinderella
Date Posted: 05 August 2011 at 1:39pm
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Well went for the NT scan today only to be told bubs is a fraction too short still so I have to go back in a weeks time. I am not good with all the waiting.
Only good thing is I saw the heart beat (for all of 5 seconds) so I guess all is good. She never really checked anything. |
Posted By: choco69
Date Posted: 05 August 2011 at 3:36pm
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babygiraffe - i know how you feel my NT results came back 1:120 - the best thing i was told is that all the result means is that 1 baby out of 120 will have a trisonomy disorder (downs is only one kind), 119 other babies will be fine - i did have the amnio as i felt i wanted to know so i could mentally prepare - from the info/counselling i got prior to the test very few women in NZ will terminate no matter what the result, its more a fact of knowing and not worrying - that said the risk if an experienced person performs the test is 1:100
it is a hard decision to make for anyone - i know people who have been given a risk of 1:3 and 1:7 and both their babies were fine - in fact the OB who performed the test said that alot of the children currently born with downs are to mothers in their 20's where they have a risk of 1:10000 or so as i said to my mother there is nothing i would have changed about my baby - she was created however she was created and there is nothing i could have done differently - all that i was looking for was knowledge so that i knew what i would need to do or have in place to give baby the best start possible the decision on whether to have further tests done is entirely up to you - you can wait till after your anatomy scan as that will give you a better indication as they will have a much clearer view of her nasal bone etc to tell whether there might be something you need to prepare for biggest hugs! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: babygiraffe
Date Posted: 05 August 2011 at 5:01pm
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Thanks Choco, you comments mean a lot. I would never terminate, I am prepared for whatever outcome we get and this baby will be loved more than anything in this world. I am not sure I want the amnio though, I am worried about the risk of miscarriage and after being through 3....I couldn't face it again. Especially knowing I caused it!
So I'll just sit tight, see what the specialist says and go from there. My anatomy scan is in 3.5 weeks so that will be a good indiction for us as well
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Posted By: choco69
Date Posted: 05 August 2011 at 6:32pm
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then i would just wait and not let them pressure you - your results aren't that high risk so the anatomy scan should be able to give them a better indication
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Posted By: choco69
Date Posted: 19 August 2011 at 5:40pm
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hi ladies - have been wondering how you are all getting on - heading into the 'business' end of pregnancy for me - and am sooooo not ready! LOL ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 19 August 2011 at 7:47pm
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Hey how is everyone? Back from our big trip, had an awesome time, got pretty tired the last week of it though, nice to be home! Had fantastic weather!! Must read back on posts soon!!
Hope your all well
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Posted By: millemama
Date Posted: 19 August 2011 at 8:22pm
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Well here is my news, we are having another little girl and all is healthy and happy. Have been feeling lots of little kicks this last week and half and yesterday actually saw them thru the layers of clothing, late for me cos placenta is in front. So thats cool cos it feels that much more real now. And feeling like a house some days, harder to bend down to pick something up and have felt a little sleepy during the day which not used to, didn't happen first time round. Must be to do with having a toddler to chase and gettin older, lol.
Choco not long to go, and don't worry about not feeling ready it will come, sometime around their 21st I'm guessing, lol. No really I actually didn't feel ready last time until I knew the nursery was up and ready to go, clothes and equipment were bought and bag packed, then I felt ready. Remember having a little "is this labour" scare which turned out to be nothing but got me really panicked because things weren't in place, so sorted that then when labour did start I felt a lot calmer. It's like clearing your desk at work before a holiday (yeah right!!).
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Posted By: choco69
Date Posted: 19 August 2011 at 10:53pm
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Happygal I am so jealous you have been on holiday
Millemama - yes think I will feel better about things once bubs room is setup - mum and dad are coming over to help me on Sunday - still trying to unpack house from move last week - have no energy nor motivation at the moment, however I know it has to be done now cos I really won't want to come home from hospital to boxes :) ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 25 August 2011 at 5:53pm
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Hey Millemama, yay for another girl, that is awesome!! Ah the holiday was fabulous, Hong Kong and Venice were our fav places, loved the food in Venice, yummy pasta and pizza!! Probably ate way too much, lol!! Oh well...
Wow choco69, you are 33 weeks now, how are you feeling?? I am feeling bigger by the day, feel like bump has really shot out the past couple of weeks! Really can't wait for the anatomy scan in 2 weeks!! -------------
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Posted By: choco69
Date Posted: 26 August 2011 at 11:44am
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Happygal - you don't know big till you hit the 3rd tri LOL, I remember saying to my mum when I was 20wks that I didn't think I could get bigger and she laughed, now I know why!
as for me - doing well baby is growing and growing, still has lots of room to move so changes position all the time, which can be rather uncomfortable - also very tired (partly due to sleep issues, and the rest is low iron still), belly is now measuring 40wks so she is pushing things out with 6 weeks to go (in theory) - OB recons anytime from 36wks will be good - so may only have 2 more wks till she gets here! setting up her room on Saturday and then will shop next week for those last minute things that I know I will feel are missing - and have to get the capsule installed in my car - so much to do and so little time left it has gone soooooo quickly! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: millemama
Date Posted: 26 August 2011 at 3:38pm
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Hey Choco, have you got those meals made for the freezer, lol. I read about it the first time and thought it was a great idea, some pre-made dinners for DH and me when we are both feeling exhausted after baby comes. But somehow only managed to make a lasagne. Well the theory was there anyhow.
Will try better this time round, but yay! will be BBQ & salad season soon. Know what you mean about feeling big Happygal, but Choco's right, bubz is only going to get bigger! I complained to MW that I felt bigger, more heavier this time round but hadn't but on anymore weight than the last PG, so far. She said it was pretty normal to feel bigger 2nd time round. Oh joy! I can feel the waddle coming on soon. ------------- http://daisypath.com">
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Posted By: choco69
Date Posted: 27 August 2011 at 12:46pm
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LOL no haven't done anything about getting meals ready - although am setting up baby's room today so figure that's a great start, then just have some last things to get, do all the washing and sorting of clothes, and pack my bag!
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Posted By: millemama
Date Posted: 27 August 2011 at 3:31pm
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I say go for it, that would be better than a baby shower, Mummy and Daddy Freezer Meal party!. Idea could catch on!
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Posted By: JayDubb
Date Posted: 30 August 2011 at 10:01am
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Hi Everybody
I'm so glad to find you all. Don't you find almost all pregnancy 'stuff' is geared towards younger parents? Especially photographs. I was feeling much older than my 41 years as a result! We have a two year old and the new baby is due April Fools Day. Both cloma babies. Finding this pregnancy much more tiring. Last time I sneered at all the tips about daytime naps etc and didn't take any of the special leave preggy women can get. This time round can't get enough sleep - day or night! Could be due to working, wrangling a toddler and trying to fight off a bad cold. Could just be my age! Also, with 2nd pregnancy - don't you thicken up around the waist fast? Actually losing weight due to morning sickness, but couldn't do up my jeans at 10 weeks. Sorry about the random spill of thoughts but we decided to keep pregancy quiet until after the week 12 test results come in and it just isn't as much fun (or as real) if you can't talk about it. |
Posted By: choco69
Date Posted: 30 August 2011 at 11:11am
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Hi Jaydubb - welcome to the club
and it is hard not being able to talk about your pregnancy, especially in the first few months when everything is new and sooo tiring! alot is geared towards younger parents - at my antenatal class I am the only over 40 (for both mums and dads) so much so that they were amazed this was my first baby as for tiredness - not sure if its age but I have been tired since I conceived, however do have really low iron so that won't be helping ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: millemama
Date Posted: 30 August 2011 at 12:15pm
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I'm still debating with myself about the tired thing. So like you JD, had boundless energy compared to this time and its got better 2nd tri, but only just. Surely a couple of years is not going to make that much different. I reckon its got to be the running around after a toddler thing. You just don't realise how much time is spent on it. It took me a few months to really give in to what my body was saying and just go with the flow now. If I get time and energy to go gardening for an hour I'm feeling good about that. I think you just have to change the goalposts really.
I found as soon as I got a ringbinder going with 'to do lists and shopping lists, etc etc I started to manage my time better and felt like at the end of the day that if I had ticked a few things of the list I was happier. Oh and I am trying harder to drink more water, which has helped me, and taking floradix iron, and spirulina tablets which also give me a boost. Sometimes you have to stop looking after everyone else and put yourself first. ------------- http://daisypath.com">
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Posted By: Cinderella
Date Posted: 30 August 2011 at 12:52pm
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I am totally exhauseted most day. Energy levels have picked up a little in the last few weeks but not by much.
I don't get to sleep during the day and at night I keep waking up for no apparent reason. I am definitely finding it harder being older this time around. I don't have a toddler to chase after but 5 kids between 8 and 15 and working full time and renovating a house keep me busy. Still I wouldn't change it for anything. I can't wait till baby is here. |
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Date Posted: 30 August 2011 at 2:09pm
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Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 30 August 2011 at 6:01pm
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Welcome Jaydubb! Know what you mean about the tiredness!! Mind you, finding I'm feeling alot more energetic in the past two weeks, yay!!
Lol, Choco69 and Millemama about getting bigger!! Wonder if it slows down slightly!! I just feel am getting bigger and bigger each day! I haven't felt baby yet!!! When did you girls start to feel something? Gosh Cinderella 5 kids will keep you busy!! hehe.. -------------
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Posted By: millemama
Date Posted: 30 August 2011 at 8:33pm
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Its only been about 3wks for me since I started to feel proper movement. Placenta is in front of bubs so was harder to feel anything until she got bigger, which I reckon made it harder to bond. But now you can't stop her, which was similar to last PG and lets me know she is there, but not painful yet. ------------- http://daisypath.com">
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Posted By: Keira
Date Posted: 05 September 2011 at 6:49am
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Hi ladies,
Wanting to ask you all advice.Im 39yrs will be 40 in 4wks time.currently 10wks pregnant with my 3rd child. Im wanting to get the CVS test done to know for certain if theres downs...however ive talked to 2 medical people and they have said they have never been asked for that before the 12wk nuchal before?Im concerned that if my risk comes back high from the nuchal then the cvs can only be done till 13wks...so not alot of time from getting results to organising a cvs.No way i would want to wait till 15-18wks for an amnio.Has anyone here had the cvs? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Cinderella
Date Posted: 05 September 2011 at 8:31am
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hey Keira- I am only 2 years younger than you and my NT was really low. 1 in 27000. The way I looked at it, this is our last and there is a slight risk of miscarraige. I decided that I could live with down syndrome but not loosing the baby because of the CS. I believe the amnio is a tiny bit safer. This was just how I felt though. It is totally your choice and I can understand wanting to find out. It would be a hard wait but all good things in life are worth waiting for. Pregnancy has a way of teaching us to be patient.
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Posted By: millemama
Date Posted: 05 September 2011 at 9:25am
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Ditto what Cinders said. Sorry don't know a lot about CVS but if you really want to do it then book it when you book your nuchal, but book it at the earliest possible timing as it can take up to 10 days for results, unless somehow you could fast track it. Then book CVS for last possible timing and then when result are found out and you have talked to a few more people then make your mind up to take the test or cancel appmt. That way you have covered all bases.
I had DD at 39 just before my 40th birthday, and am now PG at 42, will be 43 when DD2 is born. I had NT with both and result were good odds. But have had friends younger with not so good odds that have also turned out fine too. If you read up on google its surprising how few births are downs and how many initial results beat the odds. My personal opinion is it has a lot more to do with your health and wellbeing more so than your age. But follow your heart and if you really feel the need to do it after researching it all then thats what you need to do ------------- http://daisypath.com">
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Posted By: minxynzl
Date Posted: 21 September 2011 at 7:58pm
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Hi all - I'm 40 (41 in Dec) and first son is now 20 years old.....second son is 8mths old! LOVING motherhood so much more this time around!!! ------------- http://alterna-tickers.com"> 
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Posted By: millemama
Date Posted: 21 September 2011 at 9:40pm
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Hi there Minx, was just thinking that no-one has posted on here for so long, I'm sure someone must have had a baby by now, lol.
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Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 22 September 2011 at 6:34pm
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Hi Minxy, nice to see you here, your lovely boy must be getting big now!!
Hey Choco, how are you doing? Not very long to go, exciting!!
How's things going for you Millemama? Im pretty good, started pregnancy yoga, really enjoying it, nice bunch of girls and quite a few older Mums there to, which is great!! -------------
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Posted By: millemama
Date Posted: 22 September 2011 at 6:44pm
Thats one thing I would really love to do, but nothing like that around these parts. Bump really sticking out now, seems bigger than last time, but of course everything is pre-stretched  .
Have had my mojo back in the last weeks, energywise, but have put that down to some new vitamins I have been taking and spiralina tablets too, which help with energy. Can't remember if I told you but we are having a little girl again so we have finally decided on a name that we both love. It sure helps to know as I don't need to buy any extras, but of course you just can't help yourself can you, its all so cute. ------------- http://daisypath.com">
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Posted By: choco69
Date Posted: 22 September 2011 at 7:28pm
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hi ladies - welcome Minx
am still in one piece - just - baby is growing and growing (having another scan before OB appt on Monday, will be 38w3d) - baby is doing lovely which is taking a large toll on my body, she is stripping me of everything she can so at this stage my 'wee' girl will be here sooner rather than later - so not ready, trying to get things done however I keep falling asleep all the time, really think I need to make a concerted effort tomorrow and over the weekend in case the OB wants her earlier than I expect :) ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 22 September 2011 at 8:03pm
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Hey Millemama, great you are having a girl, we found out we are having a wee girl too, yay!!!
Choco, glad to hear your still in one piece, you must be getting really tired now, wow 38 weeks... Where are you having her at? North Shore hospital? We are booked into Waitakere... -------------
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Posted By: millemama
Date Posted: 22 September 2011 at 8:07pm
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Wow, I was talking to my brother (nurse) about how many scans the ladies in my Dec 2011 group are having, it seems to be a big thing here (NZ) having all these extra scans, most seem to be to check the size. I only ever had 2 with DD and have only had 2 with this littley, and I assume I won't need anymore. He did mention that ladies are having babies later hence maybe the more scans and I had to laugh and say that I'm pretty sure I'm the old bag in the group, lol.
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Posted By: camsmum01
Date Posted: 23 September 2011 at 11:53am
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It's great to see some action in this group after such a quiet period. I too am having a girl and we will be giving birth at North Shore Hospital. After all the nervousness of waiting for test results and then waiting for anatomy scans it all seems like not much is happening. I am feeling some movements which is nice. Hope everyone is staying well. -------------
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Posted By: choco69
Date Posted: 23 September 2011 at 12:57pm
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yes am intending to deliver at North Shore
and the only thing I really must finish before baby arrives is my essay for uni - everything else can happen when it happens millemama - and am sure I am the oldest first time mum around here at the moment - and yes have had lots of scans however it's all about the growth as she is getting lots bigger and i'm not gaining weight - although I did have extra on board before pregnancy - that said this is not my ideal weightloss regime! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: millemama
Date Posted: 23 September 2011 at 1:33pm
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Thats a hard one Choco, does sound like she's taking all your nourishment, its kinda like BF, very hard not to just eat and eat with BF as you get incredibly hungry, but its a matter of eating the right thing thats the key, I managed to maintain minimal weight gain whilst PG with DD, don't know how?, but when she was born and from then on started to put on a bit of weight that hadn't been able to shift until just b4 this little one was conceived. I find it hard to choose the good foods all the time, unless they are there, quick and available with an instant energy hit. Comfort food seems to always hit the spot! Make sure you have some good healthy snacks on hand for when she is born and vitamins too. Instant gratification is what its all about when BF, for them and us. lol ------------- http://daisypath.com">
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Posted By: millemama
Date Posted: 23 September 2011 at 1:35pm
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Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 23 September 2011 at 5:35pm
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Choco will you get induced if you havent gone into labour before your due date? My midwife said because of my age they won't let me go over!! Hope your doing ok!!
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Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 23 September 2011 at 5:37pm
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Posted By: millemama
Date Posted: 23 September 2011 at 8:08pm
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Happygal, that sounds a ridiculous reason to not go over. Sorry can't remember, how old are you? There is so much research out there that talks about unnecessary interference. Have read a good article re how wrong the due date can be, with a lot of women interviewed who knew exact date of conception but were told something different regardless, so in their workings out they were not over at all. Food for thought anyway. ------------- http://daisypath.com">
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Posted By: choco69
Date Posted: 24 September 2011 at 8:10am
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Millemama - they told me right from the start that they won't want to let me go overdue - it's all about older first time mums and possible failure of the placenta - and no they won't induce, as they don't think baby will now fit into pelvis so without the pressure of baby engaging all it would do would possibly put me into labour with no dilation and progression and a need for a c-section anyways - feeling good about if i need a c-section then i need one - just want my wee girl to get here as safely as possible for both of us - and really do want to avoid a blood transfusion for me if at all possible as well ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: millemama
Date Posted: 24 September 2011 at 9:24am
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My first was an Em CS, and it was actually a wonderful experience with quick recovery, skin to skin, no probs BF and all that. I'm having an elective this time round so should be interesting to compare. I was 1mth off 40 first time and went 5 days over with no-one mentioning any prob with that, thats why I was surprised. I did birth in Oz so wonder if thats the diff.
I just feel that sometimes the medical profession push the older mum 'boat' out a bit far, and it really has more to do with general health etc than your physical age. I have had friends who have been told horrible things by Drs etc re her age, which is just not correct, whereas others are seemingly fine with it. My GP's wife just had their last one at 46, I was quite surprised. Sorry don't mean to rant or get on the bandwagon, just don't like being told certain things like that when I know its just not always the case. We had a wonderful OB in Oz and we came across a bloody horrible one that happened to be on call, 2 totally different approaches and opinions. Needless to say I kept my legs crossed until my Doc came on. lol ------------- http://daisypath.com">
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Posted By: Cinderella
Date Posted: 24 September 2011 at 9:44am
| My Gp was always positive when I discussed the posibility of having another baby. I am 37 now. He was away one time and his locum (who I had met and thought was nice) advised me if you want one don't leave it any longer. I have to say I am finding it hard this time around compared to my older boys and I am not as old as some women having babies. I don't have the energy and everything seems so much harder. Also I am having problems with concentration etc at work. I guess it is what they call baby brain. Never had that before. |
Posted By: millemama
Date Posted: 24 September 2011 at 10:36am
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I must admit I find this pg harder than the first, but with only 3yrs difference in yrs I'm pretty sure its more to do with circumstances and having a toddler to run around after.
Guys, I have found a thread which was interesting re "induction at 38wks or not for older mum". It sites all sorts of experiences from different women, for a rounded view. http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/895997-Older-mums-advice-needed-Should-I-accept-induction-at-38/AllononePage - http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/895997-Older-mums-advice-needed-Should-I-accept-induction-at-38/AllOnOnePage ------------- http://daisypath.com">
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Posted By: choco69
Date Posted: 27 September 2011 at 11:27am
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Baby update: well Miss Bliss is still growing away - at yesterday's scan they estimate she is 7lb13oz so guess she is still enjoying all the food I am serving to her :) being the budding diva that she is Miss Bliss has decided that it's no natural birth for her, she would like an audience of adoring fans, so she has decided not descend down the birth canal she would rather someone came and picked her up - so she is booked to depart her room via the sunroof on Tuesday 4th (unless she changes her mind in the meantime) ... so at least that gives me a week to finish getting organised for slavedom :)
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Posted By: millemama
Date Posted: 27 September 2011 at 2:29pm
Thats awesome Choco, love the name Miss Bliss. Wishing you and the Diva all the best for your performance 
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Posted By: camsmum01
Date Posted: 27 September 2011 at 3:57pm
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Yay Choco. Great to see Miss Bliss is doing well. I had sunroof experience with DS (emergency as he was stuck) and will have one this time too. Good luck for the 4th. Not long to go now!! -------------
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Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 27 September 2011 at 5:30pm
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wow Choco, how cool you will meet Miss Bliss very soon!! Keep us posted!! Hope it all goes great for the 4th! -------------
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Posted By: choco69
Date Posted: 27 September 2011 at 10:01pm
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i love the name Miss Bliss as well - think she will be stuck with this nickname for life!
my mother jokingly called my belly bliss after my 7wk scan as my pregnancy was making so many people happy - and it stuck
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Posted By: camsmum01
Date Posted: 11 October 2011 at 10:12am
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Posted By: choco69
Date Posted: 11 October 2011 at 10:51am
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yes my wee bliss baby arrived safely a week ago today - scary to think it's only a week I feel like she has always been here!
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Posted By: millemama
Date Posted: 11 October 2011 at 11:38am
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Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 11 October 2011 at 5:44pm
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Congrats Choco, she looks gorgeous, love the name too!! -------------
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Posted By: Babe
Date Posted: 11 October 2011 at 5:58pm
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:lurker in:
congrats Choco shes delumptious!!!! :lurker out: -------------   
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Posted By: EmDee
Date Posted: 11 October 2011 at 6:09pm
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*lurker in*
Awww *melt*  She is gorgeous Choco, congratulations!
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Posted By: LateStarterLorna
Date Posted: 12 October 2011 at 10:12pm
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Posted By: choco69
Date Posted: 09 November 2011 at 7:39am
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Hi Ladies
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Posted By: millemama
Date Posted: 09 November 2011 at 12:43pm
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5 wks that went fast, I have 5wks left to go if you count a wk early for CS, not sure of date yet will find out next friday. All is good with me, this has been my best trimester, feeling good and lots of energy, and just found out the other wk had only put on 7.5 kgs, which I found really odd, cos feeling and looking bigger than with DD. She had her 3rd birthday a mnth ago and I had my 43rd birthday a wk ago! So the old girls have still got it, lol ------------- http://daisypath.com">
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Posted By: camsmum01
Date Posted: 10 November 2011 at 9:30am
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Hi Choco, well done! I am so looking forward to the end of the school year so I can relax and look forward to our little girl arriving end of Jan/beg of Feb. I'm excited about having another scan in little over a week which was unexpected. MW said it's because I had CS last time and I'm probably going for one again this time the obstetrician wants to see a new scan. YAY. Good luck for all those getting towards the end of your pregnancy. -------------
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Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 29 November 2011 at 7:42pm
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Hey choco hope things are going well with your wee girl!! I know, only weeks left for us on here!! All good with me, only 13 days of work left, yay!! I so can't wait for a break!! Feel like I am getting soooo huge now!! She is growing like crazy!! Hope all you girls are doing great! -------------
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Posted By: millemama
Date Posted: 02 December 2011 at 9:22am
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Hi everyone, just checking in, got date yesterday for CS, 15th December, yay, just 5 days short of EDD. And I'm having her in Tauranga, not Waikato (bit of disaster there, saw OB there the other wk, but hated the ward, hospital etc, so antiquated so got changed to Tga. It works out better anyway cos Dad lives there and DH and DD can stay there and take 5mins to visit me instead of 1hr to Hamilton. With only 2wks to go still got lists running through my head of things to do, guess it doesn't help having Christmas up soon either. But what a cool present!
Hope everyone is fit and well. Oh, another thing that was laughable bout Waikato OB visit. A large portion of visit was taken up by her "talk" about getting my tubes tied, seems a big issue, I guess cos of age (43). MW only asked me once and that was that, but even tho I was quite precise with my answer "thanks but no thanks" OB went on and on about it, then when the penny dropped I wasn't interested, she carried on about what sort of contraception I was going to use afterwards. I couldn't believe it, wanted to tell her where to stick it and that it was none of her business, lets just get this little puppy out first, but wow she was insistent, guessing again that it was age related and maybe she found it hard to believe that it wouldn't be a tragedy if I did fall PG again, even tho not planning on it. She would have been about 10yrs younger than me or more. I have not had any issues with either PG (first one at 39) compared to lots of ladies I know who are much younger. I wholeheartedly believe that its more health related than age related. But there you go, can't change everyones mind I guess. Had anyone else had any funny/annoying PG/age related stories this time? ------------- http://daisypath.com">
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Posted By: choco69
Date Posted: 10 January 2012 at 7:32am
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Posted By: millemama
Date Posted: 10 January 2012 at 12:11pm
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Wow Choco, I can't believe its been 3mths for you, hope all is well with you and little Evelyn, lovely piccie by the way.
And yeah ladies where are you all at, love to hear from you. Things are great with us, my little poppet is powering along, loves the boobie and sleeps an awful lot so mummy hasn't been deprived of any sleepless nights yet, love that! And BF has been a breeze this time round, cos my boobs are "organised" so the lactation consultant told me, lol, thats cos I was still BF my DD1. ------------- http://daisypath.com">
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Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 17 January 2012 at 6:57am
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Gosh haven't been on here for ages!!!
Congrats Millemama on your wee girl, hope its all going well!! Choco hope things are going well with you! 3 months already!!! All good with me, can't believe I am due next week!! scary! Just a waiting game now!! Hope everyone else is doing great! -------------
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