Toddler hitting/scratching/kicking
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Topic: Toddler hitting/scratching/kicking
Posted By: KiwiL
Subject: Toddler hitting/scratching/kicking
Date Posted: 23 April 2011 at 8:09pm
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Jackson is going through a very long phase of hitting/scratching/kicking us. He does it when he's overexcited, overtired, overstimulated, not getting his own way etc.
We've been using time out but not seen much behaviour time. We've tried big growls, growling before and/or after time out, gentle explaining, lectures, loss of priveledges, loss of toys. The only thing we haven't done is smack back, but we don't really want to do that. My primary question is - can anyone recommend any good kids books about not being violent? I am sure there must be books out there, so I'd like to have a go with these as Jackson loves books and story time so much. Secondly, I know this is not uncommon, but do any of you have any other tips on how you stamped out this behaviour in your toddler? It is in particular getting my DH down and often results in us bickering because he's been snappy with me after. |
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 24 April 2011 at 5:02pm
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I gosh Ive just been through all this with DS, we tried everything and in the end it was basically NO chances! So he went straight to his room when he ever he was naughty, i would say "right that's it, in your room" pick him and plonk him in there, and he knew he was in trouble, he would cry and say noo pack a wobbly etc, but he had to stay there for X amount of time, then come out and say sorry.
It worked! He is now much better than he was(he got really nasty for a while, it upset me a lot). he now knows that he WILL go to his room when hes naughty and sometimes all I have to say is "ok in your room" and he says noo I'm sorry and carry's on playing nicely. ------------- |
Posted By: FionaO
Date Posted: 24 April 2011 at 7:22pm
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I agree with Sheza, I think choose and approach and always do exactly the same thing, we currently have an issue with throwing things, and we are using the same approach each time, I won't say its all better, but we have seen an improvement. We use a naughty step, he doesn't come off it and sits there until he is ready to say sorry, we then talk about what not to do and normally after he is much nicer, sometimes just mentioning the naughty step means he will stop straight away, sometimes he just needs to go as time away from us calms him down Also treating his behaviour exactly the same way helped DH and me who were also arguing a fair bit about what to do. Not sure about books, could be worth asking at the library, they are very helpful ------------- 
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Posted By: fire_engine
Date Posted: 25 April 2011 at 7:45pm
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When DS is going through phases like that, I find I have to show him I'm in charge quickly. If I let things slide in the morning cos I'm tired and CBAed, he feeds off that and keeps playing up. If I get onto it quickly and enact consequences as soon as the behaviour happens, it seems to set us up for a better day. ------------- Mum to two wee boys |