Sudden night wakings
Printed From: OHbaby!
Category: Have A Baby?
Forum Name: Toddler Times
Forum Description: Is bubs growing up and getting into everything? How do you train them to use the potty? When do you start feeding solids? Share your tips and advice here!
URL: https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=38881
Printed Date: 09 August 2025 at 4:35am
Software Version: Web Wiz Forums 12.05 - http://www.webwizforums.com
Topic: Sudden night wakings
Posted By: Lexidore
Subject: Sudden night wakings
Date Posted: 20 April 2011 at 11:21pm
|
Hey all,
DD is 15 months old and very luckily for me has been a pretty awesome sleeper for a while now. However in the past month or so we have had on occasion nights where she gets woken up by either someone around the house or something else and when she wakes up it is damn near impossible to resettle her. If you try to give her a cuddle she screams and arches her back as if to get away from you, if you leave her in bed she can start screaming bloody murder. I have put a night light in her room because at first I thought maybe when she was getting woken up she was getting a fright because it was so dark but that hasn't seemed to have worked. We have tried the following, getting her up for cuddles (in which case she is completely happy till you get her back to bed) trying to get her to sleep in our bed (she wont no matter what!) feeding her a bottle, works sometimes other times not, sitting next to her bed and shhing and patting (this has worked once but took a good 45 minutes and then again tonight I was in there for 45 minutes and she had calmed down and was nearly asleep twice but went nato again when I left the room) and finally we have also just left her to cry, she is not full blown crying the whole time and the gaps between her screams get bigger and the screams get shorter but its not nice to hear at all, It actually sounds like someone is torturing her even though I know she isn't in any pain. It probably took a good 20 minutes (maybe 5-10 of that was intermittent screams)for her to go to sleep again, and this is after 45 minutes at least of shhing and patting. Okay so basically the moral of my giant novel is that I am wondering if anyone elses child has been through a phase like this if so what did you do to resolve, or if anyone has any ideas, 45 minutes plus of patting and shhing is not going to be ideal once I have a newborn to cope with at night also so yea what are your thoughts? ------------- 
|
Replies:
Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 20 April 2011 at 11:30pm
|
So what happens when she gets woken & you don't do anything? I'm guessing she's waking up screaming though which makes you go into her? ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com"> 
A = 01.02.04 & C = 16.01.09 & G = 30.03.12 |
Posted By: TheKelly
Date Posted: 20 April 2011 at 11:32pm
|
am still going through it Bex,and doing pretty much the same as you.
Hope you manage to get it sorted once baby is here ------------- 
http://lilypie.com"> 
|
Posted By: Lexidore
Date Posted: 20 April 2011 at 11:41pm
|
Oh I generally wait to hear what kind of cry it is and whether it continues on after probably a minute before I go in like if its a whimpery cry I will leave her a minute or more and she will normally resettle. If its more of a shrieky cry I wait about 20-30 seconds and if she is still doing the same cry I go in -------------
|
Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 21 April 2011 at 7:18am
|
Sounds dumb but have you poked your head in the door & said it's ok Lexie go back to sleep.
Also do you have a night light on? ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com">
A = 01.02.04 & C = 16.01.09 & G = 30.03.12 |
Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 21 April 2011 at 7:55am
|
Jake did this from 13-16 months, it was hideous! Exactly the same, wake up screaming, happy as while you cuddled, screamed once put in the cot. Once calm, screamed if you left the room.
In the end we started like this: 1st waking - Went in, laid him down. "Its bed time, sweet heart, off to sleep. Love you" leave @nd - "Back to sleep, mummy and daddy are just next door, love you" 3rd - "bed" From then he just got laid back down unless he was hysterical, then he got cuddled to calm then laid down. I hate CIO and CC but sometimes its a needs must! -------------   
|
Posted By: Lexidore
Date Posted: 21 April 2011 at 8:23am
Kel, nah I haven't tried that will def try it first next time it happens, yep we have a nightlight in 
Thanks Mummyofprinces, good to hear that you have been through it and found something that works! I think a combo of your and A&C's is what we will try next! -------------
|
Posted By: mrsbt
Date Posted: 21 April 2011 at 10:16am
Our 2 yo did this too. It was just a phase and he just one day stopped waking again. I don't think it lastest more than a month and wasn't every night but he would wake and start screaming. He was waking his 3yo brother and really upsetting him so we decided we couldn't do the CC method as it was unfair on his brother. I would go in and sit by his bed with my hand on his hand and make shhh noises then move my hand away and slowly move myself away but still staying in the room and doing the shh noises. In the end he would fall asleep and I would go back to bed. Sometimes he woke 2 or 3 times a night but bit by bit he stopped waking and crying. I also always made sure he had his cuddly with him and was warm enough and all that... Once or twice I fell asleep on the floor in his room. 
I think it is a phase and will pass. Hang in there, choose something that works for you and keep doing it until she is back to sleeping through. I sure hope she gets through the phase well before number 2 arrives. ------------- 
|
Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 21 April 2011 at 10:17am
|
Lily's been doing it too recently, perhaps an age thing? It got worse round teething but seems to have continued.
Sometimes I think they just need to cry and get it out. I think if they aren't in pain etc then that's fine. I completely HATE CIO but there have been times when nothing has worked and she's just needed to get it out and then she's fine iygwim! I have found that sometimes saying 'It's ok, mummies here, time for na-nais' (never had to spell it before lol!) works but sorta depends on when I go into her - straight away or after 5 mins etc. Re the going in patting, shhhh-ing etc - have found it to take ages too but I generally wait a further 15 mins after she goes to sleep then exit. I also sometimes just repeat the 'it's ok, mummies here, time for bed, lay down and go to sleep, shh it's ok, mummies here...' quite softly and she will lay down and eventually after some fluffing around, rolling around, moving around to get comfy sigh and close her eyes. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
|
Posted By: shadowfeet
Date Posted: 21 April 2011 at 11:06am
|
We get it for when she's teething sorry. Takes until she cuts her next tooth before she's back to normal sleeping. We just do cuddles and bring her into our bed unfortunately. Sometimes she was waking at 3-4 am and refusing to go back to sleep. She got through it though and went back to good sleeping so may just be a matter of riding it out. I take her to the dr to check it's nothing else and the dr tells me about CIO, ah. no thanks ------------- 
|
Posted By: rachelsea
Date Posted: 22 April 2011 at 8:02pm
|
Hope she hasn't done it again for you! Chelsea has only just started sleeping thru consistantly since last Sunday when we bought a mink blanket and put it on her bed LOL (touch wood I haven't jinxed it)! Before that, she'd sleep thru maybe once a week if we were lucky. Other times she'd get up and come in our room. If she was in a good mood I could get her back to sleep in her bed, but if she was grumpy she would do the whole arching back and screaming thing and was real hard to calm her down. Nothing really worked, just had to wait for her to calm down herself. While holding her that is, can't leave her to cry as she's in a bed so just keeps getting out!
Fingers crossed it's just a phase for you guys ------------- DD 4yrs DS 2yrs http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
|
Posted By: STARZIE
Date Posted: 23 April 2011 at 4:41pm
| My boys started doing this on occasion in the last few weeks (but has had some teeth coming through as well..) I find if i bring him into our bed for about 5 mins (he doesn't fall asleep just a cuddle) and then i take him down to his room, give him his toy and tuck him in it often works... |
Posted By: millymollymandy
Date Posted: 28 April 2011 at 8:29pm
|
DD did this at the same age for while. Unless she was super worked up I just left her to it. Would just go in and tell her it was time of for sleep, every 10 mins and she'd calm down. She grew out of it.
If noise wakes her I'd get white noise CD - brilliant. After a while they sleep sounder anyway. |
Posted By: erinalba
Date Posted: 01 May 2011 at 7:10am
|
We're having this problem with Briannah at the moment. 3 weeks of sleep deprivation is really taking it's toll. Unfortunately she sleeps in the same room as her almost 3 year old brother so we can only let her CIO for so long. Was hoping now that she's cut her four molars that it would settle down, but not yet. Good to know others are going through it so hopefully it is just a phase. ------------- Sue See my blog www.gojandal.com/wubboo http://lilypie.com"> 
http://lilypie.com"> 
|
Posted By: TorinsMum
Date Posted: 01 May 2011 at 10:21pm
|
OMG we are having the same problem at the moment.
We tried letting him cry it out & he just screamed intermittently for hours. The only way to calm him was to bring him to bed with us & stupidly we continued this for over a week. In the end we decided enough was enough & now either DH or I go & sit in his room until he calms down which can take up to an hour. In desperate need of a good nights sleep & am hoping this phase will end very soon. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
|
Posted By: My3Sons
Date Posted: 04 May 2011 at 6:03am
|
argh I sympathise!! My 3 year old has started doing this recently except he screams and cries and usually ends up in our bed which isnt ideal but he wakes his brothers up otherwise ------------- Mum to Mr 10, Mr 6 and Mr 4 
 
|
Oh precious sleep......
Posted By: monkey33
Date Posted: 05 May 2011 at 9:47pm
|
Hey Bex, sorry I haven't been around here much!!
We are going through the same phase too - DS has woken any time between 2 & 5am for the last few weeks and won't go back to sleep unless it is in our bed (actually 2 or 3 nights, nothing has worked, wouldn't even settle in our bed!). We have tried CIO previously which worked on his settling at 7pm (it was taking him up to 2 hours to settle before that), but the cry during the night is different - it's not a yell/mad cry for us, it is an upset cry. He has been getting his next 4 teeth though, so we'll just keep bringing him into our bed for now! We are creating a huge habit but it's the only way that any of us get sleep. I am hoping he may just start sleeping through on his own but as previously CIO has worked for us (only took 1 night after months of headaches trying to get him to sleep at bed time), so we have that to fall back on that if absolutely necessary once the teething is over. Good luck, hope it is just a phase for you too! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
|
Posted By: Inlove28
Date Posted: 13 May 2011 at 8:24pm
|
I too was going to suggest teething bex. DD does it some nites and she just comes in with us. Can you jump in her bed until she falls asleep? -------------  http://lilypie.com"> 
|
Posted By: PixieL
Date Posted: 18 May 2011 at 10:30pm
|
Nothing useful to add. My little guy keeps waking up too. Here's a book I can relate too!
http://www.guardian.co.uk/books/2011/may/17/go-the-f**k-to-sleep-hit - Go the fxxx to sleep No offense intended! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
 1/2/9 (27/8/9)
|