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Topic: Babies close in age

Posted By: BabyLo
Subject: Babies close in age
Date Posted: 17 December 2010 at 3:27pm

Hi
I've just found out I'm expecting number 2 and number 1 is only 3months old.
Do any of you other ladies have babies so close? how do you cope?
thanks
Lauren

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Posted By: first
Date Posted: 17 December 2010 at 4:00pm

Congrats BabyLo. There are a couple of ladies on here with small gaps and I'm sure they'll find this post but didn't want to read and run.

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Posted By: Jaune
Date Posted: 17 December 2010 at 4:22pm

Yay! Congratulations! I'd like my babies to be close in age too...we're going to start trying for another one soon. Will be watching this thread!

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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 17 December 2010 at 6:18pm

wow thats smaller than my age gap hehe.

I got pregnant when DS had just turned 5 months old.

The pregnancy itself was pretty ok, was hard through the MS period, but after that it was ok, I was more tired than normal but thats it.

Afterwards it was quite tricky, as I had a CS(had an emerg one with DS) but we muddled on through

Its not really that hard! You will find what works for you!

Congrats and good luck!

ETA - The age gap between my kids is 14 months

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Posted By: BabyLo
Date Posted: 17 December 2010 at 6:27pm

Thank you Sheza!
I had a natural birth with my daughter so hope to be able to do the same again..
My daughter is pretty easy which I'm super lucky about. I'm not breastfeeding, it just did not work for us and she was loosing weight and I was getting depressed about it.

Morning sickness has started to rear it's ugly head so I hope it's not too bad. I had it mild last time but I know each pregnancy is different.

Do you enjoy the kids being so close now Sheza? Are they close?

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Posted By: TheKelly
Date Posted: 17 December 2010 at 7:43pm

I think there is another mum on here...can't think of her username but know her real name is Mon, that got pregnant with number 2 when number one was around 3months...hopefully she finds this thread! but for what its worth she seems to cope pretty well

Congrats !

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Posted By: pekay
Date Posted: 17 December 2010 at 8:06pm

My girls are 13.5months apart and it is amazingly wonderful. Pregnancy was rather tiring, however I did have DD1 with me 24/7 no breaks/Daycare/family help etc.
Everyone used to say how hard it was going to be etc, but I find it really easy, which I was really surprised about. The first 3-4 weeks were probably the hardest as you are getting used to a NB again and the other one will be on the move which can be stressful, especially when you are feeding baby and you cant see/hear the other one. And even if it is hard, when you see you 1year old kissing the baby a cuddle and kisses...well, it is just the most amazing thing ever.

Posted By: kiwimum2010
Date Posted: 17 December 2010 at 8:21pm

I have a 1yo DS and 3months preg again, so will be 19 months between. I am 16months older than my brother. My Mum said that yes it can be full on and tiring but then we became great playmates. Where as I know others who wait till baby number 1 is say 3 or 4 and then get preg again and say they were just getting there independance back when they got preg again...were as us with babies close in age will get it all out of the way asap! ;-) There must be pros and cons for each, but roll with it and I am sure you will do just fine.

Posted By: BabyLo
Date Posted: 17 December 2010 at 8:44pm

Thank you pekay & kiwimum2010..It's nice to hear such positive things. I'm also worried about telling people like my family & friends.

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Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 17 December 2010 at 8:47pm

I have an 18 month gap and its tiring but fun...

Monikah is the person Kelly is referring too, not sure she is posting much atm but she made it sound easy

Pregnancy during T1 and T3 were hard for me, ms and caring for a baby is not pleasant then by the time T3 came i had a full on active toddler who didnt walk, he ran...everywhere.. and climbed everything! Not a good look being 9 months pg chasing a wee one around the mall and them being faster than you LOL

I am in no hurry to add to the clan, 2 under 2 is plenty for me but I wouldnt change a thing, they are going to be besties soon and I expect I will be grey

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Posted By: Kalimirella
Date Posted: 17 December 2010 at 8:48pm

I think that was melnel Kelly, my 2 are going to be 17 mths apart which is basically what my older brother and sister was, and then 15 mths to me then 15 mths to my younger brother.

My mum says it was very hard at the beginning especially as it was basically just her (Dad was a shift worker and studying) but we do grow up really close and had lots of fun with games, and even for school (and my mum homeschooled us through most of primary school lol) its was pretty fantastic having playmates the same age at home.

Personally (with no experience yet) at least for the first little while you will have a nonmoving baby through early pregnancy, and I love the idea of having the baby stage (nappies especialy) over and done with.

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Posted By: kandk
Date Posted: 17 December 2010 at 9:00pm

A friend of mine had her first two 11 months apart

(not planned that way!). She had good family support, and the two boys are great mates.

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Posted By: BabyLo
Date Posted: 17 December 2010 at 9:10pm

That's around abouts what my two will be. I'm due Aug 10 and my daughter was born Sept 2..So 11.5 months or closer 12 months if I go overdue.
I'm feeling a bit more confident about the two being so close. Still scarey. I think it's just coz baby is still young. Once I get further on and baby gets older I might get my head around it better!

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Posted By: Richie
Date Posted: 17 December 2010 at 9:13pm

Limochick is expecting her wee girl Jan 19th I think and her DS wont quite be 1yo yet, so just under 12 months between them!
We were originally going to have 2 close together as we only want two kids but then we decided against it. Just don't think I'd be able to cope with a pregnancy and a baby! But that's just me...... I'm lazy and it just seemed like too much hard work lol

Huge congrats tho and good luck!

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Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 17 December 2010 at 9:34pm

wHAT nzlISA Said... Limochick is having her wee girl about a week before her DS3 turns 1!

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Posted By: ....
Date Posted: 18 December 2010 at 1:20am

I'm due on BabyDaddy's other child's 5th birthday, does that count as close ages?

Posted By: Limochick
Date Posted: 18 December 2010 at 10:47am

CONGRATS on your pregnancy

My youngest son was 9wks old when I got pregnant, I took 7 tests to make sure

. The pregnancy has had it's ups and downs and I'm quite tired alot of the time but that could be due to the fact that I have 2 older ones as well. I can't give you any advice as to what it's going to be like yet, I've got 32 days till our little girl arrives (by c-section).

I speak to Mon sometimes on facebook and she does make it seem very very easy though I'm still nervous about the next year!!

Oh and our new baby will be born a week before Quins bday, they are called irish twins if they are born within 12months of each other

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Posted By: newme
Date Posted: 18 December 2010 at 12:12pm

One of my best friends has two boys 11 months apart. She found it quite difficult for the first year or so, but she had no family support at all. After that she found it quite easy as they were so close in age, that their schedules worked well with each other. The boys are now 8 and 9 and they are the best of friends.
There is no sibling rivalry at all, as they both have the exact same rules - bedtimes, allowance etc.

Posted By: BabyLo
Date Posted: 18 December 2010 at 12:24pm

Thank you so much everyone. I am feeling better about it now, yesterday was just such a shock!!
I'm going to ask for a scan to check my dates for sure lol Limochick I took 6 tests yesterday and one more this morning just incase yesterday was a dream haha

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Posted By: Limochick
Date Posted: 18 December 2010 at 12:32pm

I deffinetly know how you feel, I still have shocked days

When I had a scan it changed my dates but I was certain of when I got pregnant so who knows lol!! How is your dp/dh about it?? I must say the other issue I'm having is carrying Quin around is getting quite hard though I am lucky in the fact that he has started walking

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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 18 December 2010 at 12:33pm

BabyLo wrote:

Thank you Sheza!
I had a natural birth with my daughter so hope to be able to do the same again..
My daughter is pretty easy which I'm super lucky about. I'm not breastfeeding, it just did not work for us and she was loosing weight and I was getting depressed about it.

Morning sickness has started to rear it's ugly head so I hope it's not too bad. I had it mild last time but I know each pregnancy is different.

Do you enjoy the kids being so close now Sheza? Are they close?

Hehe well, some days I dont enjoy it, when they are being little terrors and fighting and what not! But other days they are really good and so sweet to each other and I love it!

I get asked A LOT now if they are twins lol!

ETA - Dont get me wrong though, Its definiely not been as hard as people said it was going to be! But for me it was quite hard when DD was 3 weeks-5 months as she suffered from really bad reflux so she cried A LOT and I went through post natal depression and stuff, so I struggled for a while, but we are doing great now!

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Posted By: pekay
Date Posted: 18 December 2010 at 2:03pm

I too worried what people though...especially my family. For some reason I felt embarrassed about it, but everyone was really happy. We didn't shout it from rooftops at first- Especially with the reply we got from my mum when we told her "oh you're kidding, aren't you?"
And to be honest with you, I was pretty bummed about the pregnancy and really didn't want it to be true. It want until my second DD was born that I was happy about, and my goodness I wouldn't change it for the world!! (ps- DD2 was born this September too)

Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 18 December 2010 at 3:09pm

Yeah same Kate, I was so embarressed to tell people, didnt even "announce" it on here like with DS, i just snuck into August lol! Until someone made a thread saysing "omg sheza!" and then everyone knew *sigh* lol!
And I didnt really get excited abotu the pregnancy and I felt a bit detatched...but after a while that went away and I was just excited to meet my daughter!

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Posted By: Limochick
Date Posted: 18 December 2010 at 3:34pm

I was nervous telling people as well and it took me quite awhile to get excited about it. I think it does help though (I hope this doesn't sound bad) that this is a girl and I have 3 boys so that made me a bit excited. I was nervous putting it on facebook and it took me awhile to do that. I also feel though that I haven't had enough time enjoying Quin

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Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 18 December 2010 at 5:41pm

I remember that thread Sheza!

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Posted By: TheKelly
Date Posted: 18 December 2010 at 6:58pm

haha! so do I ! think you can hide on here Shez, yeah right

I will have about 19 months between my youngest and this baby in my belly, and people say "oh you'll be so busy "
or "oh you'll be so tired

WELL DUH!!! what mother isn't!? even with just my eldest I was tired and busy for 6 years, think it comes with the territory.
It amuses me when people say that because, really,what do they want you to do ? bit late for the "you'll be tired " statements

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Posted By: Limochick
Date Posted: 18 December 2010 at 7:32pm

lmao Kelly I get the same comments, it's like seriously do you not think I've thought of all that already

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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 18 December 2010 at 7:38pm

*sigh* I guess I cant!!! lol

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Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 18 December 2010 at 9:37pm

LOL I got all through the pregnancy "you'll be busy" and I still get it... doesnt help that DS1 is FULL ON! Honestly the child has 2 speeds, sleep and run.

I also got asked if it was planned

Well yes, not that its any of your business. DH suggested next time I reply no and its not my husbands and walk away LMAO.

Wouldnt change it for the world, DS2 already adores DS1.. he smiles as soon as he sees him and DS1 is always giviing DS2 cuddles and kisses *melt*

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Posted By: fadeless
Date Posted: 18 December 2010 at 10:48pm

I have 13mths between my eldest 2, went on to have a 21mth gap then 18mth gap so i had 4 in 4 1/2yrs! It has been lots of fun, the 13mth gap was really good and i loved it. When you get into a routine its so much easier. I found the first year of having both of them went soooo fast! Now they are 6yrs and 7yrs and are both totally different in personality and they can be the best of friends and the worst of enemies sometimes lol like normal siblings!

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Posted By: babylove
Date Posted: 19 December 2010 at 1:09pm

lol fadeless you have the same age gaps that i have between my 4. 13mths, 23mth, 19mths are our age gaps.

i found the trickiest part was that with such a small age gap you still need 2 of everything.

2 cots(you might be able to buy some time by using a bassinet

2 carseats (I learnt with this one, i bought 2 convertable carseats, but by the time ds2 was out of the capsule I could have just gone with an all in one seater, which is like a booster but has the harness and goes from 9kg - aprox 11yrs)

double pram

I found the hardest part was the supermarket, after 4 kids, I have learnt how to get 2 babies out of the car and what ever else i need and lock the car(not push button locks

) with out needing a trolley but I have only just got the hang of it.
invest in a good sling or wrap.
I was able to discreetly bfeed while doing groceries and entertain my 13mth old.

I was lucky that my ds1 was walking b4 ds2 came but some babies dont walk til 14mths+.

my youngest is almost 11mths now and we are ttc for our 5th. so I must love it. we actually started ttc our 3rd as soon as we could i found the age gap awsome though we ended up with a slightly bigger gap.

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Posted By: clover
Date Posted: 20 December 2010 at 3:03pm

melnel wrote:

I also got asked if it was planned

Well yes, not that its any of your business. DH suggested next time I reply no and its not my husbands and walk away LMAO.

haha that would be classic.

I actually never understand why people ask that question anyway. The two most asked questions I got were "was it planned" and "is your DH happy". Um, none of your business and nah he's pissed off cause I tricked him into it.....

Anyway, I love the idea of a small gap, but maybe not quite that small

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Posted By: RinTinTin
Date Posted: 21 December 2010 at 10:08am

Funny, I wasn't worried about telling anyone really. DP and I had been through a rough patch not so long ago and I was worried people would think it was too soon but the age gap issue never occurred to me until my Mum came to me the other day and told me that people had said to her "Oh, but, um, her boy has only just turned one?" and then it kinda dawned on me that close age gaps aren't really as well accepted as I thought.
I think people assume it must have been a whoopsie or something but I made sure everyone knew it was planned.
At the end of the day it's of no consequence what anybody else thinks as long as you and your little family are happy.

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