change time tantrum
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Topic: change time tantrum
Posted By: mummymonster
Subject: change time tantrum
Date Posted: 21 August 2010 at 12:45pm
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DS is almost 13mths.
He's a willful child, who has decided having his nappy changed is not for him. Or wearing clothes for that matter, but I can deal with that. So change time, it starts as soon as I pick him up to go downstairs he starts whinging. Then when he gets on the change table (we've got it set up so it's blocked 2 sides + my body along the long side so I feel it's safe) it's tantrum time. The screaming and twisting and turning and standing and carry on you just would not believe! When DH is home I often get him to help hold down the top end while I try to clean up the bottom end, and it's still a struggle. Then, would you believe it, as soon as the new nappy's done up the little monster goes back to normal and will happily lie on the table playing with a toy. What can I do? He's too young to reason with, too young to toilet train. I can't keep this up, I'm wrestling with a 1yr old and loosing. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 21 August 2010 at 3:50pm
Well sorry little man but Mum's the boss for a few more years yet! 
When I had a wriggly changer, I would change her on the floor with my legs outstretched in front of me, over her shoulders. It's enough pressure to help them lie still but not enough to hurt them. Of course they fuss and everything but just don't get worked up about it and get it done asap. A similar thing for changing tops: "the seatbelt". Sit him on your lap, facing away from you and cross one leg on top of his lap, kindof like a bar across his tummy. Helps a lot. -------------  |
Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 21 August 2010 at 4:05pm
Mr 19 months is like this, but only for me his carer and Dh have no trouble changing him at all, he lies on the mat like an angel for them, but with me it is major tanty time, and like your child he is instantly happy again the moment the new nappy is on.
I sometimes have to do what busymum is talking about and use my feet to pin his arms down, is horrid and I hate it but there is sometimes no other way. If he's just done wees then I change him standing up/moving around as much as possible, but you can't do that with the poos 
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Posted By: HoneybunsMa
Date Posted: 21 August 2010 at 9:26pm
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Yep DD at 13mths does this but she has been doing it for AGES good couple of months now. Used to be great with my mum/DP but now she fusses with everyone.
We distract by getting her to clap and singing to her or laughing and making it enjoyable but other then that its the same way as busymum and trap her and she twists and turns around then as soon as she's dressed fine. Otherwise we try doing round and round the garden - she does it on herself now so cute We're pretty good with getting dressed because I make a bit of a game about it by telling her to push her arm through and then shaking her hand about normally pants are fairly easy but if she is fussy then I pull her foot through and tickle her feet when it pops out which she anticipates for the next foot and is ready laughing. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: Shelt
Date Posted: 21 August 2010 at 9:35pm
I have this issue too, and I have issues getting clothes on and off as well. I do what busy mum and two_boys have said and pin her down with my legs over her shoulders (and hope like hell its not a huge poo but thats another story  ). She goes through stages where she is terrible and then she gets better for a while.------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: whitewave
Date Posted: 21 August 2010 at 10:29pm
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I know what that's like!
You might have to abandon the change table and change him on the floor - my DS absolutely HATES being changed on a high surface now (like when we're out and have to use a fold-out change table), but on the floor he's not so bad. And distraction is a great thing - hate to admit it, but a favourite kids TV show that he can still see while I'm changing him makes the ordeal a lot quieter and quicker! |
Posted By: blondy
Date Posted: 21 August 2010 at 10:43pm
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DD is pretty good now, but we did go through a phase just lke the one you're describing!
We found having a CD player in the room, with something like nursery rhymes, or a kids music CD (or the new one is wonky donkey  ), and telling her that if she lay still, she could listen to it helped. I think she may hve been a little older than your DS, so her comprehension may have been better, but maybe worth a try? (and if she started geting difficult, we turned it off).
Good luck, hopefully it is just a phase! -------------  
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Posted By: rachelsea
Date Posted: 22 August 2010 at 9:36am
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I feel your pain! My DD (18months) has been doing this since she learnt to roll a year ago and like two_boys, only does it for me!!! A few weeks ago I made a wee cloth nappy for her dolly (looks just like DD's nappies) and now when it's change time I say "Dolly needs her nappy changed" so DD gets out the change mat, gets her dolly and lies her on the mat. Then we change Dolly lol, I let DD wipe her with a dry cloth wipe then we put the nappy back on again then I give Dolly to DD while I lie her on the change mat and change her nappy. Sometimes she manages to stay still long enough for me to change her lol, so it's better than it was!
As for getting dressed, I just chase her round the house while putting clothes on her, easier to just give in on that one ------------- DD 4yrs DS 2yrs http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Emmecat
Date Posted: 23 August 2010 at 8:28am
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Um yeah here too Screaming, crying (with tears) fist clenching, kicking.....hmmmm not cool! It's like I'm trying to pull her toenails out! I just try to distract her, sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. Man she is strong though!!! And it's harder to restrain her the more pg I get...so yeah I think most changes are gonna take place on the floor where I can sit on her hehe -------------   http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 23 August 2010 at 8:47am
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Snap k... it does get harder and harder!!!! They know too I reckon, little monkey.
Distraction! Singing, clapping, something to play with.... Also doesnt like the high change tops in parents room etc so we do it on the floor on his change mat where possible... -------------   
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Posted By: millymollymandy
Date Posted: 23 August 2010 at 9:30am
| Us too! I get everything ready beforehand, nappy out, bucket ready, pants off before starting then, a newish toy and singing/pulling faces as I quicky get nappy on. Still some grizzling, but its tolerable. |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 23 August 2010 at 8:49pm
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I forgot to say, give them something to hold. My DD loves the wipes so if she's not keen on a change I'll sometimes let her pull a wipe out then she can hold onto that while I do the rest. She likes to wipe her hands and nose and copy us LOL ------------- |