When can i try again?
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Topic: When can i try again?
Posted By: Nadia
Subject: When can i try again?
Date Posted: 24 May 2010 at 3:09pm
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I have just miscarried and even though im going to miss our bubs so much me and DH would like to try for another. I want to make sure though that i don't try to soon so when can i try for another bubs? ------------- [URL=http://lilypie.com][IMG]http://lb2f.lilypie.com/TikiPic.php/0UKrA9O.jpg][IMG]http://lb2f.lilypie.com/0UKrp12.png][/URL] |
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Posted By: Emmi_
Date Posted: 24 May 2010 at 3:16pm
Hi Nadia, firstly I am so sorry for your loss, I had been following the Dec thread 
I MCed in May last year, at 6 or 7 weeks, was a complete natural MC, and was told I can start trying as soon as DH and I felt we were ready. For me this was the next cycle, but DH needed a little more time to get his head around things. So provided there are no complications (which after your post in Dec, doesnt sound like there should be) you should be able to start TTC again when your ready. Just do be aware than you can get "baby blues" a few days after having a MC, and you may find that some days are easier than others, so just take it easy, talk to your DH, feel and do what you need to, and take the time to grieve... GL, I hope that you are pregnant again soon with a healthy, sticky bubba. big hugs from me 
And remember that we are here if you need us ------------- 
+1 May 09 Angel 
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Posted By: Nadia
Date Posted: 24 May 2010 at 3:48pm
Thanks Emmi, i can see where your comming from with the ups and downs i sometimes forget im not preggy anymore but i have a fantastic DH and well get through it togeather  ------------- [URL=http://lilypie.com][IMG]http://lb2f.lilypie.com/TikiPic.php/0UKrA9O.jpg][IMG]http://lb2f.lilypie.com/0UKrp12.png][/URL] |
Posted By: tictacjunkie
Date Posted: 24 May 2010 at 4:05pm
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Hi Nadia, so sorry for your loss. I've lost 5 myself & tho it's been different each time it's never easy. I lost one in Sept last year at 13 weeks, didn't ovulate again til Feb this year (i'm due in Nov). With my others (they were 6-7 weeks along) it was about 6-8 weeks before i conceived again (3 of them succesful pregnancies too). I hope everything goes well for you next time, I'll keep an eye out for you in the due 2011 threads, =).
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Posted By: Carlie
Date Posted: 24 May 2010 at 8:13pm
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Hi there,
i had a blighted Ovum found out at 7 weeks and waited 2 weeks for my body to natrually misscarry but wouldn't happen so opted for a D&C and had it at about 10 weeks. It has now been 5 weeks/ 35days since the D&C and still no AF. From what i have read my body should go back to normal cycle but it hasn't , i know its probably quite normal but has anyone else had this before and how long did it take for AF to come? |
Posted By: tictacjunkie
Date Posted: 24 May 2010 at 9:05pm
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Carlie you might ovulate before you get your af- I did with this one, in fact, apart from the actual miscarriage bleeding and postnatal bleed I haven't had an "ordinary" af for a couple of years. My obstetrician says it's not unusual and not unhealthy. I just used opks to watch for when it would happen.
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Posted By: Bobsta
Date Posted: 24 May 2010 at 9:15pm
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Nadia I just had a D&C about 3 weeks ago and I had a good chat to a nurse about when to start trying again. She said it was best to wait till after one cycle to give the uterus lining a chance to build up again and be nice and squishy for the next one. GL to you and hope you get your next BFP soon ------------- Me 34 Him 35 DD almost 2 years old and... Baby #2 on it's way! http://www.babygaga.com/" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Carlie
Date Posted: 24 May 2010 at 9:39pm
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Oh ok really, how strange are our bodies can i ask what does OPKS stand for?
Thank you for your reply Ticktac it makes me feel a little better about things, just so strange when i was always pretty much on time and to go from that to not having it come at all. Even after my D& C i didn't even bleed that much. can i ask does opks stand for? |
Posted By: Carlie
Date Posted: 24 May 2010 at 9:40pm
| Woops just repeated myself sorry :-) |
Posted By: Hope
Date Posted: 24 May 2010 at 11:30pm
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Hi Nadia, my first MC was quite traumatic (suspected ectopic) and I was told to wait 2 or 3 cycles before I tried again. After waiting 2 or 3 (can't remember) cycles I had a successful pregnancy . After my next MC (not ectopic and no D and C) I was told to wait 1 cycle and then try. I'm now 6 weeks preggy!
Personally I thought waiting for a bit was good because it gave me time to grieve and a bit of a break before I threw myself into the anxiety of early pregnancy again. It is hard waiting to try again, but I got through it by treating myself a lot - just small things like trashy mags and takeaway coffees and by planning nice outings. Best of luck to you 
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Posted By: tictacjunkie
Date Posted: 25 May 2010 at 6:12am
| Opk- Ovulation predictor kit- like preg tests you use your pee to detect lh (lutenising hormone) which peaks just before you ovulate. My understanding of blighted ovums is that your hormone levels are a bit higher than normal so it may take a little longer for things to even out as well. Unless waiting is what your lmc has advised you to do it's up to you what you do. |
Posted By: tictacjunkie
Date Posted: 25 May 2010 at 6:19am
| I found waiting really hard, too hard, as did DH. So getting pregnant again asap was the best thing for us personally. Being able to move on and having something to look forward to again I feel stopped me from falling apart. Definitely very anxious but I think I would have been anyway. Everyone grieves differently too, so you need to figure the emotional side out for yourself with DH. |
Posted By: kellyd
Date Posted: 25 May 2010 at 1:19pm
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Hi Nadia,
so sorry for your loss. I m/c last month at 13 weeks. I was told to wait 3 cycles before trying again which really upset me - I wanted to try again straight away. I have since been told there's no reason to wait 3 cycles - that is just a standard time frame you get told to help with emotional loss, more than physical issues. I decided to wait one complete cycle just to see what my body was going to do i.e. see if it went back to normal, or if things were going to be a bit strange for a while. I ovulated bang on time (I also have opk) after my m/c, like the m/c was day 1 of my cycle. My AF arrived 1 day early. This cycle, I ovulated 3 days early, so luckily I knew what I was looking for or I would've missed it. I got a positive on the opk on Saturday, so have been practising making babies ever since!! I am uterly obsessed with being pregnant again. I am hoping and praying I get pregnant this cycle. Hopefully some of this info is helpful to you. My advice is try again when you think you're ready mentally, and your body should be ready (as long as your m/c was straight forward i.e. no retained products). Good luck. |
Posted By: tictacjunkie
Date Posted: 25 May 2010 at 2:25pm
| My last was at 13weeks as well Kellyd, good luck with the bding, =). |
Posted By: Nadia
Date Posted: 28 May 2010 at 8:53am
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Thanks everyone, Im going to wait a complet cycle and then try again. Only problem is i always find it hard to know when i ovulate as last time i had two diffrent dates but will find out im sure. Other is i really hope i have a normal cycle as before i got preggy i was on the pill for two years and cant rember if my periods were on time before that. I did have one normail one before i got preggy so i think they should be fine.
Im still bleeding from my misscarige though its light and only sometimes meduim. Its been about six days now dose anyone know when it will stop? ------------- [URL=http://lilypie.com][IMG]http://lb2f.lilypie.com/TikiPic.php/0UKrA9O.jpg][IMG]http://lb2f.lilypie.com/0UKrp12.png][/URL] |
Posted By: Bobsta
Date Posted: 28 May 2010 at 7:33pm
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Hi Nadia, from what I have read about bleeding after a miscarriage is that it's different for everyone so it's really impossible to know how long yours will last! Some people a long time (weeks) and for some people it stops after a few days. I had red blood bleeding on the day of my D&C, then just old blood spotting for about 4 days. At about 10 days post D&C I went for a run and had some light fresh bleeding that night which was followed by old blood spotting for a further 6 days. The only thing to watch for is any heavy bleeding or red blood bleeding for a long period of time. If that happens see your GP about it.
If you need help when you start TTC again to figure out when you ovulate the charting thread in the TTC section is great. I do charting and it really helped me pinpoint exactly when I ovulate so I had the best chances each month rather than the hit and miss approach. The ladies there are all lovely and really helpful as at first charting can be a bit confusing so it really helped me having people around to ask questions. GL with everything and hope to see you around the TTC section soon ------------- Me 34 Him 35 DD almost 2 years old and... Baby #2 on it's way! http://www.babygaga.com/" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: Nadia
Date Posted: 29 May 2010 at 12:41pm
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Bobsta- Thanks for that i think i will try there then ------------- [URL=http://lilypie.com][IMG]http://lb2f.lilypie.com/TikiPic.php/0UKrA9O.jpg][IMG]http://lb2f.lilypie.com/0UKrp12.png][/URL] |
Posted By: kellyd
Date Posted: 31 May 2010 at 1:21pm
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Hi Nadia,
you can buy ovulation strips from www.baby4u.co.nz. You pee on them and it tells you when you are about to ovulate. I got my postive last Saturday, which meant that my egg should have been released 12-24hrs after that (roughly). They are awesome at helping you learn your cycle, and have quite thorough instructions so you know when to start testing in your cycle. And then you know exactly when to start trying. I am now hanging out for Saturday when I can do a preg test!! Good luck with your cycle. PS. Re: your bleeding. I bled for quite a while. A good week at first, then it stopped, then it started again. It must've been about 3 weeks in total, or close to it. But not heavy the whole time...the last week was like the end of a normal period. |