I’ve got the potty - now what?
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Topic: I’ve got the potty - now what?
Posted By: denny25
Subject: I’ve got the potty - now what?
Date Posted: 20 May 2010 at 11:52am
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Ava is 20 months old and EVERYONE says she should be toilet trained.
I brought her a potty the other day. Now what? I'm not even sure she is ready for potty training... 
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Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 20 May 2010 at 12:03pm
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Ahhh I read something today. Some are ready at 18 month some aren't ready til they are 3 1/2.
Apparently 2 hours dry time during the day, consistent bowel motion time. An awareness that they have been or want to go. Also some will take a few days & some will take a few months. Hope that helps. ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com"> 
A = 01.02.04 & C = 16.01.09 & G = 30.03.12 |
Posted By: Cassie
Date Posted: 20 May 2010 at 12:15pm
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We have a potty sitting around and to start with we just got her used to it. She is quite happy to sit on it (though not without her clothes on!) and has the general idea of what its for. I think she'll be like her big sister and prefer to go straight to the toilet though because thats what she sees everyone else doing. She tells me when she's had a poo, or when she wants a nappy change, but isn't quite ready to start using the potty/toilet just yet.
Spend time talking about what its for, but don't put too much pressure on the situation - it's a waste of time trying to train them before they are ready and just stresses everyone out. Is she telling you when she is wet or dirty? Good luck! Don't let others pressure you into starting if you don't think she's ready for it. ------------- ~Cassie~   
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 20 May 2010 at 2:59pm
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Don't feel bad. Daniel is nearly 3 and has tantys over sitting on the toilet and potty so we simply can't TT him when hes like this or it will just take months and months to do.
Just don't push her with it. |
Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 20 May 2010 at 3:07pm
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yeah i hate it when people say they 'should be' I've only one person say that to me....
we just bought a potty adn talked to him about it and the first few days he loved it adn wouldnt get off..I've bene slack the last few days but we intend just gettin ghim to sit on it regularly.. he knows when he poos and tells me and same with wees but hasnt got the idea of that sensation being when he needs the potty.. he never does poo at the same time each day though.. ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: denny25
Date Posted: 20 May 2010 at 8:15pm
| No, Ava doesnt tell me when she is wet or dirty. I have no idea when she has done wees, the only way I know she has done poos is because she grunts when she goes!! :) |
Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 20 May 2010 at 10:37pm
DD is 2 and we have people saying that ALL the time. You can't force these things. We did find DD didn't like the potty so got a step and a toilet seat insert for the loo. She'll sit there then wipe her bum but does nothing 
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Posted By: Babe
Date Posted: 24 May 2010 at 8:16pm
Jakes was ready at 18 months but his cousin is just turned 3 and shes only just TTing now. Don't push it and don't believe those nosy, over-opinionated people who actually don't have a clue  20 months is still very young!!-------------   
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Posted By: NovemberMum
Date Posted: 27 May 2010 at 11:09pm
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20 months is still quite young to be toilet trained even starting.
i would say that only around 10% of children are toilet trained by their 2nd birthday 50% by 2 and a half and 90% by aged 3. My daughter started showing an interest around 18 months but was by now means ready ...I could get her to sit on the toilet..for all of 10 seconds even though she asked :"toilet" she was more closer to two before she actaully got it. If Ava is not showing any interest I would leave it a couple of months can make a big difference. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: rachndean
Date Posted: 31 May 2010 at 10:45am
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Definitely leave it until they are ready. I took the "she should be TTed" comments to heart with DD1, and forced it on her as I was a young mum and thought that I was supposed to make the call. We still occasionally have toileting issues with her now, and she is 6.5!!!!!
We bought a potty for DS, but he isnt really that interested atm so we are just leaving it for him to make the call. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
DD Savannah 18.01.04 DS Austin 04.09.08 |
Posted By: DJ
Date Posted: 01 June 2010 at 1:36pm
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I don't know any 20mth olds that were TTed. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mamanee
Date Posted: 01 June 2010 at 2:55pm
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Absolutely 100% don't listen to what anyone else says. You will know when she is ready and she will let you know. I am a firm believer in waiting until they are ready and willing. Having a potty there is fine, and showing her what it's for is good, but let her lead the way.
I had so many people try to pressure me and push me into toilet training my three year old and he just wasn't ready. I listened to them and tried and it just ended in tears for the both of us. Then a week before he turned three, something just clicked and it's now been two weeks and he's almost fully day trained. Poos and wees, without prompting. I attribute that to waiting until he was ready. 20 months is still quite young. It sounds like she's not ready yet. Wait a few months and try again and see. Good luck! :D |
Posted By: jessiesmum
Date Posted: 01 June 2010 at 3:27pm
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2O months seems very young unless she is able to anticipate and communicate when she needs to go. I had a bit of pressure from the family (not mine LOL) so I gave it a go but I wasn't ready to give it 100% and it all got very tense and messy. I waited 2 more months and then I was finding it hard to change her as I was quite PG. Once I was totally committed she had no 1's sorted in 2 days and no 2s after a month. DD was 28 months. I know lots of children who are well over 3 and not ready so don't worry about it. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
DD 2007, Angel Baby 2009, DS 2010 |
Posted By: FionaO
Date Posted: 16 June 2010 at 3:55pm
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I'm glad this thread was started, if MIL tells me once more all her 3 boys were tt'd by their 1st birthday i'll go mad. What are the signs of readiness?
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Posted By: NovemberMum
Date Posted: 17 June 2010 at 12:11am
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they can usually go a good 2 hours or more with a dry nappy.
They will let you know when their nappy is wet. some parents wait till the warmer months so they can run around with no nappy on ..do expect accidnets but they get few and far between. I do stil have to remind my daughter to go to the toilet but 99% of the time she is pretty good and will even tell me when we are out "I need to do wes in the toilet" ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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