BLW not working...
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Topic: BLW not working...
Posted By: mummyofprinces
Subject: BLW not working...
Date Posted: 21 January 2010 at 2:45pm
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I am sure this is more me than Jake but...
I have been trying to switch to BLW since before christmas as I found Jake ate better with finger foods (and I was over the mash/puree business) and we were going great guns but all of sudden Jake is refusing to eat anything but mash 
He is hungry and wants food he just doesnt want whole foods. If mash it and put it on his tray he will eat it then he will just whinge at me opening and closing his mouth until I feed him. Im not sure what to do... He doesnt increase his bf if he doesnt have solids but he is obviously hungry. He just knows what he wants.....Its almost as if its to much hard work and he doesnt want to. Its hard to just sit back and say oh well if your hungry you will eat it because he WONT! He has never been a big drinker and is low on the weight scale... if he loses any weight you will be able to see his ribs again and I just dont think I can handle that. (like I said more about me). What would you do??? Let your skinny baby go hungry to get him to eat more foods or just give him what you know he likes and wants???? -------------   
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 21 January 2010 at 2:53pm
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I would just shovel it in personally, if that's what he wants. Offer the finger food as well and make what is on the spoon progressively lumpier, but don't stress about him not wanting to do it himself.
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Posted By: Mamma2N
Date Posted: 21 January 2010 at 2:54pm
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What about teaching him to hold his own spoon? You and him having matching spoons and eating say something sticky that sticks to the spoon - maybe yoghurt, thick vege soup etc.. will he do that?
We have done BLW from the beginning and I honestly have days where I can't be bothered with her not eating enough, so we get out the spoon and top her up with yoghurt (like now while we're both sick!) Don't worry too much about it, if you have to feed him then do it, just keep offering him finger foods, even the same snacks as you have while sitting on the floor playing. I quite often get out fruit/cruskits/crackers etc to eat together while playing. In short, you know Jake best and if you feel like you need to feed him then totally do it.  You might find it's just a phase he's going through anyway and next week/month he might not budge when you try to feed him 
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Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 21 January 2010 at 4:05pm
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LOL M, I want 4 bebes and DH has firmly said one more so its the only way I will get more than 2... and yes totally insane!
Thanks M2N, I think I am taking the BLW thing too literally. You know the whole avoid topping up thing. Cruskits, rice crakers, sandwiches and french toast are the only finger foods he will currently eat. It just feels like too much carbs LOL I suppose I go through phases with food I like too.... LOL feeling a bit silly now! This whole weight and solids thing can whip me into a crazy frenzy. -------------
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Posted By: palomino
Date Posted: 21 January 2010 at 4:27pm
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Dont suppose hes got a tooth coming through or something thats got him off food at the moment? I know we pretty much go right off solids when teething. THose are the days BLW kinda goes out the window and he gets yoghurt and yummy soft things.
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Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 21 January 2010 at 6:30pm
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Maybe a tooth.. cant see anything but there is a lot of drool LOL -------------
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Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 21 January 2010 at 7:28pm
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James did this. I liked the concept of BLW but also couldnt get the puree/mash stage out of my mind so I did a bit of both (which I know you technically cant do). Basically I gave him heaps of finger food but then fed him some so that he would eat enough. He woudl go through phases of eating then not and it was frustrating.
Then he decided he wanted to feed EVERYTHING himself so I let him and he was really good at it...now he is making too much mess and not getting enough in so I let him go for it and then I scrape up the rest and feed it too him.
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Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 21 January 2010 at 8:51pm
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I don't see why you can't do both...it's your child!
I do a mix of both here. Dinner is BLW style & breakfast & Lunch are usually spoon fed. He's learning to eat really well. ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 21 January 2010 at 9:47pm
oh I meant that apparently when you do both you arent actually doing BLW.....so I call it baby trying to lead but mummy guiding it weaning BTLBMGIW...dont think that would catch on well
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 21 January 2010 at 10:09pm
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See we have a completely different system here which is I try to feed Kyle food which really isn't finger food off of a spoon or fork, he grabs spoon or fork to try and do it himself, I give up and just dump the food on his tray and he eats it with his fingers. He even eats rice, spaghetti, weetbix, everything that way. It's easier just to clean the mess up afterwards.
He is trying to use his spoon though and will put it in the bowl then to his mouth but normally the food falls off before it gets there. Oh funnily enough when it comes to yoghurt or tinned fruit he will happily let me spoon that in, wonder why that is? -------------
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Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 21 January 2010 at 10:20pm
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LOL Nikki sounds like what I am doing...
Like I said at the beginning its more about me than him... having "Im doing everything wrong" day... its passed. I truely think I need to transfer out of plunket to my GP. I always spend a couple of weeks second guessing my parenting skills after a check up. Look at my old due thread mummies posting Gosh has it been over a year already -------------
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 21 January 2010 at 10:23pm
Yep they've all turned the big 1
With plunket I go, get them weighed measured, nod and leave. Although I put a thread up about breastfeeding Kyle too much and him not sleeping through after the 9 month check up...lol. Obviously I don't just nod and leave. -------------
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 21 January 2010 at 10:34pm
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i would just gie him the bowl of mash and let him feed himself! ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 21 January 2010 at 11:10pm
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Tried that bizzy... I do think he knows Im a soft touch with food. He eats a little bit then starts whinging for me to do it for him...
M, same thing from Plunket here... I always say I am going to go in and just nod and smile and ignore them but they just have a way of putting doubts in my mind. -------------
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 22 January 2010 at 11:16am
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sounds like its more of a wanting mummy phase as opposed to a doesnt want to eat phase. do you sit and eat with him... i find that encourages them more. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 22 January 2010 at 7:04pm
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Yup, normally sit and eat with him... Though today was much better.. he picked at his lunch (our left overs of steak, carrot, brocolli, cauli and mash pots) and finished off with some yoghurt then had pasta for chicken and veg tortellini for dinner which went down a treat.... who knows what goes through his little mind!!!!
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Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 22 January 2010 at 8:22pm
| you are wondering what goes through his mind now? wait till he's a toddler or a preschooler....they are just plain weird! |
Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 25 January 2010 at 9:17am
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 25 January 2010 at 9:48am
Baby Led Weaning.. it refers to letting a baby lead the way in regards to the introduction of solids, and not related to weaning from milk, as the name may imply. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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TysMummy wrote:Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 25 January 2010 at 9:53am
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oh thanks
i have a probelem with my girl....she wont take solids but thought about finger food.........wat do you give a 8mnth old if she has never taken anything else? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 25 January 2010 at 10:18am
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pretty much the same as pureed but just not pureed. so give her carrot sticks, you can par boil them, or fruit like bananas, pears... toast, crackers, pasta... sometimes they just gum the food, but it is getting them used to texture etc. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: Raspberryjam
Date Posted: 27 January 2010 at 11:49am
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Can I please hijack caue you girls seem like you have this sussed - I cant get meat into my brat - or much other than fruit for that matter - is this normal? anything with fat or too sweet is a no go - can i just let her survive on fruit vege and crackers??
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Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 27 January 2010 at 8:14pm
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Dont know sorry, its one of the only things jake will eat!
Smoked salmon is his new favourite... expensive taste! -------------
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Posted By: Raspberryjam
Date Posted: 27 January 2010 at 10:00pm
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oh yum mel nel, Milla likes that too, but I definately dont buy it regularly.
Our staple is rockmelon, and our new fav is mango. I might have to ring plunket and see how often I need to force feed her iron foods. ------------- http://lilypie.com]
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Posted By: Mamma2N
Date Posted: 27 January 2010 at 10:20pm
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RJ - you could grate some frozen liver onto her veges. You only need a small amount of it and it's packed with iron.
What about making little meatballs with cheese in the middle and cooked in a tomato sauce (tomato puree 'passata') with herbs and garlic. They go down very well here. Also making an omelette topped with cooked veges and bits of sausage. Finished off in the oven. What about fish? We buy a fillet (usually monkfish) every week, cut into appropriate portion sizes and freeze - pull out and usually poach with garlic & italian parsley wrapped in glad wrap.. or cooked and flaked in mash veges with an egg to make little patties. Lentils are really good too - cook in stock, add whatever to it (vege wise) Canned beans (Cannellini and Borlotti beans are great) We often cook a huge chunky vege soup and add rice and beans to it. Does she like pasta? Cooking pasta with a tomato sauce can disguise mince quite well, add whatever veges (zucchini, capsicums, garlic, onion) What about polenta? Our girl loves polenta, cooking then cooled on a chopping board and cut into wedges. (not that this is an iron food but maybe something different she could try if you haven't already) Yoghurt with ground seeds (pumpkin, linseeds etc) sprinkled into it. Perhaps just getting her onto trying different foods could help, then you can start adding meat into it. HTH
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Posted By: Raspberryjam
Date Posted: 28 January 2010 at 10:46am
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Thanks Mamma2N -
We have lentils, and beans - Somedays she just eats them, then other days not a chance - just spits them out. Fish she will do, and dosent seem to mind it - but is there enough Iron in it? I have tried every way possible to disguise mince - she spots it a mile away - just spits it out - all just eats the pasta. Same with eggs She is good at trying new foods will give anything ago - if its not meat. She does chew chicken but she wont swallow it. So if its ok to survive on the odd bit of fish and ham we are ok - but I dont know that they have enough iron. I havent ever tried seeds , maybe i will I should have got her iron levels checked at our last hospital visit - I might be worried about nothing ------------- http://lilypie.com]
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Posted By: Mamma2N
Date Posted: 28 January 2010 at 11:04am
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She sounds like a clever cookie
You could cook off some meat in a stew then just add some of the juice to her veges. I don't actually give DD alot of meat - purely because it is hard to digest (I find it hard so I can only imagine how hard it is for little ones). Good idea to get her levels checked even for piece of mind. I would definetly push liver though - just freeze a piece then grate over her food (the heat will cook it) she only needs a little as it's packed with iron. We give our DD homemade Pate, which she is slowly coming around to. Or even add some grated to her pasta sauce - she hopefully (fingers crossed) shouldn't notice it!
I'm not 100% sure that fish and ham is 'enough' but then I suspect that it is different with every child. Talk to your PN about it or your GP - they may have some ideas for you
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Posted By: Raspberryjam
Date Posted: 28 January 2010 at 11:15am
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I will try that liver idea, the smell earlier in my pregnancy was a no go, but I might be ok now.
I have give her a few cans of that watties little people food lately - I could add it to them - I question if they are any good - how can it be meat if there is no iron on the label!!! I think liver will sneak in just since it is a small amount!! Thanks again!! ------------- http://lilypie.com]
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