How did you cope with your EDD?
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Topic: How did you cope with your EDD?
Posted By: Emmi_
Subject: How did you cope with your EDD?
Date Posted: 11 January 2010 at 2:06pm
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Ok so after reading Odettenz's post I cant stop bawling... My angel would have been due tomorrow, and I thought I was doing pretty good up to right now! I dont even know why Im crying really, I should just be happy I have a healthy, kicking bub inside me...
So I was just wondering what you did on your angels EDD? I would like to do something, Ive taken the night off work, but am looking after a friends son during the day. I was thinking of going out to dinner with DH but right now I just want to curl up in a ball, put the duvet over my head and bawl... ------------- 
+1 May 09 Angel 
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Posted By: AzzaNZ
Date Posted: 11 January 2010 at 2:27pm
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Oh Hun (((HUGS)))
Be kind to yourself - its ok to grieve! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: X
Date Posted: 11 January 2010 at 3:20pm
It's okay to be sad Emmi. I think if you feel like just crawling up into a little ball & having a big cry tomorrow night then you are perfectly entitled to. You don't have to do anything special really other than just remember your wee bubba. I don't have any special plans for tonight. I doubt DH even knows our baby would've been due today & I probably won't remind him. It would just make him sad & I don't want that. We don't talk about the babies I lost much-it's our way of dealing. I think the fact that I remembered my baby today is enough, & tonight when I tuck my son in I will give him an extra long cuddle & tell him how precious he is to me & how glad I am to have him in my life. Sending you big hugs Emmi. I hope tomorrow isn't too tough on you. Try focus on the fact that very soon you are going to have a beautiful baby in your arms. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Emmi_
Date Posted: 11 January 2010 at 3:33pm
Haha Odette, you just made me cry again!  That was a really sweet message!
I was talking to DH earlier and he hadnt remembered... Why did I have to? Would have made the day so much easier. He doesnt like talking about our angel one either... I do, I like others to know that we have lost a baby, that miscarriages do happen, and that its ok to talk about it... I think I will be giving our wee dog extra cuddles tomorrow, although I am looking after a friends son, I can give him cuddles too -------------
+1 May 09 Angel
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Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 11 January 2010 at 3:45pm
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On our angels due date I just said a little prayer for her and asked her to keep my bump safe.
For her first anniversary, Jake kept me so busy I didnt even know the date. When I realised the next morning I was a mess with guilt. But again a prayer for her and asked her to keep her brother safe and that she might come back to me soon. I think about her every day and she knows that. Just do what feels right for you hun. -------------   
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Posted By: NZ-rules
Date Posted: 11 January 2010 at 9:29pm
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Em - I think having no plans for the day is a good idea. It didn't really hit me until the end of the day on my angels due date then I just spent some quiet time on the couch having a cry and thinking about him.
Hope you get through the day ok - *hugs* x ------------- 
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 12 January 2010 at 12:03am
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I had no set plans for the day, just had made sure i had that day off work. Unfortunately it ended up co-inciding with my grandfathers funeral as he died suddenly and they burrie dhim on that day. wedrove home from new plymouth and got home in time to carry out our original plan.. my MIL had gotten some ballons filled that we had picked a few days before at the party place, and had put them in our lounge. we had each chosen a special one, then we went off to the lookout at sunset and wrote a little wish to our baby on ours, and let them go and float away. it was quite therapeutic, and we had included a special one for my grandad in the bunch too.
Just take some time for yourself and big hugs. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: shellgirl
Date Posted: 12 January 2010 at 8:05am
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My little angel was due on my birthday in March. At the time I thought that was pretty special, but now I'm dreading the day a bit. It is a little way off yet, and hopefully I'm still carrying the little one that we have now and able to focus on the future.
This bub is due a day or two after we lost our angel and that for some reason feels right to me. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: didi99
Date Posted: 12 January 2010 at 8:43am
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Emmi
I hope today goes ok for you, will be thinking of you. -------------  Angel Babies Nov 09, May 10, Dec 10
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Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 12 January 2010 at 9:22am
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Thinking of you today hun. -------------
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 12 January 2010 at 10:29am
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thinking of you today,....
i know what you mean about wanting people to know..we lost bub 2 the same day our friend rang to tell us about their new daughter..and Dh didnt tell them i was like why not! i didnt do anything special i couldnt think of anything special enough and when i have Liam safely i think i will do something next year for them (due same day) i kinda feel they sent their brothers which helps.. I just said a wee prayer for them (even though I'm not overly into that) and thought about them all day really.. ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: Emmi_
Date Posted: 12 January 2010 at 10:57am
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Thanks heaps guys, it really is amazing at how some random people you only know online can support you.
Im not really into the prayer thing either but I think it is fitting for a day like today, I do like the idea of Angel looking out for its little sibling. The balloons are a lovely idea, and how lovely of your MIL to get them for you M2P. Shellgirl, we are in a similar situation, our first wedding anniversary is next tues, and I was so sure I was going to be a week over due and have bub on our anniversary! But it wasnt to be.. This bub is due 11 days after my birthday, 4 days before the date my granddad died and 7 days before the day I started bleeding with my last pregnancy, so I like to think that this is the 'right' one too... Thanks everyone else for their hugs and thoughts, its so nice to think that people are remembering my lost baby and also other babies that arnt with us that should be... -------------
+1 May 09 Angel
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