Swearing
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Topic: Swearing
Posted By: DJ
Subject: Swearing
Date Posted: 23 July 2009 at 8:42pm
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I'm a bit shocked this has happened because DP and I thought we had been so careful not to swear since DD was born, but it seems that she has picked up a few colourful phrases.
A couple of times in the last week when DP or I have said "arrgh" in a frustrated way, DD has said "sh*t or f*ck" even when we didn't say any more than the "argh". So what is your advice on how to deal with this? Should we just ignore it and hope it goes away? or should we tell her that she isn't allowed to say those words? Any other tips? ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: first
Date Posted: 24 July 2009 at 12:22pm
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I would just say something like. "we don't use those words in our house" then let it be. If after a couple of days she is still saying it I would say the line then say please sit down and think about that. Leave her to sit for a minute then say we don't say naughty words in house house now come on lets go and play.
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Posted By: kakapo
Date Posted: 24 July 2009 at 7:33pm
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Jimmy first said the 'f' word a while ago now, and I was so shocked that I laughed incredulously - which of course is the worst response. DH stepped in and said "yeah TRuck, TRuck, ha ha ha" but he wasn't fooled Here is a http://www.kindredmedia.com.au/library_page1/when_a_child_uses_bad_words/438/1 - link to an article on this topic, aimed more at kids aged over 3 though I think. |
Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 24 July 2009 at 10:08pm
Alyssa is older but she recently picked up "Dumbass" and calls her dad that  , However I diverted it so she thinks it's "Thomas"... which is about 10% better but I still know what she is saying.. (yes she overheard me say it once!) haha
Now she also says "I'm trying to piss Kitty off" when talking about the cat. That one I can blame on DH.. I guess ignoring works better because when DH tells her off or mentions it she laughs and says it again.. |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 28 July 2009 at 12:30pm
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They do it for attention a bit... the more you give the kidlet, the more they'll say it! Just tell her calmly that you don't use those words and then ignore it.
I've put Hannah on swearing police... so now if she hears someone swearing she's in charge of reminding them that it is unacceptable 
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Posted By: DJ
Date Posted: 28 July 2009 at 12:50pm
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Thanks for your comments. We haven't had a repeat performance, and now DP and I are even more aware of cleaning up our own acts! Can't help what other people say though!
I agree with telling her it is not ok to use those words, but not making a huge fuss atm cheers - and any other comments are welcome ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: CuriousG
Date Posted: 28 July 2009 at 1:28pm
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We used 2 tactics. First we would say when she said the F work "what are you saying? Truck? Duck?" and then when she repeated it, we were like "I have no idea what you are saying, it must be a made up word". Second, we also don't react to it - unfortunately she has picked up a lot of swear words from daycare and phrases like "what the hell" - its not something we say!
And any word she says that bad, we have been known to say "oh, thats an F word - we don't say F words do we" and thats usually greeted with a no from her. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 28 July 2009 at 9:17pm
| sometimes though - things aren't what you think. like when your smart 4 year old, who isn't the clearest talker gets in trouble for talking about his "WHAKApapa" - oop\s. |
Posted By: DJ
Date Posted: 29 July 2009 at 1:02pm
LOL lizzle - that did cross my mind the other day when some TV show told the kids to "whakarongo" ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: AzzaNZ
Date Posted: 31 July 2009 at 11:43am
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We started saying "Oh gosh!" very exaggeratedly as often as we could and she soon decided that it was a far cooler thing to say than "Oh sh*t"
Its all been going quite well until a few weeks ago when I heard her mutter "Jesus!" 
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Posted By: DJ
Date Posted: 01 August 2009 at 7:22pm
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LOL AzzaNZ - we had "jesus" a few months ago when we took her nappy off - I quickly realised that was DP's fault as he often said it when he changed poos! Naughty Daddy!
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Posted By: AzzaNZ
Date Posted: 02 August 2009 at 7:11pm
I have a friend who's kid says "w*nker" if she hoots... wonder who he learned that from 
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