telling older children
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Topic: telling older children
Posted By: Tastic
Subject: telling older children
Date Posted: 28 June 2009 at 11:46pm
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so we have said to bailey and aidan that we are having a baby
but I know they dont really understand - well bailey knows he will be getting a baby brother or sister but aidan he shakes his head no and walks away lol is there a book or something I could show - not too graphic! that explains the baby in mummys tummy? |
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 29 June 2009 at 12:04am
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Ohh I saw a book in paper plus a little while ago called :mummys tummy" or something!! It was really neat, but I didnt get it cos Caden is far to young to understand lol.
I'll do some net surfing and see if I ca find it for you  ------------- |
Posted By: Tastic
Date Posted: 29 June 2009 at 12:07am
great thanks Sheena 
side note - yay for being 33 weeks - I hope to make that this time round! well even 27weeks Ill be happy lol |
Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 29 June 2009 at 12:14am
I cant believe Im 33 weeks Freaking out now lol!!!
I hope you make it to 33 weeks this time, full term even better! 'Im still looking for this book LOL, it was really neat!------------- |
Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 29 June 2009 at 12:19am
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I found this one, it isnt the one I saw but it looks pretty good
http://books.whitcoulls.co.nz/new-baby/ISBN9780794510039 - Linky ------------- |
Posted By: Tastic
Date Posted: 29 June 2009 at 6:26am
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that book looks awesome, thanks sheena
will buy it on pay day - hopefully 
Yeah Id be happy with 33 weeks. but I just have to keep telling myself that this one will be fine and come around 40 weeks lol |
Posted By: arohanui
Date Posted: 29 June 2009 at 8:02am
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This one's quite good too http://www.amazon.com/Theres-House-Inside-My-Mommy/dp/0807578533 - There's a house inside my mommy ------------- Mama to DS1 (5 years), DS2 (3 years) and... http://alterna-tickers.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 29 June 2009 at 10:28am
yeah that is a good one arohanui.....my mw leant us that when i was preggy with charli and we'd read it to jack every night, he loved it ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: Bobbie
Date Posted: 29 June 2009 at 11:09am
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Eww sorry Liz but I saw that book in Whitcoulls and thought it was really sickly sweet and OTT. Might check out the other linked one though.
I've been telling Rowan there's a baby in my tummy for a few weeks but she hasn't got it and keeps looking at her tummy. But this morning when we were on the couch she pulled up my top and patted my tummy and said 'hello baby" so maybe it's starting to sink in. -------------  
 
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 29 June 2009 at 11:11am
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I know our Library has heaps and heaps in the childrens section, sorry no help wth names, but that could be a good, free start! ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 29 June 2009 at 11:17am
Awww Kate thats so cute about rowan!! Caden pulls my top up and slaps my tummy thats about it lol, though if he is leaning on my tummy and the baby kicks the look on his face is like hehe------------- |
Posted By: arohanui
Date Posted: 29 June 2009 at 12:15pm
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Aw Kate that is so cute and clever of Rowan!! And lol at the book being sickly sweet... I can't say I've read it myself, but have read some really good reviews about it and thought it sounded cute! ------------- Mama to DS1 (5 years), DS2 (3 years) and... http://alterna-tickers.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 29 June 2009 at 12:21pm
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what sortof age do they start to understand about another baby? ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: sally belly
Date Posted: 29 June 2009 at 12:57pm
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Aww cute Rowan .
Kiddies understand more than we give them credit for I reckon so I've been telling Liam there's a baby in my tummy. He looks at me quite intently when I tell him so I'm sure something is sinking in. Time will tell -------------    
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Posted By: arohanui
Date Posted: 29 June 2009 at 1:01pm
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Yeah when we get preggie again we'll talk to Harry about the bubba in my tummy, and how he's going to be a big brother.... just to make it normal. I think Sally's right that they understand a lot more than we realise.
Harry also has a boy doll (his "bubba") that he looks after, and we've always encouraged him to be sweet and gentle with it, and give it kisses and cuddles - he's really pretty good around newborns, and I think alot of it is to do with that. He also has my old dolls cot/pram that he puts it in as well (thankfully they're nice and boyish!). ------------- Mama to DS1 (5 years), DS2 (3 years) and... http://alterna-tickers.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 29 June 2009 at 1:06pm
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he likes other people's babies but looks at me like I'm mental when i say about our baby:) hehe...oh well he certainly understands a lot of other stuff so maybe in a few months he will get it:) ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: arohanui
Date Posted: 29 June 2009 at 1:10pm
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I'm sure he will KA Lol he's probably thinking, how the heck can a baby fit in mummy's tummy! ------------- Mama to DS1 (5 years), DS2 (3 years) and... http://alterna-tickers.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: Peanut
Date Posted: 29 June 2009 at 2:08pm
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I have a great golden book called "Baby Dear" that DS loves! We are currently reading it 3 or 4 times a day.
Mac is slightly confused about the bubba and will point to his own belly and say "bubba"...hmmm >
When we say anything about the baby he just starts repeating "bubba Jack" who is the little baby at his DC. I am guessing we will get there eventually by just normalising the whole thing by talking about it. -------------  
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 29 June 2009 at 2:36pm
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Aww I love that book baby dear.
Umm KA I didn't think Jack really understood much but in hindsight I think he understood a lot more than I thought. We talked about the baby a lot and he was quite interested in babies. Caprece has no interest whatsoever in babies so I think they do know on some level. |
Posted By: Babe
Date Posted: 30 June 2009 at 8:30am
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Jake came over when we were about 2 weeks in and didn't even know ourselves and pulled my top up and started kissing my tummy. It was so random and adorable!! He now comes and kisses 'bubba' through the day regularly lol cute! -------------   
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Posted By: Meegiemoo
Date Posted: 30 January 2011 at 12:33pm
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Hey ladies, thanks for all the resources! My daughter is 6 and we are only getting around to having our second, then then planning on a thrid.
I hit the library and found nothing that helps me help her in understanding what it will be like when there is a new bubs and prehaps some steps on helping her prepare for life with a sibling. Im thinking after 6 years as the only child and then a sibling and new cousin in the same year will make her feel a little left out? Maybe ill check out whitcolls and see what they have. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: TheKelly
Date Posted: 30 January 2011 at 9:09pm
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My daughter was 6 when her brother was concieved, its a whole different ball game to when they are toddlers and getting a sibling, my biggest advice would be to involve her as much as you can, talk to her often about the baby, and how you are feeling, and about your pregnancy and birth with her so she knows that was also very special for her.
She is also old enough to look at more informative books with you,talk casually to her about feeding, how they can't do much for themselves at first and how they will be reliant on you,and that she was too....kids love to hear about themselves as babies My daughter is AMAZING with her brother, not only does she do an awesome job at helping out (she can even change nappies, I don't make her, but the point is,she can ) she understands that he is little and sometimes I need to give him a bit more attention,yet she completely adores him ... PM me if you have any questions ------------- 
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