Very frustrated TTC Baby No 2
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Topic: Very frustrated TTC Baby No 2
Posted By: Juzl
Subject: Very frustrated TTC Baby No 2
Date Posted: 27 April 2009 at 8:30pm
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Hi everyone,
My fiance and I have been TTC Baby No 2 for almost 2 1/2 years now with no luck. It is so frustrating because we already have a 3 year old son whom we conceived after only 3 months of trying and being off the pill. My fiance also already has another child from his first marriage so I think he already feels quite complete but I don't. I really need someone to talk to. My period came today and I feel like s**t. Jules. |
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Posted By: Treen
Date Posted: 28 April 2009 at 11:48am
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Hi Juzl, hang in there! Conception really is a lottery. I have a friend who has been trying for 6 years and she just got pregnant. No reason why, that's just how long it took. It also took my mum 4 years to conceive her 3rd child. Again, no reason why.
As for DH and I, we've only been TTC for a year. But it is quite frustrating. I thought it would only take a few months. I get so sick of the "when are you having kids?" and "Are you pregnant yet? You're not getting any younger." statements from friends and family. Have you gone to see a fertility specialist? It makes me feel a bit better to be trying out stuff to help me conceive (I'm doing both medical and alternative therapies). It helps me remain positive.  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: kakapo
Date Posted: 28 April 2009 at 8:03pm
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Hi Jules We're also TTC baby number 2 with no luck so far (been trying for 15 months now). I expected it to be much easier to conceive a second child - especially as I'd been on the Depo for years prior to TTC our first baby. He was conceived a year after my last Depo injection, which wasn't too bad considering it often takes two years for cycles to settle down again. Waiting a year was frustrating enough - but it seems much worse this time. Perhaps because I desparately wanted a small age gap between siblings, hoping they'd be best buddies with more in common. I've had to let go of that dream now, and just accept there will be a bigger age gap. But its definitely hard to accept. I'm trying not to think about TTC too much at the moment - definitely paying attention to my cycle so we don't miss any opportunities For quite a few months there I felt a bit like I was putting my life on hold, as I expected to find out I was pregnant any minute. Now I've decided to just carry on regardless and make plans anyway. I didn't actually enjoy being pregnant most of the time anyway, so in the meantime I remind myself of the things I can still that I wouldn't be able to if I was pregnant. Gah, who am I kidding - I'd Anyways, feel free to vent whenever - I hear ya! |
- but just trying to be more positive whenever the dreaded Aunt comes visiting. I've recently been to see a naturopath and now I'm taking Vitex and a herbal mix to boost my fertility. They are slow acting (yet another frustration!) but as Treen says, it also helps me to remain positive.
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