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Topic: telling parents
Posted By: NovemberMum
Subject: telling parents
Date Posted: 05 April 2009 at 1:40pm
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when did you tell your parents you were pregnant? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Mrs_B
Date Posted: 05 April 2009 at 1:46pm
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8 weeks. They wanted to know why I wouldn't have a wine with dinner - I always have wine with dinner!! lol -------------  
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Posted By: Peanut
Date Posted: 05 April 2009 at 2:21pm
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I always tell them a week after we find out! Gives us a week to have a "secret" and then we get to share. Its usually pretty obvious when I turn down a wine though so wouldn't even attempt to hide it.
I also love that then you have support if anything goes wrong and you need it. When we lost the twin a 7 weeks, Mum was round within 10 mins to help calm the situation and be there for us! -------------  
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Posted By: NovemberMum
Date Posted: 05 April 2009 at 2:41pm
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I dont drink anyway so people are never suspicious if i dont accept a drink.
DH and I were discussing when to tell our parents I was wanting to wait til after I had my scan but I think we might just tell them tonight. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: amykt
Date Posted: 05 April 2009 at 3:31pm
haha we told our parents about 1 hour after finding out - we were super excited there was no way we were keeping it a secret! And it was Christmas Eve/Mum's birthday so was a great present  ------------- http://www.TickerFactory.com/"> 
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Posted By: coldfish
Date Posted: 05 April 2009 at 4:04pm
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I found out I was pregnant when I was 4 weeks, and I told my mother around 6 weeks I think. I wanted to wait until 12 weeks before telling a soul but I just couldn't keep it in that long.
My parents were so excited, being their first grandchild, that I'm pleased I told them. Also it means that if something does go wrong or god forbid one miscarries then you have people who know for support. ------------- 
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Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 05 April 2009 at 4:08pm
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first one was 3 weeks and hubby did it he was over excited and i also got told i couldnt have children.
2nd we where suppose to wait until i was 3 mtns but had major complications so it was about 2-3mnth i think.......we put ty in a shirt and wrote on it....."im gonna be a big brother" dad was a old dick head and asked how we knew it was gonna be a boy????!!!!!!!!!!!! and no he wasnt joking he had a serious elderly moment. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 05 April 2009 at 5:38pm
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Um , 3 minutes after I did the first test , it was 2pm and I couldn't tell if my eyes were decieving me or not , so I rang my mum and said "can you come and look at the test ?" she came over and at first pointed to the control line ...
With Caitlyn I think I was 6 weeks, I told my mum , she didn't believe me , we ended up having an argument over whether I was or not, til i showed her the confirmation from Family Planning , then she was like "oh wow, your'e pregnant " ------------- 
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Posted By: smurfette
Date Posted: 05 April 2009 at 5:56pm
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As soon as it was verified by the doctor we rang my parents... I could never have waited any longer to tell Mum, she was SO excited.
I am incredibly close to Mum and Dad, so it would have seemed weird to me to keep it a secret from them even for a week. They were hoping it was going to happen soon. I guess it's easier also being in my 30's and married. If I was 17 and on my own I probably would have needed a few weeks to digest it myself and work out how to tell them! |
Posted By: BugTeeny
Date Posted: 05 April 2009 at 8:06pm
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First pregnancy we told parents right away. I'm glad we did 'cos it meant we had support during the miscarriage.
Second time around we were really apprehensive and didn't want to get too over excited. I'd told all of OB, but family was told about 30 seconds after exiting the scan room at 11w5d 
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Posted By: kakapo
Date Posted: 05 April 2009 at 8:25pm
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PMSL .... that sounds like something I would say. I remember talking about my brother to someone and very stupidly saying "he's my sister ....no, she's my brother ...I mean HE's my BROTHER" But back to the topic ...we told our parents at around 5 weeks.
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Posted By: minik8e
Date Posted: 05 April 2009 at 8:28pm
| We told MIL and FIL once my blood tests had come back ok at 4w2d, as if this one went belly-up as well we needed the support. I told my parents during a screaming match about our wedding and the fact we weren't inviting children....not quite what I was after, as I was going to wait for the scan when we had seen the heartbeat....but I was upset and emotional and it just came out (I was 6w pg then....it was the next week we found out that there were two). We told MIL early as we see them a lot more frequently and she is extremely supportive, and helped us a lot with the last two m/c. |
Posted By: Gardengirl
Date Posted: 05 April 2009 at 8:46pm
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We told DPs mum and some other family on Christmas Day - I was almost 6 weeks then, it seemed the perfect time to say something. We bought her a knitting pattern and waited for her to unwrap it
We told my parents at around 10 weeks, after a scan. They are on the other side of the world and if anything had gone wrong in the early stages they would have found it impossibly hard and my mum isn't well enough to travel. So I held off as a means of potentially protecting them. |
Posted By: mamanee
Date Posted: 05 April 2009 at 9:22pm
I've told my mum and DP has told his parents, but I am waiting till 12 weeks to tell my father, I am not close to him so he can wait.  My mum is excited and happy as I am close to her but DPs parents are umm, a little bit 'not speaking to him' at the moment, but they will come around.
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Posted By: tiptoes
Date Posted: 06 April 2009 at 6:53am
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Mother's day is coming up in about a month so anyone that can hold on, that would be a great surprise on Mother's day! Originally that's what I thought we'd do, but we ended up telling our parents last week ------------- http://alterna-tickers.com">  
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Posted By: NewPhoenix
Date Posted: 06 April 2009 at 8:54pm
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Posted By: JAFAjaffa
Date Posted: 13 April 2009 at 10:19pm
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We told my parents about 10 minutes after I did the test - was just too excited. My husband's parents about a week later. I've also told a couple of people at work who I socialise with so I have people on side for 'fake drinking' over the next few weeks until we get to 12 weeks through.
I am hanging out to tell everyone at work. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: _SMS_
Date Posted: 14 April 2009 at 8:00am
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I also told parents pretty quickly,
We told MIL first which her responce was, Oh i though you were gonna tell me you were pregnant weeks ago  we had only done the test that day, so we were a bit confused lol.
My dad was shocked when i told him, i was only 21. But as soon as i got home he rang me and said, oh ive seen some nice cots etc on trade me lol, he ended up buying me a nice new one from baby factory So he got over the shock very fast -------------  
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Posted By: lillibit
Date Posted: 14 April 2009 at 12:37pm
| One question when is mother's day??? keep seeing everything advertising gifts etc but haven't actually worked out when it is yet. Thats a great idea I'll definately try not to tell mum before then. |
Posted By: clover
Date Posted: 14 April 2009 at 12:41pm
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Isn't it the second Sunday in May? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: shadowfeet
Date Posted: 14 April 2009 at 2:41pm
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The 10th of May is mother's day this year ------------- 
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Posted By: lillibit
Date Posted: 14 April 2009 at 5:06pm
| Great thanks-now thats sorted just the wait to contend with! MIL I think we will hold off telling until after first scan-she stresses a bit. They live in different parts of country so should be fine with not finding out from each other. |
Posted By: Chickoin
Date Posted: 17 April 2009 at 12:21am
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I told my parents at about 4.5wks, it would have been earlier if I didn't know dad was coming home from Perth to surprise mum. It was a very surprising evening tehehe.
DH told his parents at about 9 weeks, just because his brother/SIL knew and we were worried they'd spill the beans. -------------   
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