MC + a sense of knowing
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Topic: MC + a sense of knowing
Posted By: Peanut
Subject: MC + a sense of knowing
Date Posted: 04 March 2009 at 3:38pm
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So didn't know what the subject title should be but....
Did anyone kinda of know that their preg was going to end in a MC? Weird question I know but I kinda knew it wasn't going to end well right from the first BFP. It was just so different from my first preg, never really got excited or in to it even though I was super excited about starting to TTC #2, whenever I talked to DH about the 12 week scan I was always saying "incase there is something wrong" etc. Just never felt "right". Anyone else feel like this? Means that I have moved on from it really quickly as can genuinely say that I am OK about it all and ready to start again but am just curious. -------------  
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 04 March 2009 at 4:24pm
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in hindsight I did.. though we didn't find out till 12 week scan and both times it's really affected me..wish i could have moved on quicker..
i realised when preg with Ethan that I felt a lot more positive even though i was terrified and I knew it would be ok. ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: karenm
Date Posted: 04 March 2009 at 4:54pm
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I definitely knew with the first m/c that something wasn't right but with the second I was a bit more postive - but in hindsight only because we'd seen a heart beat at the first scan.
Foxxy_one - I've vowed never to have early scans again (both m/c were detected at 7 & 9 week scans) but I'm not sure I could actually wait 12 weeks. That would be heartbreaking  I really feel for you.
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 04 March 2009 at 5:17pm
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thanks..yeah second one i was really pos....finally...and then it ended in mc..due same time as first one!:( I would never wait till 12 weeks again i just couldn't do it.. as i had no symptoms no spotting nothing with first one..
so hard when you have heard heartbeat though (we never did)...hugs to you! :( I was fine right after second one but about two weeks later i really hit me... ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: katie1
Date Posted: 04 March 2009 at 5:35pm
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I had a feeling with mine. All of a sudden I just didn't feel pregnant anymore. I said to my DH the night before I started spotting that I wouldn't be surprised if I had a miscarriage and then the next morning I started bleeding.
I really feel for those of you who got to your 12 week scan with no idea. That must have been really hard. No way is easy really though i.s it |
Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 04 March 2009 at 7:36pm
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Yeah I did with both of mine.
When I went to the docs with my ectopic I knew something wasn't right ever since we got a positive and I didn't want to get a MW etc and even though i was told I was just having a mc I knew it was worse than that. 2nd time I just knew it wasn't good from the start, didn't get my hopes up |
Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 04 March 2009 at 7:52pm
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While shocked, deep down I knew.
My mum had the same feeling too, just couldnt get really excited about it. It was different with this one, while I have been nervous I just kinda knew things would go ok... just another 6 weeks and we are there and can let out a big sigh of relief!!!! I moved on fairly quickly but I still have a little cry when i think about the "what if's". -------------   
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Posted By: KH25
Date Posted: 04 March 2009 at 8:21pm
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Yes I knew it wasn't right. I had my normal leading up to af spotting before the bfp so was very surprised to see the 2 lines. Then when I did another test the next day the line was lighter, then barely there the next day. I started spotting even more and properly bleeding 5 days after getting the bfp. I couldn't even begin to imagine how painful it must be, being further along though or like some of you, finding out at the 12 wk scan. Just heartbreaking
I have also moved on quickly - but then again I am the type of person that just gets on with things. I just hope it doesn't take us too long to fall pg again. ------------- Kelly, mum to DD, 19Jun06 (26wks 1lb15oz) DS1, 24Oct10 (32wks 4lb11oz) and DS2, 31Dec11 (32wks, 4lb11) http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: minik8e
Date Posted: 04 March 2009 at 10:28pm
| I think I said something about this in the 2+ m/c thread....with all my m/c I have kind of "known" something wasn't right or haven't got excited about it or anything. This one feels right, I feel positive and happy and so far things have been great - scans at 7 and 9 weeks with perfect heartbeats. My next scan is at 12 weeks and I actually feel ok about making plans past 12 weeks (although I'm still hesitant about buying anything). |
Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 05 March 2009 at 10:36am
| I knew. I remember saying to my friend that I just dont see myself holding a baby at the end of the pregnancy and that was right after i got a BFP, I just wasnt as excited or sure. I just kind of felt quite empty and detached from it all. |
Posted By: Mum_mum
Date Posted: 05 March 2009 at 1:36pm
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Intuition is a funny thing!
I definatly knew, although i took it very hard. I remember thinking one day that i was going to miscarry and the thought would not go away. I also was very shaky about getting a BFP and went all weird and a little crazy i think cos i knew something wasnt right. This time, although anxoius and paranoid, its different in that deep down i feel calmer and more at peace and can't wait for our baby. We too have had a perfect heartbeat at 7 weeks and 9 weeks. I also think with this one we have had so many good "signs", we conceived this bubba 3 days after the lothers due date, its due on DH's fathers birthday and the number 27 is a really lucky number being our anniversary and my bday. Sorry for long post but i do truely belive you just know these things sometimes. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
 Angel baby - May 2008
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Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 05 March 2009 at 1:54pm
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Oh, sorry to hear this has happened Peanut. I also felt that. I almost wonder if I "willed" it somehow. I remember saying before I fell pregnant that I bet I miscarry next time and did. When I fell pregnant with James I "knew" it was ok and I am pretty sure that next time will be too. Weird huh?
I also moved on really fast too. Didnt feel like I lost a baby. Just lost a pregnancy. |
Posted By: Peanut
Date Posted: 05 March 2009 at 7:58pm
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Its weird that your say that my2angels...I never saw myself with a baby at the end either but always did with my first.
Nzpiper - have also had the slight guilty feeling that I some how "willed" not by not being excited enough etc but I know thats not the case. -------------
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Posted By: goldy
Date Posted: 05 March 2009 at 10:49pm
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Hmm. When I first found out, I was REALLY excited and happy. The pregnancy tests were faint which kinda wierded me out, but I was really happy.
Until about 61/2 weeks. Then I just wasn't excited or happy at all. Except for sore boobs, I didn't have any symptoms and just had a terrible nervous feeling. I hadn't planned on having a 12 week scan, but suddenly I knew I had to have one. I scheduled it and then 3 days before I started to spot. Turns out the baby stopped growing at 61/2 weeks. The whole way through I kept telling myself that I was being silly, but I knew. I feel more calm this time, but I don't think I'll be excited until the 12 week scan. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Lexidore
Date Posted: 23 March 2009 at 5:52pm
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I pretty much knew... with all the complications i had to begin with i just couldnt see it sticking properly. Everyone would try and tell me it would but i knew really. I still took it really hard though of course. Mind you i dont know what its like to have a pregnancy go full term either so i dont know whether i was just a nervous first timer or if it was coz i knew ------------- 
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Posted By: 3groovygirls
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 2:23am
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I knew. I just knew it! My DH and even the Dr.'s thought I was crazy. Of course I had an IUD so I knew I was at high risk for a m/c. My DH and the Dr.'s thought I was being paranoid. One day I just felt SO MUCH better. It was insane. Then my boobs stopped hurting, I basically had no symptoms. So then I ordered a fetal doppler online, thinking ok, I'll get that and find the HB and maybe I am being paranoid. It came in the mail, no HB, which at 10 weeks I know I would have heard it b/c I heard it then with my first 3.
So I called and asked for an u/s. They said no, so I lied and said I was spotting to get one. Sure enough, at my u/s it showed the baby had stopped growing at 8 weeks - exactly when I started to feel better. (I was 10 weeks) |
Posted By: Hayley18
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 12:52pm
| I was really excited when preg test was positive, as first baby was not really sure about symptoms. In hindsight they disappeared quite early but didnt suspect until no heartbeat at 12 wk scan. Bub had only reached 6 wks gestation, MC'd about two weeks later naturally. Next time around had early scan to check heartbeat for own peace of mind. |
Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 1:39pm
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It's hard to tell with mine, I went to get the pg confirmed at the docs and had a negative test there so the doc did hcg tests, when the result came back as only 30 I was hoping all would turn out well but really didn't see how it could, 2 days later I had more hcg done and it had only risen to 42 so I was pretty resigned to the fact that it just wasn't going to happen. I'm not sure if those feelings would have been there had I not had the hcg tests done. I did however feel different and more positive when pregnant with Kyle and although scared I never really thought anything would go wrong (if that makes sense).
I think the worst thing about my mc was knowing that things weren't right and weren't going to be right but the waiting and the testing and the scanning etc that had to be done. I do sometimes wonder what if, but having said that the due date and also the anniversary of when I lost the baby have both passed without causing me any real upset. ------------- 
 
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Posted By: Hope
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 1:59pm
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I didn't know with my first pg, but looking back the tests were very faint indeed and got fainter....
Strangely DH wasn't really that excited with the first pg, but he was very relaxed and positive with the second (successful) preg even though I was in an absolute panic that it wasn't going to work out. |
Posted By: busybee
Date Posted: 09 April 2009 at 2:01pm
| I had a very strong sense about it. Although I had a 6 week scan with heartbeat and all there were many things that did not feel right to me. Especially the lack of symptoms and simply not feeling pregnant. And although I was incredibly sad when the scan confirmed it there was a certain relief. I am getting over it very quickly. I am still sad at what had happened but because of the bad vibes I had I am glad it is over and I can make a positive new start in a couple of months. |
Posted By: AN E
Date Posted: 11 April 2009 at 8:57pm
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I knew that my pregnancy wasn't right. I had tested at the docs and got a BFN (thought I was a few days late). But I really thought I was pregnant.
Then a week later HPT said BFP - I was excited, but like others have said - I didn't see me holding onto a baby at the end of it. One week later I was in surgery. NZPiper and Peanut - I also wondered if I 'willed' it. For some unknown reason, stories about ectopic pregnancies (even before I had a baby) always struck a chord with me. Unbeknown to me, I too would join those ranks. Maybe deep down I knew what was in my future. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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