Dummy help please
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Topic: Dummy help please
Posted By: peanut butter
Subject: Dummy help please
Date Posted: 03 March 2009 at 1:24pm
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Tom still has a dummy for sleeping. this isnt a huge issue for me as he is a great sleeper and if thats what it takes then so be it. We'll cross that bridge when it comes. But.....our problem is he drops his dummy down the side of his cot and then calls out for us. This has become somewhat of a game to him.
On Sunday, after 4 dummies met their fate, I warned him that if he did it again, he wouldnt get them back as "Mummy cant reach them". Ok, maybe he is too little to understand. He did it again! So I went in and told him I couldnt reach them and that he would have to go to sleep without them. Well!!! We had crying for 2 hours!!!!
I went in and cuddled and patted him, explained that he was a big boy and could do it. Mummy was still there etc. Nothing helped! In the end I had to "find" another one for him, leaving the originals under the bed. He was asleep in seconds and then a very subdued boy after that. I felt awful. Especially so when I discovered 2 molars the next day.
However. That night, he got his dummy for bed and what did he do? Threw it down the back of his cot...Grrrr!!!! Stern words from Daddy and he was ok. Yesterday nap was great...no prob. Last night, problems again.
Now he has been in bed for 1hr20 and no sleep (he was tired and normally falls asleep in minutes). The dummy has been thrwon down so many times. He is now trying to pull things off the wall.
HELP!!!! any ideas???? do I need to toughen up? I feel like I may have gone too far the other day by let him cry for 2 hours ( I was with him a lot of that as I decided it was the dummy he wasnt allowed, not mummy). |
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Posted By: Glow
Date Posted: 03 March 2009 at 1:49pm
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Gah!
Have you tried taping it to his mouth  Or a dummy strap?------------- Mummy of Two Boys B: 2004 K: 2007 |
Posted By: arohanui
Date Posted: 03 March 2009 at 1:54pm
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I think it's amazing how much toddlers can understand at that age - if it was me I'd probably persevere with the 'if you throw it down, I won't get it back for you' thing. Hmmm.... Harry was like that when he wanted to change his sleep pattern, is it like Tom just isn't as tired as he used to be?
Ooooo also I thought of this which might help with the teething thing - I wonder if it's teething that's bothering him and he's getting annoyed with the dummy cos it doesn't stop it hurting. Actually I read something the other day that said that sucking on dummies can bring the blood to the surface of the gums which makes it hurt more. Can't remember where I read that, but thought it was interesting cos we also give Harry a dummy for sleeps. Anyway here's the link for that teething thing http://www.scarecrowfarm.co.nz/index1.html - Teethifier ------------- Mama to DS1 (5 years), DS2 (3 years) and... http://alterna-tickers.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 03 March 2009 at 2:00pm
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Thats interesting about the dummy and teething. I dont think thats the problem. I just think Tom thinks its funny to drop it down the side and get mum in. As soon as I look in the door he says "Suckeeeeeee" with such an angelic look and points to where it is...grrrrr!!! (sucky is his name for it as we didnt like calling it a dummy)
I am pretty sure he knows what I am on about as he understands so much more than I give him credit for. I guess we just keep working at it.
I thought maybe I should do the same thing super nanny does with them getting out of bed and cut down my interaction with him each time until I am just going in, replacing dummy and thats it.
Maybe its time to bite the bullet and ditch it all together. |
Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 03 March 2009 at 2:22pm
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Ethan does the same thing and when you take him outta bed he will swing his arm and chuck it ...so far we just put it back as he used to do it a lot but now not so often..looking forward to any replies.. ! ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: tishy
Date Posted: 03 March 2009 at 3:22pm
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Eimear does this as well. She would do it for attention seeking and would be 'worse' when she is teething.
We use the tommee tippee dummies and until recently they had no straps that would fit them but we bought some a few weeks ago that fit them and aren't too long to be a hazard. It has been bliss in this house since 
It'll be interesting to see how it goes for the next teething round as she gets very clingy. |
Posted By: Chickaboo
Date Posted: 03 March 2009 at 8:18pm
I used Dummy holder (straped) for Rhyley when he did this - I also if he threw that as well - leave him for 10 minutes to figure out what he had done - longer if the first 10 mnutes didn't work and threw again. He did grow out of it and now we have just got rid of the dummy for good.. like you it was great cause he was such a good sleeper I didn't want to rock the boat and spoil that = as it is he does wake probably half hour earlier but sleeps just as good after day 3 of no dummy  ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: Babe
Date Posted: 18 March 2009 at 12:50pm
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I can hear Jakes dummy when it hits the wall/floor/table/cupboard (whatever is in the way) and purposely ignore it. I don't go in and he gets bored so most often settles down by himself. If he sees me though OMG thats it!! So yeah no way no how does he get it back unless hes been crying for 20 minutes minimum without us going in. Then we go in, pop his dummy in, tuck him in and leave without saying a word. Its a brilliant strategy (thankyou supernanny!!!!!) which I highly recommend! -------------   
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Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 18 March 2009 at 1:00pm
| thanks babe, that might work. We have been hvaing a better run lately. he got some stern words from daddy a few times. hung his head down and all. DH was trying not to laugh. Come to think of it we havent had it dropped (on purpose) for a while and we know when it was by accident as he suddenly loses the plot and hysterically cries saying "dropped it". |