We’ve ditched the dummy-it’s so hard tho!
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Topic: We’ve ditched the dummy-it’s so hard tho!
Posted By: Two Blondinis
Subject: We’ve ditched the dummy-it’s so hard tho!
Date Posted: 26 May 2008 at 1:31pm
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Saturday morning we did the Dummy Fairy thing and put the dummies out in the post box and explained to her that she's a big girl now in undies so doesn't need her "Nummy" anymore. All was fine, she gave the bag a kiss and said "byebye" and we made a big deal over what a big girl she was and how proud we were etc.
She asked for her nummy a few hours later and I asked her if she remembered where they had gone and she said "outside...gone! byebye nummies" Then at bedtime we had 2 hours of full on crying (but she only asked for her dummy once  )
She woke once at 2am and after half an hour of crying I took her back to our bed. We had the same problem with her afternoon nap yesterday and DH ended up driving for over an hour to get her to sleep (even though we knew she was tired as she was falling asleep in the car on the way home from swimming class). Last night was better (probably because that mean dummy stealing mummy was out with Auntie Emma  ) but she managed to get out of bed, over the safety rail thingy and get under the cot looking for a dummy (they used to fall down the side and she obvioulsy remembered me getting under the cot to get them) - all this was whilst she was in her sleeping bag! 
I think we all got about 3 hours sleep last night as nothing we did was helping. I tried just sitting there cuddling her and she was using all her force to push me away (so heart breaking!) I really don't want to go back on the dummy thing for 2 reasons. I don't want her to think we lied to her and just took them away to be mean and I also don't want to have put her through 2 nights of unconsoleable upset for nothing 
I hate seeing her like this, it reminded me of when she was tiny and had colic it was that kind of never-ending crying
What do I do now?!?!? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
 
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 26 May 2008 at 1:42pm
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Stick with it, hun, it will get better. Did dummy fairy bring a toy? ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 26 May 2008 at 1:42pm
hang in there hun i was relly lucky that james self weaned at 1 of his dummy but this bottle biss is hard soo hang in there keep reminding her that the dummy fariys have taken it away and she will be fine ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 26 May 2008 at 1:46pm
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I've found that any changes that Michaela gets upset over usually take about 3 days for her to settle into them and then it's clean sailing.
Good luck, I hope things improve for you soon. -------------  
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Posted By: Two Blondinis
Date Posted: 26 May 2008 at 2:03pm
No - mean aye! 
Would rather not resort to bribery (for want of a better word). We didn't do anything with the TTing either, just lots of praise, kisses & cuddles. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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fattartsrock wrote:Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 26 May 2008 at 2:11pm
Not mean at all! ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 26 May 2008 at 3:30pm
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Our dummy fairy returned a parcel to the mailbox for Hannah - it wasnt for bribery or whatever, more as a replacement for the dummy. She only had her dummy at bedtime, so Upsy Daisy took that place. Good luck, you've hopefully got over the worst of it now. ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: Shorty
Date Posted: 26 May 2008 at 3:37pm
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I was going to suggest what Aimeejoy had, not as bibery but as a kind jester.
Good luck, I am sure you will be able to work through it in the next couple of days.....here is hoping for more sleep tonight! |
Posted By: CuriousG
Date Posted: 26 May 2008 at 3:55pm
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Good luck with it Toni, we are still having ours, if I mention that we are going to give it to the dummy fairy, she cries hard out and I can't stand it!
We decided to just let her continue to have them at home or in the car as its her comfort blanket type thing. We have been told she will grow out of it, but who knows when!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 26 May 2008 at 4:07pm
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Ooh good luck Toni! Hang in there, it should get a bit easier with each night that passes.
I agree with Jo, my kids seem to run on the rule of 3 too. It took about that long for Ella to sleep through after we ditched her dummy. I'm dreading getting rid of Benjy's. All of a sudden he is madly in love with them and wants them all the time, even though they've only been for sleeping for ages now ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 26 May 2008 at 4:12pm
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Oh I meant to say, with Ella we started using Mog for comfort in place of the dummy. When she'd cry for the dummy we'd snuggle her back down with Mog and use that as her cue for sleep.
It wasn't a bribe or anything, Mog had been around for ages and just happened to be in her bed on the night we started. The attachment has lasted though, she still sleeps with her  ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and:
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 26 May 2008 at 4:15pm
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Big hugs Toni and Miss C, change is hard!
I agree tho, hang in there, the worst should be just about over and if you give in then you'll eventually end up back at square one again. I must admit to having a wee giggle at her climbing under her bed to look for it, she's such a clever wee thing! -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 26 May 2008 at 5:40pm
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Sorry I haven't got any bright ideas, hope you have a breakthrough soon!
------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 26 May 2008 at 6:06pm
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Yeah no suggestions here either but I hope you manage to stick with it without having to go through these bad nights too long.
I remember seeing the whole concept on Supernanny where they gave the dummies to the dummy fairy and in return they were given a small gift (much like the tooth fairy gives money for teeth). |
Posted By: baalamb
Date Posted: 26 May 2008 at 6:55pm
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Sounds like you did a great job! Stick with it though, those crying nights will not last long. Is she getting any new teeth do you think? Maybe that, coinciding with the no dummy is making her more clingy/more overtired/prone to crying? *shrug* hope she cheers up for you soon!
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Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 27 May 2008 at 3:49pm
Oh Bribery is a parents best friend 
Rhyley still got his and i am no where near taking it off him. Its not hurting anyone as he only has it for bed and in the car sometimes. So no magic cure here but now that you have started i would say stick to your guns they do eventually relieze they don't need it. ------------- Ann 
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: Deez
Date Posted: 27 May 2008 at 3:57pm
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Oh hugs girl..not much help here Lycan gave the dummy up when he got his first tooth.
I say just stick with it now you have started no point giving in and confusing her....eventually she will understand she doesn't need it. -------------  
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Posted By: Two Blondinis
Date Posted: 27 May 2008 at 8:22pm
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well it turns out that the big tanty was due to her wanting to sleep on the floor like they do at daycare
Ever since I took her change table down (over a year ago) I change her on a thin foam mattress that was for her travel cot. She pulled this out from behind the wardrobe, laid down on that and said "nun night Mummy" she didn't ask for her dummy at all 
We are back to bedtime routine of 20 minutes **does celebratory dance around the room**  ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 27 May 2008 at 8:26pm
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YAY Awesome!! That girl sure knows what she wants! haha
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 27 May 2008 at 8:31pm
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Go Caitlin! Stubborn wee monkey! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 27 May 2008 at 8:40pm
 ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 27 May 2008 at 9:00pm
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Hehe, how funny!
Yay for ditching the dummy!! ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and:
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Posted By: Two Blondinis
Date Posted: 27 May 2008 at 9:16pm
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do you think it would have been easier if we had taken it away after her colic was sorted? That's the only reason we gave it to her in the first place #2 can forget about any dummy ideas (unless he/she has colic too) ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: fairsk8
Date Posted: 27 May 2008 at 9:31pm
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Well done to you!! I am gearing up to approach this with Xanda now that his grommets are in.
So is she now sleeping on the floor? ------------- http://www.bump-and-beyond.com/"> 
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 28 May 2008 at 7:36am
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goo caitlin ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 28 May 2008 at 9:18am
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Ha ha! Good work Caitlin ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: Two Blondinis
Date Posted: 29 May 2008 at 9:52pm
NO!  She's been in our bed almost every night this week and crying so much that she falls asleep exhausted
What have I done!??!?!?!? ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 30 May 2008 at 8:20am
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its ok hun your doing a great job have you thought about induring a cuddly for night time/sleeps james has a few but they work to keep him calm on happens to be his feather sword lol just think like i do if you give up now it will be harder next time big hugs hun i know its hard to see your baby soo upsett but hang in there ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: Two Blondinis
Date Posted: 31 May 2008 at 9:35am
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she has a few bears she is fond of but none are allowed in her bed at night time - she just biffs them all on the floor lol
She woke for about 10 mins at 9pm last night and she didn't want me to touch her at all or "shhh" her she just screamed "NOOOOO NOOOO!" at me
So I just sat with her and she eventually went back to sleep. Perhaps I do just leave her to it? I'm not into CIO methods as I get more upset ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 01 June 2008 at 8:26am
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she seems to be getting better toni these toddlers are hard work i hate the cio methed too but sometimes they wont let you cuddle them and with james when hes like that i leave him to it he will clam down a lot quicker if i leave him to it lol ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: Two Blondinis
Date Posted: 01 June 2008 at 9:17pm
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she woke a couple of times last night and settled herself back to sleep after a couple of whinges, then slept in until 7.30am
We've moved her bedtime from 7pm to 8pm and it seems to be working. When we were out shopping today she even told a lady "no more nummy - nummy for tiny bubbas... I big girl, me knicky noos" *with very serious matter of fact face* Knicky Noos aka knickers/undies
I'm so proud ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: FionaS
Date Posted: 02 June 2008 at 1:34pm
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Wow that is a very very long sentence!
How does shopping go for you ATM, we tried today and it was disasterous. (threadjack lol) ------------- Mummy to Gabrielle and Ashley |