I want my mojo back!
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Topic: I want my mojo back!
Posted By: kebakat
Subject: I want my mojo back!
Date Posted: 18 May 2008 at 6:05pm
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Ever since my ectopic I haven't wanted sex. I *think* we have done it twice since. So averaging once a month.
DH is understanding though I know he's getting a bit frustrated at the lack of bedroom action but he won't tell me that and he knows why it is. I just seriously have no sex drive and this is well very weird for me. I don't want it and I don't trust protection. My GP advised not going on the pill if we want to ttc in Sept so it doesn't mess with my hormones. So trying to use 2 lots of protection (pill and condoms) at once isn't going to work. Embarassing as it is I'm finding myself doing those cliche type excuses for not wanting it. I read in the evening to wind down before bed and cause I enjoy it and he will come in and cuddle up suggesting with body language what he would like and I don't respond back, don't want to and just want to go to sleep so he settles with cuddles. *sigh* How do I get my mojo back? 
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 18 May 2008 at 6:55pm
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Don't know sorry but while you're looking can you find mine too??
Lost it about 2 yrs and 9 months ago...   ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 18 May 2008 at 7:23pm
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Is it cos you are worried about getting pg again before you are meant to? Not sure what to do if that is the prob, but otherwise I would just say make yourself do it, as awful as that sounds, the more you do it the more you want it. Good luck. ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 18 May 2008 at 8:01pm
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What about getting it back with other means?
Massage Smart Balls Sex Toys in general Maybe don't jump in and do it try other things first and see where it takes you. ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 18 May 2008 at 8:41pm
Mine too, lol. ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
newmum wrote:Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 18 May 2008 at 9:26pm
Mine three. I actually had to rack my brain to work out when exactly we conceived this baby coz for a while there it was looking like an immaculate conception Turns out we did do it once...
I agree with Mel tho, if your biggest concern is not getting pregnant, can you try "other things" that don't neccessarily lead to pregnancy? That way you can still have a bit of intimacy in your relationship. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
 (02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 19 May 2008 at 8:41am
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What I'm hearing is that you want to want sex. Do you feel sexy?
Maybe you could splurge on yourself a bit so you feel sexy and that may get you back in the right frame of mind. Here are some ideas for feeling sexy that you can try over the course of a few days or a few weeks. Ideas for feeling sexy: * Get a new hairdo and a makeover (this doesn't need to be expensive look for free makeup consultations at department stores and pop into a generic hairdresser) * Take up yoga (seriously - with some of those positions you can't help but think about having sex) * Buy some new lingerie (or even a cute nightie if funds are tight) * Have a long soak in a hot fragrant bath (with the lights off and candles lit, a glass of bubbly & a box of chocs close at hand). Lush have some gorgeous bubble bars slices that will make you feel fab - try french kiss or their sex bomb bath ballistic. * Have a pedicure/manicure If nothing else at least by treating yourself you'll look, smell and feel great and by the sounds of things you've had a rough time and really need to treat yourself. -------------  
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