To pillow or not to pillow?
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Topic: To pillow or not to pillow?
Posted By: mum2paris
Subject: To pillow or not to pillow?
Date Posted: 15 May 2008 at 8:43am
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Ok, here we go, Paris moved into a big girl bed at 11 months, and at about 14 months we introduced a pillow (trapped underneath the bottom sheet so no suffocation could ensue)
Here's our dilema: Ayja, has been in a cot, a convertible cot, and since about 15 months we have asked her if she would like a pillow. We have always gotten the reply of "no thankyou, no pillow" or something to that effect. Finally about 5 days ago she decided she'd like to try one... and of course not having any suitable spare pillows, a grabbed a small square flat cushion (you know those inserts for home made ones you buy from spotlight) and put it in a pillowcase. She has used that, and liked it, and seemingly actually slept better having something nice to snuggle into - as opposed to turning upside down in her bed, bunching her sheets up like a pillow and sleeping that way - which is how we had often found her previously. So, of course, wanting to be humane, and get her a real pillow, no just a dolly-size pitiful excuse for a pillow, we went out yesterday and got her a normal one, made from the same stuff, the same thickness, just a little more pillow-shaped. Within an hour when i went to check on her, it was on the floor. I went to put it back and was told she hated it, she didn't want a pillow. Ok, so i left her to go back to sleep. I then snuck in there before i went to bed, and again asked her, to which i was told no. So i went and got the 'ol faithful little tiny pitiful pillow again, and snuck that under her head while she was asleep. this morning, both are on the floor. I asked her and she said that nope- she didn't want a pillow, NOT EVEN the tiny little one. AT ALL. She reckons that "when she's a big girl like Paris, she'll have a pillow" She's 10 days away from being 3, I feel horrible for the fact that up until this point (not that it's my choice) she hasn't had one. We have people visit and say "doesn't she have a pillow?" as if i am a mean mum who won't give her one! Do i push the issue? or do i give her time. I mean it doesn't bother me too much, just the fact that she sleeps better with one and is obviously more rested. Have i left it too late to really try and introduce one? and also, is there any damage to be done etc by her not having one? stupid dilema i know any ideas? ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 15 May 2008 at 8:51am
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Leave it I'd say. If she's happy without that's fine. I'm pretty sure that no pillow is almost better for your back (don't quote me on that though, lol).
I'm sure she'll want one some day.  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 15 May 2008 at 9:57am
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theres more damage to necks from pillows as opposed to the other way round... ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: FionaS
Date Posted: 15 May 2008 at 10:03am
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Ditto what the others have said. Don't they tend to move all over the bed anyway or has that stopped by 3? ------------- Mummy to Gabrielle and Ashley |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 15 May 2008 at 10:18am
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see that's the thing.. until now she's always beena kid who moves around and ends up sleeping with her head on her soft toys or her cluddly blankets all scrunched up. when she had the little pillow, we'd go to check her and she'd be lying on it, still in her blankets, nice and still and not restlessly sleeping like usual.. hence why we though "YAY!" . I dunno if she's just being her usual stubborn self calling the shots, or what. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: KH25
Date Posted: 15 May 2008 at 11:29am
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What if you put the pillow under the bottom sheet again, and maybe not mention it to her. She won't be able to throw it out and maybe wouldn't even really notice but it would be nice and comfy??? ------------- Kelly, mum to DD, 19Jun06 (26wks 1lb15oz) DS1, 24Oct10 (32wks 4lb11oz) and DS2, 31Dec11 (32wks, 4lb11) http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 15 May 2008 at 11:33am
| I hate pillows,..I do ahve one but only ever sleep on the very edge of it,...,millions of people in the owrld dont use them, and dont have funny necks! Lol! |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 15 May 2008 at 11:54am
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I'm thinking you've hit the nail on the head with the stubborn part!
But I wouldn't worry too much, they tend to change their minds more often than they change their knickers at that age anyway so who knows what she'll want this time next week. Maya's big thing atm is sleeping in her sleeping bag, World War III here last night when she wet it and I told her she had to have a duvet instead. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 15 May 2008 at 11:57am
| I wouldn't think not having a pillow would make much of a difference? I'd just let her do what she wants. |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 15 May 2008 at 12:24pm
Zaara's had a pillow since she was 1 and a bit but it is one of those really thin ones and she loves it. But occationally likes our pillow. Every child is different, she is right when she is as big as Paris she will have one!! Clever wee girl!!  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 15 May 2008 at 9:07pm
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jack has had a pillow ever since he moved into a big bed at 2yrs. but in saying that, he very rarely uses it. he snuggles down in his bed until he's away from the pillow and lies on his teddy ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: SMoody
Date Posted: 17 May 2008 at 1:49pm
I really wont worry about it. if it is due to people making you feel like crap just put one on the bed. No need for them not to know she doesnt sleep with one.  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 17 May 2008 at 5:10pm
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Is the new pillow too bulky? Swap it with a flat one of yours!! Then just leave it at the end of the bed or somewhere accessible and I'm sure she'll go to it in time. Relax, Janine LOL - probably what you say to mums every day ------------- |