2 questions - Monsters & playdates
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Topic: 2 questions - Monsters & playdates
Posted By: my2angels
Subject: 2 questions - Monsters & playdates
Date Posted: 11 April 2008 at 9:42pm
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I thought I would just do one post so hopefully you wise ladise can help me.
First up is monsters, Kobe has started thinking there are monsters in his room. Do I go along with the monsters theory and just say its ok mummy will tell them to go away etc.. or do I say there are no such things as monsters. which is the best way to handle it? Secondly playdates. There is a wee boy at preschool and he has asked heaps if kobe can come play at his house. his mum and i have spoken and they came to kobes party so i know she is a lovely normal lady but she has offered to pick him up from preschool and take her to thier house then me pick him up after work but im really not comfortable with this. I have no idea where they live (ok obviously i would find out) but i have no idea what the home life is like or what the rest of the family is like. Thing is Ive had a couple of other ladies from preschool who came with their kids to kobes party ask me if we can arrange a play date and along the same lines. is it normal for this to start happening at 4yrs old and am i just being over protective? So far Ive just said thanks but kobe is a bit shy about going to peoples houses so could we make it a weekend so i can come to at least for the first time. Am I being silly? TIA |
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Posted By: katie1
Date Posted: 11 April 2008 at 9:52pm
| Am not sure about the monsters one sorry but I definitely agree with you on the playdates. I think you are being really sensible - I would feel exactly the same. It is all probably fine but why take any chances. I think the way you handled it is awesome. The way you worded it is still polite and friendly but gives you a chance to make sure both you and Kobe are comfortable at someone elses house. Good on you. I don't think you are being silly at all. |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 11 April 2008 at 10:03pm
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Monsters not sure as Andrew has had bears and alsorts in his room and they are friendly to him. Playdates; depends on how you feel. I have had a few kids over from preschool and I picked them up from there and then their parents came and picked them up. That started late last year, but the boys had been in daycare together since 5 months and us (parents) had gotten to know each other over that time so they weren't strangers. I think the weekend thing to start with would be a good start. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 11 April 2008 at 11:33pm
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I ditto katie1 -------------  |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 12 April 2008 at 7:09am
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ditto with the weekend. Jake hads a wee friend Neo - we went to his birthday last week and jake desperately wants Neo to ome and play. i said yes, but during the holidays. I've talked to his mum and they are both oming over at some point. Maybe later they an visit independantly, but not just yet.
as for monsters. when there is a monster in Jake's room we yell "go away monster" and reminds ourselves that monsters are just pretend. bit difficult when books have monsters (albeit friendly ones) and so do boks. |
Posted By: gemsmum
Date Posted: 12 April 2008 at 8:35am
One piece of advice I've heard about the monster thing is that you get a spray bottle with water in and tell them it's monster spray, to get rid of monsters. Supposed to help cos they have some way of dealing with it. I've never had to try it, although our dd did have a skeleton family living under her bed for a while (its ok cos the baby skeleton shared her bed and they were all quite friendly  ).
As for the playdates - at 4 I would've dealt with it the same as you. Well done. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 12 April 2008 at 1:55pm
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I'm not really sure of a solid answer for either of these because my D's not been through this yet but a couple of suggestions anyway.
Monsters: Why don't you get out the DVD Monsters Inc? He might decide that the 'monsters' are friendly. My niece was totally scared of spiders and the germs from the toilet duck add which she called spiders. She had a pretend spider in her room that would freak her out at night time so my sister made her believe that the imaginary spider was nice. Playdate: It sounds like you don't know the mum very well so I would suggest that the first couple of playdates at Kobe's friends house include you staying for coffee until it's time to leave. Once you know the mum a bit better and feel comfortable then you cn leave Kobe in her care and reciprocate every now and then. -------------  
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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 12 April 2008 at 9:44pm
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thanks everyone, im glad im not being silly and overprotective.
I thought about the monster spray stuff but the only thing i thought bout that is am i then enabling the whole being afraid of monsters thing. |
Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 13 April 2008 at 10:18am
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can't help you on the monsters thing robyn.....maybe try the spray and see what happens. if he's already afraid of them, then he's going to be now matter how you try and tell him not to be. so i don't think you are enabling it at all IYKWIM?
playdates....i wouldn't let my kids go on a playdate without knowing the person properly first either.....in saying that, jack has been asking about kobe for a while now, want to come over for a playdate one weekend?  ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 13 April 2008 at 11:39am
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hmmm but i already know your house is dogdy hehe!
Kobe keeps wanting ot play with Jack to so we should arrange something soon |