feel like a bad mother this week
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Topic: feel like a bad mother this week
Posted By: Kazzle
Subject: feel like a bad mother this week
Date Posted: 13 March 2008 at 7:59am
It just seems at every turn all i am doing is yelling at miss Rhiannon, and yes i know there are times that she purposly pushes my buttons to see how i will react, but twice this week she has reduced me to tears.
I also know that i am due for af in a couple of days, but im not normally this bitchy (and normally when i have pms everyone gets its and im just grumpy) but i seem to be losing it at Rhiannon and no one else.
I love my daughter but this week i have just wanted off this ride, I so badly want to give her a little brother or sister but when i have days/weeks like this i sometimes wonder if im making the right choice. There just seems to be something in the air as a few of us have wanted off this ride this week. I know i am a good mum and Rhiannon knows i love her (i tell her a dozen times a day) and i know she loves me...but man does it have to be so hard.
edited to add: that her teething/runny nose/cough and not sleeping through the night isnt helping either...especially when she only wants mummy, so while Kent gets to sleep through in her bed, im stuck with a wriggling, coughing, grumpy, crying toddler... *Starts to chant, i love being a mum and all its ups and downs and today is going to be a better day  *------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 13 March 2008 at 8:14am
awww hun we all have thoses days big hugs ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 13 March 2008 at 8:21am
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Whoa back up the truck, lady - don't doubt yourself there! Youre a FABULOUS mum and we all nut off from time to time, when you combine broken sleep, grizzling, the constant trouble-making that toddlers get into, and the fact that you can teach and teach them all day and still at the end of the day they're trying the same naughty moves... who's not gonna be a grumpy mum every now and then?! Add to that that TTC is an emotional time, PMS can bring out the inner cow in most of us, and you've had a far more draining and heartbreaking TTC journey than most people go through - well, Kaz - go easy on yourself. Does Rhainnon have a day nap? Lets hope like crazy that she makes a good effort of it today and you go grab some choc, a book, and ignore the housework for the day. If you really can't, you really can't, but whether you get a wee rest or not - remember you're doing an amazing job and a toddler will drive even the strongest woman to the edge of sanity every now and then! ------------- Andie |
Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 13 March 2008 at 8:40am
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awww thanks Andie, i know you didnt mean to make me cry but im so emotional at the moment...i forgot to add our house goes on the market on the 25th March, so have that stress as well. Yeap rhi will have a sleep today, after we get back from going for a walk around the mall, i thought i might go buy a soccer ball, so we can kick it around this afternoon, and tonight when daddy gets home we are going to do some baking together. oh and amongst all this, when rhi has a sleep im going to have a nana nap myself. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 13 March 2008 at 8:43am
| Where is that hugs thread????? Off to bounce it for you...you need it hun! |
Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 13 March 2008 at 8:49am
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thanks hun, feeling a bit calmer this morning, have had a shower with rhiannon and she is playing quietly on the floor, and making loads of mess, but i just cant be bothered with it all...lol
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Posted By: Jay_R
Date Posted: 13 March 2008 at 11:20am
Awww Kaz you poor darling, big hugs to you 
I second what the others have said - you are a brilliant mum, and regardless of how you are feeling right now you will continue to be a brilliant mum. You will be ok petal - get some sleep. Things always look rosier after a bit of sleep
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Posted By: The_Stuarts
Date Posted: 13 March 2008 at 12:02pm
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Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 13 March 2008 at 5:14pm
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OMG 1 more hour to go till Kent is home, and he already knows he is walking into a bombsite...no dinner is prepared, Rhiannon is as grumpy as hell, as she refused to sleep, nothing i have tried today has made her happy...we have tried
Playdough drawing music going for a walk going to the park dishes bath...so at 6pm i officially quit being a mother, and at 6.30pm Kent is taking rhiannon to the park for an hour so i can tidy up this place...how the hell am i going to keep it tidy once the house goes on the market is beyond me at the moment... *takes a deep breath, as Rhiannon is sitting on the floor packing a tantrum, saying "NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO " at the top of her voice* Yah for tomorrow being friday as i can drop her off at mums and go out...might take myself off to hte movies or something ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: EmDee
Date Posted: 13 March 2008 at 8:20pm
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Kaz, I'm glad you are getting some 'you' time tomorrow and I second that you are a great mum, unfortunately going through a harrowing/emotional journey at the moment.
And I understand about having a stroppy toddler, I had to send myself to time out this afternoon or I may have snapped. Ollie came and got me after only 10 minutes though, I was so looking forward to the other 19! ------------- DS 8 DD 6 DS 4 DD 2 |
Posted By: ooEvaoo
Date Posted: 15 March 2008 at 10:04pm
Im glad to see I'm not the only one at the end of my tether this week. I have just spent the last 3 hours....yes 3 hours trying to get Kahtrell to sleep!!. I feel so bad because I'm constantly telling him to lie down and go to sleep and as time gets on my temper gets shorter and shorter..and it doesn't help that no one else in this house will help me, through that whole ordeal tonight his father was passed out on the bed. I just feel like punching the crap outta a punching bag at the moment thats how fustrated I am feeling at the moment. I know I don't really follow a bedtime routine so I guess that contributes to the mucking around when I put him in his cot. But my patience is wearing really thin, especially now that I'm studying and so it seems I'm having to stay up past midnight to get everything done studywise as well as the house work. I sometimes just want to opt out of my life altogether. What can I do  ------------- 
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Posted By: The_Stuarts
Date Posted: 17 March 2008 at 8:04am
Oh no! Sounds like you had a really crappy night of it. I think you need to kick some a*s and get your DH to help look after Kahtrell at night time too. I know it's hard if he's working and tired from that but it's not an excuse, I started working fulltime when Michaela was 5 months old and I still looked after her in the evenings. You're probably right about the routine too. We had an unorganised/relaxed routine until Michaela was 10 months old and she was similar - taking hours to go to sleep and waking up several times in the night. Once I decided on our routine it took me 3 days to get her used to it and I couldn't beleive how easy it was and that I hadn't done it sooner. Not only did she learn to self settle in the evening but she also started sleeping through the night - woohoo. I hope the rest of your weekend was better. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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