disciplining when out
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Topic: disciplining when out
Posted By: lizzle
Subject: disciplining when out
Date Posted: 27 December 2007 at 8:28pm
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how do you discipline your kids when they misbehave while you are out? Taine threw the hugest tantrum today in woolworths - cause we drove past his nanas house and didn't stop. usually we would put him in his room til he calmed down, but of course that is impossible in Woolworths. So we ignored him.
jake does something similar where he will refuse to move. we move on and he waves and says "bye mum". Often i will just disappoear and wait for him to catch up, but lately concerned strangers keep talking to him, so I have to go back. have tried delayed time out - but to tell the truth, I have usually forgotten the crime by the time we get back. Often just resort to bribery "be a good boy and you can have an ice cream". am aware this is probably not the best resort. Any ideas? |
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Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 27 December 2007 at 10:04pm
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oh man it sucks doesnt it. Mine is usually a direct result of fighting. I make them sit in a corner of the shop and cry (i dont care) while i finish my shopping. doesnt happen very often anymore they know im not afraid... tee hee ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 27 December 2007 at 10:10pm
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If we are at someone's home I will sit the kid (i.e. Briona lol) in the corner and stand up against them facing the rest of the room and keep talking etc - for a minute just as if she was in the bathroom etc. If we are in a shop sometimes she is confined to the trolley for a minute or other such thing she is not happy for. Most of the time I use distraction. We were having trouble today and I just knew that she was tired, so I told her 'one more thing and then we're going back to the van for a lollipop' - nothing like a bribe hehe -------------  |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 27 December 2007 at 10:40pm
it's not bribery Teresa, it's giving incentives to be good. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 28 December 2007 at 8:17am
I tryyyy so hard to use preventative techniques when out and about so I don't have to deal with it. But the other day I had to put Han in time out in the playground. Just sat her against a fence away from all the stuff and she screamed the whole time  .
I do cut her a bit more slack when we are out as usually her bad behaviour is the result of being tired or hungry so usually my fault 
But yeah, tantrums I just leave her to it until I can gently persuade her to come with me and give her a quiet talking to about "appropriate behaviour" |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 28 December 2007 at 10:10am
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Hannah will jsut sit down randomly too in shops if she doesnt get what she wants. I used to pick her up and just go, but now I cant pick her up I just start to walk off and boy does she follow me fast - I am learning to ignore the horrified looks of strangers at me walking away from my screaming child!!
I personally dont think theres anything wrong with a bit of material persuasion when you are out, as long as its not all the time. Hannah hates sitting in the trolleys now, but if I say she can get a lolly for sitting still the whole time, she is like a little angel! Also agree about it usually being my fault cos shes tired, bored or whatever. ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |