Emotional Wreck
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Topic: Emotional Wreck
Posted By: faewie
Subject: Emotional Wreck
Date Posted: 26 October 2005 at 10:13pm
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Hey there team,
Im a bit worried, Im a mess sometimes, I get snappy at my partner over stupid ridiculous things,,, Ive always been firey but over the last month ive been nutz. Im really worried about what i may be like further along in my pregnancy, im only 15wks! my poor boy puts up with my crap but its not fair, i get into a state and cant get out of it. I dont do anything i just say horrid stuff. maybe i need help, golly i dont know MUH! thanx for listening  ------------- http://www.snugglepie.com"> 
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 26 October 2005 at 10:20pm
It gets better... and then worse again, hee hee hee, just the pregnancy hormones sweetie!!   ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 26 October 2005 at 10:31pm
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Sorry, but Ana's right! I just told Nathaniel it was his fault for knocking me up... we'd laugh, and then the moment had passed! ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: faewie
Date Posted: 26 October 2005 at 10:52pm
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damn hormones! lol
when i was away last week i asked tim what he was getting up to after work and he said he was gunna catch up with a friend of ours who is a girl and like a dang sister but i got insanely jealous i just could not believe how jealous i was it surprised me! but i told him exactly how i felt and why, i could recognise it see, then the feeling went away then i laughed at myself for being such an egg! krayzeeness  ------------- http://www.snugglepie.com">
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 27 October 2005 at 1:04am
i think 2e've all been there! I dropped two eggs and lewis' made a joke. I yelled at him and then cried in the toilet.....
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Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 27 October 2005 at 8:14am
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I know excatly how you feel, in the past week my husband has begun to wonder where has his normally calm and rational wife has gone and who is this stroppy women who burst into tears at the slightest raised voice or soppy thing on tv and of course there has been the snapping his head off everytime he looked at me the wrong way.
Our poor husbands/partners really do have to put up with a lot from us, my husband actually said to me he thought when i got pregnant that he would have nine months of me being PMS free....boy did i laugh. So dont worry about it, it does go, just give your lovely partner a hug and tell him you love him and all will be well. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: lou
Date Posted: 27 October 2005 at 8:14am
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The first trimester I was a total mess, and I mean total mess. I thought I was going to loose it completly, but around 15 weeks things improved. I think it's around then the placenta takes over making alot of the hormones. I still have moments but it's not too bad ------------- Mother to two beautiful children - Sophie age 6 and Ephraim age 4 |
Posted By: preggy_sunflower
Date Posted: 27 October 2005 at 8:49am
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I'm so with you guys on this! I've been a blubbering, growly, over sensitive mess these last two months! Everything makes me cry! I've even done the whole get jealous and suspicious thing when Jono has been late home from work.... "where were you, who were you with, there were GIRLS there?????" What a munter! It's getting a bit better, but he still has moments when I catch him looking at me like "who on earth are you????"!! ------------- Joshua Hadynn - Born 3 May 2006 |
Posted By: HelenElla
Date Posted: 27 October 2005 at 8:54am
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I'm the same! Usually I'm not a snappy person at all but in the past week or two I've been what I believe is a nightmare to live with. I'll be happy one minute then crying the next. Last night I had a craving for a choc sundae and was soo sore I just decided to go without, then Josh said he would go and get me one, I snapped at him and told him not too and ended up crying because I felt guilty that he had to go out of his way for me. Anyway he kissed me goodbye and went to get one while I was shouting and crying for him not to go. By the time he got back I had calmed down and apologised a lot but I still don't know how he can put up with me sometimes!
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 27 October 2005 at 10:26am
hee hee hee hee to tell you the truth I am like that sometiomes now still!! I think it is the tiredness, when it just gets too much I kinda flip out!!  ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 27 October 2005 at 11:52am
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I can't imagine you being like that Ana! You are too sweet!!! Lucky your hubby adores you huh?
I remember being a completely intolerant nasty flatmate to my house buddy. It sucks because he was the best flatmate in the world but I was so damn irritable!!! Made a lot of sense when I finally discovered I was pregnant! (It kinda scares me how much I ignored all my pregnancy symptoms. Ahh so naive!) |
Posted By: AnnaD
Date Posted: 27 October 2005 at 12:17pm
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Haha! It seems that we've all been there... I was HORRID while pregnant, I used to cry during the evening news (andy wouldn't let me watch it after a while) and growl at shop attendants who tried to talk to me, and poor Andy, I am surprised he stuck around at all!!
The BEST thing ever is evening primrose oil, i still take it now to 'regulate hormonal imbalances'... It is fab! Calmed me right down! Get some from the pharmacy!! ------------- Anna and Quinn 10 July 2004 www.quinnariki.blogspot.com and one more on the way.... http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: preggy_sunflower
Date Posted: 27 October 2005 at 12:27pm
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I'm so getting some of that!! Funny you mention about crying during the news - I've been howling at any mention of anything to do with the earthquakes, the gang wars in South Auckland, anything at all really! And GRUMPY!! I pity the person who has to deal with me when in one of my moods.... not lovely! I'm normally pretty cruisy so it's funny to see friends faces when I get psycho over the butter being on the wrong shelf or some such major issue!!! ------------- Joshua Hadynn - Born 3 May 2006 |
Posted By: 98765
Date Posted: 27 October 2005 at 1:15pm
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We just moved and my cat disappeared for a day and i spent the whole day crying he came back and then i cried some more cos i was so happy ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: gollymolly
Date Posted: 27 October 2005 at 1:22pm
Count me in, Im so grumpy and growly and negative I am sick of hearing myself groan and moan. I always snap at my husband and my 11 year old. I feel really terrible afterwards but it just seems to fall out of my mouth. I was so upset the other day I said the f word to my husband without realizing my soon to be 3 year old was standing there. We had just finished telling her the week before that we dont say those kind of words after she came home from daycare saying it. I nearly died when I heard her say to her daddy, 'what did mummy say??" I am usually such a calm and happy person that even im getting sick of myself.  ------------- http://www.snugglepie.com"> 
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Posted By: AnnaD
Date Posted: 27 October 2005 at 5:27pm
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The best was when I would get so mad at Andy that I'd yell at him and start crying, then twenty minutes later i would feel so bad for yelling at him that I would cry again 'cause i had been so mean! The poor man was baffled!
I really think I cried for about eight months of my nine month pregnancy... ------------- Anna and Quinn 10 July 2004 www.quinnariki.blogspot.com and one more on the way.... http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: k&jsmum
Date Posted: 27 October 2005 at 7:35pm
sorry cant offer any advice - i cant remember back that far - mummys memory lol. hope you feel better soon and sending you happy thoughts ------------- Marlene Keegan ~ 14 October 2003 Jaidyn ~ 14 October 2003 |
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 27 October 2005 at 7:47pm
My funniest hormonal problem was that I couldn't watch Blues Clues with Kiya - it made me cry!  ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: faewie
Date Posted: 27 October 2005 at 11:33pm
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lol, i cried watching blues clues this morning (i love it lol i bought myself a plush blue toy ) and steve was going off to college, it was so sad! i love steve! lol
Its nice to know that im normal! lol. Our poor partners though! they put up with alot of cwrap from us... aw thats beautiful. lol, thats LURVE ------------- http://www.snugglepie.com">
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 28 October 2005 at 8:09am
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The first time I saw that one with Steve going off to college, I bawled and bawled. Kiya was looking at me funny, so I had to pull myself together. Here I am, a grown woman, crying over a kids tv show and my then 3yo was laughing at me! ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: HelenElla
Date Posted: 28 October 2005 at 8:32am
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Yesterday I was sooo upset mostly because I'm in a lot of pain, anyway I spent all morning crying then I pulled myself together enough to go to the midwife and as soon as she asked me how I was I started sobbing again. Then after hearing they couldn't do much for me with the pain I came home and continued to cry. My midwife rang while I was crying to give me an appointment time and I was such a mess she ended up coming round to try and cheer me up. She is such a lovely midwife! I never want to cry like that again, I felt so out of control it was horrible
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 28 October 2005 at 1:32pm
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Aww Helen... It should be over soon right???
Can the midwife not even do a sweep or anything??? Hope things get a bit better with the physio |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 28 October 2005 at 1:38pm
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oh poor you!! I hope baby comes very soon for you!! ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: HelenElla
Date Posted: 28 October 2005 at 3:48pm
Since bubs is happy and relaxed they don't want to rush it along Sometimes it does just seem like everything is so focused on bubs they don't stop to think of the mother. I've had a scan and bubs is a good size and is happy and healthy I don't see why they don't stop and realise that if I continue to get no sleep and am too sore to relax then I'm not going to have the energy to cope with labour or a newborn. They should do a sweep or something to help me go into labour before I end up completely burnt out.
About the only positive they told me is that they won't let me go anymore than 14days overdue!  14days is forever when I have been having contractions for the past few weeks!
Oh well I guess it's an excuse to continue to eat chocolate
Worst case senario- 19days to go! 
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Posted By: mumstheword
Date Posted: 31 October 2005 at 1:12pm
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oh i so know how everybody feels, i was an emotional wreck at the start, crying over everything and snapping at apoor andrew all the time, and in hospital id just sit in my room and cry without even knowing why??? ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: preggy_sunflower
Date Posted: 31 October 2005 at 1:18pm
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You poor thing Helen Keep being strong, you are doing so well. Not too long to go now, and think of how wonderful it will be when your baby is in your arms. Thinking of you ------------- Joshua Hadynn - Born 3 May 2006 |
Posted By: faewie
Date Posted: 31 October 2005 at 1:38pm
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aw helen! sending soul hugs your way ------------- http://www.snugglepie.com">
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 31 October 2005 at 2:31pm
| wow judith. you must have been good recently, baby is staying put. how are YOU feeling? |
Posted By: mumstheword
Date Posted: 31 October 2005 at 9:34pm
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ME.. im feeling like crap, ive so had enough of pregnancy, i can hardly walk as baby is sitting so low now, ive been having contractions that put me into hosp, where i just cried all the time. my whole body hurts and I cant wait to get to sleep for more than 5mins, but bubs is still inside happy as so as long as she is happy she can stay put as long as she wants, wish is killing me, but we all do whats best for our lil ones... Im just hoping that it dosnt go on for 6wks like Caleb.. Im an emotional wreck at the moment, I feel like a terrible mum as I cant hold babys long enough, im so scared she is going to be sick like Caleb, i knew I was going to have a prem, and I thought emotionally I was going to be able to cope but with every contraction I wonder if I mad ethe right choice by wanting 1 more baby, was i being selfish?? is it fair to the baby, If she is sick like Caleb I know its going to kill tear me up inside, im just hoping she stays put for a couple more weeks to give her a better chance. maybe its just the preg hormones but i feel like such a falier at the moment.. Any way enough moaning, apart from all that, I am good and babys happy and growing ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 31 October 2005 at 9:46pm
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Don't be too hard on yourself Judith! You've done so well to get this far, and I'm sure baby will stay put for a few weeks yet. You must be under a huge amount of pressure with all the pain, as well as the hormones, and the stress of worrying about baby.
31 weeks is doing so well tho. I know 2 ladies who had their babies at 33 weeks and they only needed 1-2 weeks in hospital and were fit and healthy, so I'm sure your little girl will be fine. Hang in there, we're thinking of you! -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
 (02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: mumstheword
Date Posted: 31 October 2005 at 10:08pm
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thanks heaps, yeah im hoping we dont have to stay in hospital to long, its just that I had to stay for 2 and a bit months in the neo nats with Caleb then he came home on oxygen for 8mnths, and its been 5yrs since I did that and its only just hitting home how hard it was to ope back then.. im kinda freaking out I think, end of pregnancy over kill well over think way to much, i think time numbed my experince with Caleb and this preg is making reality hit home again... ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 01 November 2005 at 7:56am
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Judith - you are doing soooo well!!! Hang in there! Are you back home now?? ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: HelenElla
Date Posted: 01 November 2005 at 11:16am
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Judith you are doing really well and you are in know way selfish for wanting another baby. I'm sure your little girl will be just fine. We are thinking of you.
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Posted By: mumstheword
Date Posted: 02 November 2005 at 4:00pm
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yeah im home for now, i hate being in the hospital its just so depreesing.... ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: AnnaD
Date Posted: 03 November 2005 at 8:54am
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Judith... you are definitely NOT selfish for wanting another baby!! It is so hard for youat the moment but once you have your little one it will all be worthwhile. I hope that you are ok and being well looked after... I have a wee thing that I always tell myself when i get down and bad and that is that whatever is getting me down is temporary. It must be so hard at the moment but it won't be hard forever!
Best wishes!! ------------- Anna and Quinn 10 July 2004 www.quinnariki.blogspot.com and one more on the way.... http://lilypie.com">
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