Rooming in?
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Topic: Rooming in?
Posted By: HelenElla
Subject: Rooming in?
Date Posted: 12 October 2005 at 10:57am
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I've heard people talking about rooming in with the new bubs but I'm not really sure why or what advantages it has other than not having to walk so far for those many night feeds. I slept with Chloe in my room for the first 4months and I found it hard emotionally when I finally had to move her into her own room.
Does anybody know why rooming in is so important and how long should I do it for? |
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Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 12 October 2005 at 11:09am
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I think its just for ease. I never roomed in with either of mine apart from in hospital. Dont think they are emotionally scarred and i didnt like all the snuffles etc babies make. I value my sleep, and am just one of those people that think that if babies are in the same room as mum they can smell your milk and wake up more often for feeds. Both my girls slept through from an early age (except i had to wake jayde for feeds at night for a long time, as it was the only way i could get her to feed). Anyway thats why I didnt room in. But each to their own. Do whatever you feel comfortable with. And what you think would best suit you and your baby. ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: bridgetbird
Date Posted: 12 October 2005 at 11:42am
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Everyone / everywhere does it diffrently. I agree with Angelnz - do it how you feel best with. In Sweden the baby stays with Mum and Dad in the same room up to 1 year - Swedish Friends of mine tell me thats it works out just fine..goodness knows you had better not be loud love makers!!!
What ever you decide will be best, and you will know if its not - the maternal instinct if very strong. Just believe in in yourself. |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 12 October 2005 at 11:44am
| we had to share a room with jake as our apartment only had one bedroom. Because of ...well, ican't remember now, e moved our bed into the lounge when jake was about 6 months old. he didn't sleep through the night til then. i honestly think we were waking him up!! This time, i'd like b2 to have it's own room, but we'll see. |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 12 October 2005 at 12:54pm
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Maya shared a room with me out of neccesity when she was tiny (we didn't have a spare room) but when I moved when she was 5 mths she went into her own room without any probs. Next time round bubs would probably go straight into his/her own room as we have plenty of space where we are now. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 12 October 2005 at 1:55pm
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jack slept in a bassinet next to me until he was about 12wks. he was always a good sleeper and only woke for feeds every 4hrs. from 6wks he was sleeping right through, but he was such a tiny baby i didn't feel comfortable putting him in a cot. when he did go into his cot, there were no probs.
i guess, being a first time mum, i liked the fact i could look at him and check he was ok without having to get up and go into his room. i'll prob be a little bit more relaxed with the next one. ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: toniellis
Date Posted: 12 October 2005 at 3:22pm
I only had Alex in our room for a week or two and the only reason was so I didn't have to go far to feed him at night. After that I put him in his own room because I found that I was waking up to every little noise he made even though he wasn't waking up. So off he went so I could get proper sleep. He also started sleeping through the night at 6 weeks old which was awesome  ------------- Mum to Alex (11), Blaire (10) & Erika (8) and Damien (6) Successful HWB VBA2Cs! Soon to be surrogate |
Posted By: Xander&Harmony
Date Posted: 12 October 2005 at 3:59pm
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I had Xander in with us for about the first 3-4 mnths due to him being a winter baby,i moved him when he started sleeping thru the night. harmony was also a winter baby so she roomed in with us till she strated sleeping thru also,around 3mnths old. Do wot u feel comftable doing and good luck. ------------- BECS http://www.sparklee.com"> 
Angel Baby 10/07/09 (10wks4days) |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 12 October 2005 at 4:08pm
We had paris in with us till she was 7 months old - simply because i kept pushing the date back and back that i would move her - i liked the idea that she was close to me and apparently it does help the bonding process.. and as Maria said baby may wake more often for feeds - helping breastfeeding, lol or hindering your sleep - whichever way you see it. Hospitals use it as a way to facilitate the bonding process and help breastfeeding but i think it is probably most important in those first few days and weeks and once things have settled into a nice pattern then i see no reason that it would make any difference where baby is.. for most it's because it's easier to heat one room only instead of two - others do it for reassurance that baby's fine. Some babys sleep more soundly with mum near, or some just wake constantly because parents might be noisy sleepers. Ayja will be in with us for possibly longer than Paris simply because there is no room in paris's bedroom to put a cot and we aren't moving any time soon - unless a gorgeous cheap bigger house becomes available (lolol, do they even exist?) I think at least until Ayja is sleeping reasonable hours through the night consistantly she will stay in our room - one child to deal with in the middle of the night is more than enough for me. i certainly don't need Ayja waking up paris or vice versa------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 12 October 2005 at 11:13pm
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I sleep in "Hannah's" room and it is driving me nuts.
It was great for the first couple of months because I could just grab her when she woke in the morning and feed her. Now however it sucks. If I'm too noisy going to bed then I wake her (only happens once every couple of months) but most of all it is bad during the day time as I can't put washing away etc which I usually fold while she is asleep. (altho usually I don't even get that far!!) by the time she wakes up I forget about the washing and next thing she is pulling it all out of the basket. Right. Whole lotta rambling. That has absolutely nothing to do with your question sorry!!!! I just can't wait to get my own room! |
Posted By: HelenElla
Date Posted: 13 October 2005 at 11:28am
| Thanks for the advice, after reading all that I think I'll have bubs in my room a least for the first week before putting him/her into the room next to ours. Chloe didn't sleep very well for a long time and thinking back I was probably getting up to every little noise. |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 13 October 2005 at 12:50pm
Gosh we are putting the baby straight in to her room in the cot....I know I will get up every half and hour to check on her.....but her room is opposit ours and I dont think it will be a problem....but you never know??!! I might have to go and get a bassinet or move her cot in our room...hmmmmm  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 13 October 2005 at 5:46pm
Roksana, I am just going to see how I feel when we come home. I think at the moment I want it in its own room - just down the hall - but we'll see how things go.  ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: 98765
Date Posted: 13 October 2005 at 8:32pm
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This is probably a stupid question but I want baby in our room so whats the deal with sex do you wait til bubs is not in the room or is that the last thing on your mind. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: 98765
Date Posted: 13 October 2005 at 8:36pm
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Oh yeah and on the news the other day it said babys that sleep in parents room but not in the same bed have a smaller chance of cot death but I don't know how long they r spose to sleep in the same room for ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Xander&Harmony
Date Posted: 13 October 2005 at 9:35pm
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Honestly in the first month(at least) it was the last thing on my mind (sex) because I was getting used to midnight 4am wake up calls and also post-partum bleeding.I remember the first time after I had Xander I was sooooo sscared cos I had to have stitches and my perinium had swollen majorly during his birth,that I think I kinda just lay there thinking God I hope I dont tear lol. Sorry if this is TMI and am not freaking u out ------------- BECS http://www.sparklee.com">
Angel Baby 10/07/09 (10wks4days) |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 13 October 2005 at 11:07pm
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as for sex, the baby honestly won't care or notice, but it is a little off-putting. baby watching won't hurt them, but may make things a little uncomfortable for you!!
if you want bubs to have their own room, but are really worried about cot death, there are special baby monitors you can get that monitor breathing i think. i never had one, but i think others on the site may have. |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 14 October 2005 at 9:36am
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You can also buy safe T sleep (to prevent cot death)and they are pretty good I hear. If you go to their site they have a video demo of the product....
I think I wouldnt feel very comfortable having as they say "relations" (he he ha ha) while baby is in the room....But as I said I want her in her own room from day one. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: toniellis
Date Posted: 14 October 2005 at 10:22am
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You just have to do what feels right for you as far as your room or its own room. I was positive that we were going to have Alex in our room for about 6 months but once he was at home it was not ideal hence why he ended up in his own room.
In saying that, he wasn't in his room every night, when he was going through growth spurts & teething he wouldn't sleep unless he was in with us & we had him in bed with us. My doctor said as long as I was comfortable doing that then it was fine because I'm not a smoker, and Alex always slept on my side. As for "relations" (as Roksana so nicely put it!  ) well we were back into that after a couple of weeks.
We have done it when Alex was there in the room but most of the time tried to avoid it. It was really weird having our son in the room while doing the deed. Spencer used to laugh & say "he has to learn how to do it sometime so he might as well learn from a pro!"  ------------- Mum to Alex (11), Blaire (10) & Erika (8) and Damien (6) Successful HWB VBA2Cs! Soon to be surrogate |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 14 October 2005 at 10:52am
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LOL.....If we were having a boy, I bet my hubby would say that too. But I have a feeling that my hubby will be a bit more careful since it is a girl!
He said she was not allowed to date till she is 30.... ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 14 October 2005 at 11:06am
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ROFL, Believe me, the first 4 weeks at least I was so exhausted by the time I got to bed it was the last thing on my mind!!
Joey slept in our room until he was 5 weeks old and we only moved him because he got to big for his carry cot. I think you will know what to do when you get home with bubs. Everyone is different. We have had Joey sleeping in our bed the past 3 nights because of the scares we have had in the past few days. But he is back into his room tonight! I am sick of having one square cm to sleep on It is nice having him with us though.------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 14 October 2005 at 9:43pm
Hrmmm... is it wrong that Zeke sleeps in my room and he isn't Hans Dad? 
I think if he had a choice he wouldn't be there with Han in the same room, but he knows he isn't going to get any otherwise 
I'm just going to cling to the fact that she is asleep and too young to know. |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 14 October 2005 at 10:57pm
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it's so very very wrong Nikki!!!
Nah!!!!! It's fine. she won't remember a thing. i wander around naked in front of Jake all the time...it'll be a few years before the emotional scarring will happen |
Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 15 October 2005 at 9:19am
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hee hee she will be scarred for life. ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 15 October 2005 at 2:47pm
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Maya rolls on the floor in hysterics when she sees me naked - "You're such a rudie Mama"! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 15 October 2005 at 3:58pm
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Alyssa tells me i have a big puku. Lovely child. This morning i told her her and Jayde made my stretch marks and made my belly go all saggy when they were inside it. She said "Im not going back". I dont think she quite understood. Probably thought i was going to eat her. ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: mumstheword
Date Posted: 15 October 2005 at 6:21pm
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ha ha caleb says he made mummys stripes.. Caleb shared my room until around 9mnths.. the 1st 2 mnths he was in hospital so we didnt share a room... but we moved back to my mums when he camw home as I ouldnt do it on my own because of the big oxygen bottle we had to lug around, When we moved out he had his own room, but I had a baby moniter so I ould hear him and also he had an apnea??(sp) monitor theat picked up his breathing and when it couldnt pick up any breathing it alarmed like a smoke detector going off, he never stopped breathing but sumtimes breathed to shallow for it to pik up, made me a nervous wreck.. im not sure about this lil one comingif shes fine shell prob be in a bassinet in our rm till she sleeps threw the night, so she dosnt wake caleb during the night, and im going to express andme and andrew will do a nite on each for night feeds and he has trouble using his feet when half awake and would prob walk herinto a wall..lol ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 18 October 2005 at 10:48am
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LOL Maria, sometimes I threaten to put Maya back when she is being a ratbag!
We tell 'tiny Maya' stories about when she was a baby, and she loves watching 'Tiny Maya' videos of her as a baby too. I have told her that tiny Maya was in Mama's tummy but I don't think she really gets it. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 18 October 2005 at 11:03am
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If being in the same room when you and your partner are having sex scars your kids at such a young age, I shudder to think what's going to happen to Kiya now!
Sorry if this is TMI, but Nathaniel and I have, shall we say, really enjoyed "relating" to each other twice last week while Kiya was in the room - the first time, she was playing with Josiah on my side of the bed, the second she'd made a hut under some blankets and was playing beside the bed, although she did come out to ask "Are you okay, Mummy?" ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 18 October 2005 at 11:05am
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As far as the original topic goes, Kiya and I shared a room at first - but only until I moved out of home when she was 6 months old. Josiah has been in his own room from the start. ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: HelenElla
Date Posted: 20 October 2005 at 4:55pm
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I just don't think I could stand the idea of having sex with Chloe in the room, I must admit though my hormones have been going a little nuts so I will occasionally put Hi5 on for Chloe while we go back to bed for some um. . .quality time
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 20 October 2005 at 5:12pm
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I've trying to convince my hubby to do the deed all afternoon! The doc told him today that it may speed things along, so hopefully he will listen to her! ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: HelenElla
Date Posted: 20 October 2005 at 9:10pm
We tried that a few nights ago after a long walk. I ended up having really painful contractions randomly through the night but by 6am they stopped I was so disapointed
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 20 October 2005 at 9:29pm
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Well, managed to convince him - took a bit of persuasion! But I dont think its done much, who knows. ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 21 October 2005 at 9:21am
Man you guys are lucky ...my man just wont budge.....stubborn Indian Male!!!
I think the fact that I had so many bleeding episodes and now that the baby is down below he seems to think that he is some how going to hurt her....... ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 21 October 2005 at 9:43am
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Just tell him that one of the other Oh Baby mums bled more than you, and her boy turned out fine!
Well, it's worth a shot, isn't it? ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 21 October 2005 at 9:46am
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yap I think it is....may be tonight!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 21 October 2005 at 9:56am
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You go, girl! ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 21 October 2005 at 10:09am
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LMAO _ Enjoy it - it might be the last time in a while... Actually if you tell him that too he might be more willing... ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 21 October 2005 at 10:58am
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Roksana, you may have to take things into your own hands - if you know what I mean! Hope its not too much information, but thats what I had to do and he was not going to say no after that!!! ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 21 October 2005 at 11:49am
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lolol you crafty lady Aimmee. he he he.
Mike was so happy that had got some the night i went into labour - cos he didn't get any for such a long time after that! ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 21 October 2005 at 12:55pm
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LOL Aimee......I will give it my best!!
Hubby knows that he wont get some for weeks to come but he is sooo good about it!.....self control I say....I dont think I have that...I blame it on hormones....He he ha ha ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 21 October 2005 at 1:07pm
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Think it may have worked too (to get things going), but hten maybe it was going to happen anyway! ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: HelenElla
Date Posted: 21 October 2005 at 9:54pm
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I've gone almost nutty when it comes to trying to bring on labour. We having been doing it morning noon and night but it's still not working. But to be honest if we continue like this everyday then mybe going overdue won't be so bad after all!
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